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Jim B
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Looking at your picture I can see that the devil made you do it. Explain to your husband that you want to have another exorcism and he'll probably give you second chance. |
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hickory_dock
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Maybe you should have thought about that before you cheated on him. Life is hard, and sometimes we make really bad decisions, that we inturn have to deal with the difficult consequences,.Either way, each situation we come upon should be taken as an expierience, and learn from it. Hopefully you've learned something... |
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fac3d
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you cant. the relationship is over from his side of things. |
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menolikey811
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i don't think that there is ANY reason you should cheat on you spouse. (anonymous) if he wasn't giving what you needed then you should have communicated that to him. if you fell in love with this other guy, then you should have told you spouse that yo no longer wanted to be with him and gone with the other guy. there is no reason for cheating. as for making it up to him, you can't. on his own and only on his own, he'll find it in his heart to forgive you or, he won't. good luck. |
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Greeny
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You cant. You have shattered the trust. |
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daveowenville
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Only he knows what it will take to regain his trust. Ask him, and really listen to his answer. It's likely that right now, his answer will be "nothing can make up for this", and if that's truly the way he feels, let him go and don't fight it. Also be prepared for an unwillingness to answer right away, or an answer that changes over time -- but all of those responses are reasonable, because you broke the trust in your relationship, and he doesn't know how to rebuild it, either.
That's because the only way is time. If he'll give you the time to prove you're a loyal wife worth trusting over the long term, you may have a shot; if not, then let it go -- and let this be a lesson to you about the consequences of your actions. |
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YourMomma
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He has to be willing to forgive you. Sometimes it is unmendable, only time will tell. In the meantime do everything in your power to show him you are truly sorry. |
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drinda_house
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once a cheater, always a cheater
give him a divorce & go look for another man, you wont find one. |
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Dre
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2 late u should have thought about that before u dropped ur pants! |
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Fariha
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According to me waht u did was completly wrong dear. Don't mind but one day u will realize it . Thanks |
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Lake Lover
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Did you get tested for STD's? Who knows what could crop up down the road, HIV, herpes, warts... ewwww... you compromised his safety with him being unaware of it. Sad. |
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*Martha* My Dear
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Uh huh....sure...like he's ever gonna believe you! Girl...you blew it! |
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ummmm well u cant make it up 2 him |
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JusMe
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You can't.
I wouldn't trust you ever again, once a cheater always a cheater.
You chose to do it so you chose your own future, without him. |
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dnnyo
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depends on who you cheated with,
if it was some dork maybe your hubby wouldn't feel threatened, like if it was some rich football star...
i actually considered this when my ex told me about an affair,
it turned out to be her boss, making it more complex.
i suggested we could stay together, but i get a free cheat, too
so we got divorced.
tell him you never realized how great he is (in bed) until you compared just out of curiosity,
maybe he will buy that story if he has some ego...
so, do you wanna do any more comparison shopping? |
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pitman L
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Good luck!!!!! Ask him how you can make it up! |
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RASUNA
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don't expect pardon for doing only once, if its only once per person, imagine how many billions chances you may take.
if your husband has slept only with you till date, then he deserves the divorce.
if not, you can discuss with him - forget and forgive each other folly, and carry on with your life. |
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ckgene
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You should have never done it even once. How insulting that you think because its not a habbit, you didn't really do anything that bad. Your a poor example of a wife, and if your husband has any pride left, he will dump you. |
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gonzalezleon3022
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Its hard to fix something like that.. You betrayed trust, honestly, and commitment. Not that that im making an excuse for why u did it, but maybe there was something lacking in your marriage, try talking to him and try giving him an explanation of the reason u did it and why u wont ever do it again. Tell him tou want to work things out and would go to marriage counseling. |
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boredatwork
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How can you make it up to him? Give him the divorce he wants. He doesn't want to be with you after what you did to him so why would you want to force him to stay, especially when you're getting your lovin' somewhere else. |
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tom_fchs
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spend a lot of time on your knees and treat him like a king for the next few months if you are serious, |
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Oenophile... (Lynn)
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If you haven't already, try to analyze why you slept with this other guy. Then try to talk to your husband and explain your reason(s) and let him know how truly sorry you are; that you love him and sincerely do not want your relationship to end.
Hopefully, your husband will at least be receptive enough to listen.
It will be like "walking on eggs" for a while and he may have outbursts of anger. Muster up your patience and bear it out. Things like this sometimes take quite a bit of time.
If, after a reasonable amount of time, he still can't seem to get over it, maybe you should consider counseling, if he will go along with it. If he will not consider counseling or won't even listen to you, maybe a period of separation would be best.
If your husband really loves you, he will come around. Like I said before, it may take some time. |
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shane892000
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offfer to have a 3some with him and another women. |
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beer_man
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Rent a gun and buy a bullet. |
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Martini Babee
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My best advice to you would be to stay away from him for awhile. Give him time to think about this and deal with what has happened. It's very hard to deal with someone both on your side and his, it really hurts. Both of you are hurting and only time will heal this. He may be afraid you are going to do this again, so many people do. Cheating hurts so much, I hate it.... it takes a long time to forgive, some people just can't. Take this as a lesson learned to never do this again to anyone whom you have a serious relationship with, it's too painful to each one involved. |
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forrealnews01
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You can't maybe marriage counseling but if i was the husband i would leave to marriage is about trust and being with ONE person you should be more stronger than that once a cheater always a cheater how does he not know that if he forgives you you will not do it again. |
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Lime Jelly ♫
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why did u do that? Are u having a affair? If u are then im not sure your husband should forgive u |
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Dawn S
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why in the hell did you sleep with another man. and its is right to want a divorce. do you really love him because you would not have done that |
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1hotmama
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I think that perhaps u could try telling him that u were temporarily unhappy. then go on 2 tell him that u needed 2 make sure that he was the one u wanted 2 be with. I dont think that'll work, but ur running outta options here honey. Now u need 2 start beggin. Lemme know wut happens, Good Luck |
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mikydotcom@btinternet.com
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The trust has gone from your hubbys point of view now,and whether you "don't plan to make a habit of it" or you do make a habit of it,(which you will,once a cheat-always a cheat,you have tasted that forbidden fruit,there is no stopping you now!),you should let him go and find some REAL happiness,with a REAL woman. You cannot possibly make it up to him,nothing in this world can help him with the hurt and agony he is going through. He must be strong and realise that there are decent women out there,not just the worn out old mattress's like you. Best of luck to him. |
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Shem
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Well if he wants a divorce, then give it to him.Can't stay in a relationship if one wants the marriage and the one doesn't...The trust is shot right now, Not saying it can't be built back up, because it can be..Being cheated on causes alot of emotional and physical pain..Some ppl can over come it and some can't..Good Luck |
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