My husband slept with another woman!?

Marie

What in the world was he thinking? What kind of job does he have?With 5 kids does he even realize you can take his pants?He would not be so smart if he realized how much money he would have to pay in child support. He would not have finances to run off with the Jezebels in bars if his money was tied up paying you. If you don't want it to end...God bless you, you are a better woman than I am! He would not want to deal with a woman like me after that stunt! There is a lot to consider. What kind of role model do you want for your children? What is your financial situation? Could you make it on your own? Do you feel like he will do this again? (Most guys who cheat never stop) How do you know he has not picked up an std and brought it home to you? Is he heartbroken over how he hurt you? You need a to make a list of pros and cons. Every question you can possibly ask. If this is not what you want for your life, then move on girl! Women are finding mates these days even with 7 kids! There is someone who will stay faithful to you out there!If you are willing to forgive him and hang on to the hope that this will not happen again, go for it! No person has a right to tell you what is right for you. However, been there and kicked the cheater to the curb! I had three small boys! I found a faithful man the next go round, who was a good example for my children.

robsnor

He has got a lot of work to do in order for you to trust him again. it will take a long time if ever for him to regain your trust but you must work on it together. It is not worth throwing your marriage down the drain for 1 mistake. Think of your kids.

Letisha F

I don't think its going to be easy. It will take time to regain the trust you had for him. If you feel in your heart that he will not do it again then stay. But remember if you are going to forgive him you really need to forgive him. But don't forget. Let him know that if this happen again then you will end the marriage. Don't stay in a unhappy marriage, if you do it will effect your children. Maybe take some time for each other.

miss.d

follow your heart, tell him how you feel about that, i would leave him, but your different, you have five kids, and you really do love him, so follow your heart, and it will lead you the way, i wish you best of luck, and i hope everything will work the way you wish it to

Daniel M

That is really heartbreaking. I would want to know about how he "wound up" at the bars, and what he was thinking during that four hour drive to Reno. And how he expected you to react, and if you felt he was truly sorry.

bprice215

Time to tell him how he hurt you and that you haven't forgiven him for his having an affair. Talk to a councler if you think it will help you. Forgiving him will not come easy, but all is not lost. At least you are trying. Best of luck to you.

awp

I HAD AN AFFAIR TOO. AT THE TIME I DID IT I HAD PERSONAL PROBLEMS WITH MYSELF BUT DIDNT REALIZE IT. IT TOOK YEARS FOR MY WIFE TO FEEL BETTER ABOUT IT AND FORGIVE ME. IT TOOK TIME AND THINGS ARE OK FOR US. I SUGGEST GIVE HIM ONLY ONE MORE TRY BUT TO GO TO COUNSELING OR ITS OVER.

malanina

i don't know if you should forgive him and get over it..you have 5 children what makes him think this is ok?..if you forgive him then he will think it is ok and he will do it again..would he forgive you????

ben2pep

If you really love him then by all means forgive him and try to make a go of your marriage.

HoustonsFinest...TexasBaby..(:

once a cheater ..................................
''everyone at once''
................. always a cheater!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

katlvr125

I hate to tell you this but if you can't trust him then the marriage is over. Trust is part of a marriage

tree

leave his stupid ***

dorian S

I think that it all depends on you. If you can't take it then it's ok for you to divorce him, but if you can and it's going to take time then stay in it.

poptrash

Get rid of him!! if he cheats once and is forgiven he'll do it again

nanny2

you need to get him into counseling if you want your marriage to work.

archer

Did he sleep with her or commit adultery?

Lona

OOH SiiSTA!!! CHOP DAT MANS BALLS OFF YOO HURRD ME??

andrea_bazile

ok while im am not married yet and i have a boyfriend and i wish i owuld caught my man wit another woman i would just leave him 4 good and get a divorce and after da divorce is file and start back dating again and get wit someone that will wanted u 4 and u and ur kids and u cant trust him again cause he gonna 2 keeping on doing it if u let him and once a cheater always a cheater.

dnichole2006

you got to go with your heart but if you cant forgive him then it want be a happy marriage think about your kids.

cupcake

If you didn't have kids I would stay leave but because you do you all will need counseling. Don't let him continue to cheat though. You deserve better.

Richie

first of all get some birth control, then smack him upside his head
then forgive him and get on with your lives with that many kids you need him around.

bradosmom

That is a hard decision but he will probably do it again they usually do. can you make it with 5 children on your own? My husband cheated on me and after 4 yrs i still don't trust him. Your best bet is to leave but you have to make that decision.

AVA

He was wrong for doing what he did. Make it clear that if it ever happened again you will divorce him. From then on you will have to make a concerted effort not to throw it into his face everytime you argue. It is his job to help you with trust and he can do this by being where he says he is going to be and when. He must also give up the races and anything he did that provided him with the means to fool around in the first place. He should be willing to do this. It is going to take a long time for you to heal but it will happen if you really want it to.

coolguy

he just slept , so what, he didnt **** her

Raptor

What makes you think this was the only time???? Usually when we are doing something (anything) sneaky and low and hurtful behind another's back we aren't (almost never) caught the first time. The problem is not with you regardless of what the others say. If a man is a man, he will put his cards on the deck long before this crap starts. Work it out if at all possible, don't worry about the trust thing, 'cause nobody can completely trust another human being because we are human and thus imperfect. He may be an a--hole, but remember boys and girls, you are the ones who said "for better or worse" that wedding day. Time to step up to the plate and show you meant it. Go with your heart,hon,and good luck rat

six7foru

He really screwed you over by doing another woman like that. Well, all I can say is maybe seek some counseling, not just you either, it has to be both of you going . You will get through this, if he truly loves you, he will work hard to win back your love.
Move forward and everything will be better

MissChatea

Well lets see...YOU live in Modesto Cal or there about.
Middle Class neighborhood.
You have always been a valley girl. You love your kids.
You have given the family everything heart and soul..
You have two sisters one that is not married and one that is married~ the one that is married is to posh to speak with you on this and she tells you to leave him.

OK some of this I made up....I hope you know. But I can say I have walked in your shoes,,,,,,,,,,,I have been married for 17 years 4 kids and hes had an affair for 5 years..blamed myself for the reason why......

This is what I can share with you.. Find a church and a good friend who you can talk with about anything....Male or female as long as they are willing to be there through the long haul.

Organize your house. Make it the best place to live and be loved in..Not just for your kids but for your husband too.

Yes you can trust again~ but he has to be willing to earn it back it doesn't happen over night..If you really want it then he must earn it.

Be open to hear him~ Let everything that he did go~ For if you love him and I mean love him , you will focus on your family and putting the love you have into it and being positive parents and lovers together...Good luck to you.

75160

If you chose to stay in the marriage, then you have to not only forgive, but also forget. A marriage will not last if trust can not be found. Once you determine that you can stay in the marriage, you need to find out why he ended up at the bar and in bed with another woman. Find out what really sent him there and address that issue.

im lost come and find me

celibacy that will teach him his lesson

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