My husband was fine,but then he turned 40 & changed completely.Anyone know what's up w/ 40 yr. old men?

jojo234

There comes a time in a mans life that he realizes that he isnt going to live forever, he can see that his time here in this life is getting shorter and shorter with each passing day. He see's that there are things he wants to accomplish and projects he wants to finish and if he doesnt do something soon those things will be lost forever.

There comes a time in a mans life when he looks into the mirror and he realizes that the young man he once was is no longer here , instead he finds a stranger looking back at him from the mirror, Someone with the unmistakeble look of age in their eyes, a hint of gray in their hair and a little sadness fills their heart as they wonder where the years have gone, as they wonder how time slipped by so fast and unnoticed.

There comes a time in a mans life when he realize's that he has most likely achieved all that he is going to in his life time, he has gone as far in life as he can. The dreams of a young man are soon to be gone, lost and forgotten. The time that has passed so slowely all these years is now passing by faster and faster, the end of his life comeing nearer and nearer.

There comes a time in a mans life when he makes one last desperate attempt to grab on to the things he thinks he has lost, one last attempt to have the things he thinks he has missed out on in life, one last attempt to achieve his dreams.

There comes a time in a mans life when he will either accept his life as it is and be happy and content with what he has achieved and what he has made out of his life OR he will go completely crazy and try to recapture the youthful life that he holds to tightly in his heart and mind, he will attempt to acheive those dreams, finish those uncompleted projects, make one last desperate attempt at holding on to his youth............ only to wake up one morning to discover something that he knew all along.................................. he will realize that he is just to damned old for this nonsense

lorus_900

I always wanted to be 40, so it worked for me. Others check into the "Milestone Clinic", suffer depression and work their way through it. Men aren't alone, some women I know got depressed at 30, some at 40, some at 50.

shaRT

He's probably just FEELING old.

Maybe try to get him to find a new hobby, like Nitro RC cars or something that will make him feel younger.

Perhaps, try to get him to do things you two were once interested in doing when you first met?

Get him to laugh a lot and help him snap out of it. ;)

Little Miss Sunshine

Mine is 40 and hasn't changed much. At first he started exercising and got a mini midlife crisis, but now he's snapped out of it. I think turning 40 just makes them think they are in midlife and need to do something exciting like travel more, have more fun, take better care of themselves, etc. They no longer can eat what they want without getting a beer gut, etc.

Jesika

It might be an early midlife crisis, or it might be other factors. If something in his life's been affecting him such as his job, that could influence him.

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Sounds like midlife crisis. Be more tolerant and good luck. :)

gjmb1960

this is a very suggestive question.

arent there any other reasons than his 40th birthday that made him change so completely ?

can you think of more clues ?

maybe you did change and think you see a complete remake of your husband.
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leona_blackwell

Mid life crisis

â™¥â™¥The Queen Has Spokenâ™¥â™¥

It's usually called a mid life crisis. It's partly mental and partly hormonal.

He realized he was old and probably not getting the attention from younger women now.

Amirra

Mid life crisis?

Major Move

Yep... Midlife Crisis!

He knows its all over from there...

Well actually it's not, but men think so. Called male Menopause.

He misses the younger days... tell him he is hot...lol.

Treat him the way you did when you first met.

jrhd97

He is around the age when mens testosterone levels fall. He may be having a mid life crisis. Ask him, many times the first leads to the second.

paperback_writer2003

Because all men crave significance. What's more, the first half of a man's life is spent trying to fulfill the expectations of others, while the second half of a man's life is spent trying to discover what he wants to do in life.

We face a dual standard in our society. Women can be esteemed for who they are, while men's sole source of value in this world comes from what they achieve.

Forty is an age when men suddenly realize that they're not going to make it to the top of their field, or that they're not going to sail around the world, or that they're not going to ever play on a world series team. And that really bothers them, especially when they feel harnessed to a dull 9-to-5 job that they must hang onto until retirement.

What's more, men know that their lifespan will be 7-10 years shorter than their spouses. So, at the age of 40, a man suddenly senses that time is running out for him, and he has a desire to suddenly take life for all its worth. It might be a sports car, it might be an affair, or it might be a sudden career change.

But it will happen. For men, whether its right or wrong, desperately need to shake off their previous life, so they can spend the second half of their life doing something interesting, rather than spend it performing meaningless drudge work.

Look Away, I'm Hideous

Mid life crises. Take him on a vacation. He'll be OK.

ruthaford_jive

I'm glad you asked actually. When a man reaches 40 there is this chemical in the brain that automatically activates, sending signals all the way back to the planet Mars where the Manly headquarters are. They in turn send instructions to make complete personality shifts so as to off balance the secret female agents from the planet Venus. See, there's a long standing intergalactic cooties war between males and females that most of the population know nothing about that has been raging for thousands of years.

justsayin...

Just a shift.As women, we tend to experience this as we approach our 30's.Mid 30's you reacha rhythm and its all good.Give him lots of ego boosting attention and a little time-he'll be ok.

áƒ¦Krissyáƒ¦

Mid life crises geesh I just turned 26 and had a hard time with it being so close to 30 sux imagine being so close too 50 or maybe he realized his age and thought to himself geesh I thought things would be so different by now ask him maybe he will tell you.

Deb W

It doesn't happen with all men, but some people - happens to women too - see that their life is passing them by, and they want to do more in life, have new experiences before it's too late. Mid-life crises can happen anywhere between 35-60.

wizjp

we're afraid it's getting away from us and we need a bit more TLC

crazylegs

Sadie I remember turning 30 and it being a very life changing time in my existance. At the time I put the earring back in my ear, grew my hair long once again and overall I suppose tried to relive my youth. However, we are not capable of turning back the hands on the clock regardless of how hard we try. Forty did not bring any type of change and I accepted it and 50 without any type of fanfare or problems but t isn't the same for all men. Just as women go through stages in their lives when they reach certain ages so do their male counterparts. A lot of the time it has to do with things that we missed doing and/or enjoyed doing when we were younger. Other times it may have to do with not wanting to be the mature person everyone expects us to be at these ages. But age in reality is truly just a number and how we react to the aging process is something individual to each of us. Best thing I would recommend is to sit down with your man and ask what it is in his life that is making him change. Point out to him things that you have observed and try to have an open minded and mature conversation. Best of luck to you both and much like everyone I do hope for both of your sakes that he outgrows this shortly.

Kyle

They think they have to prove something. Close your eyes and go into a deep freeze for the next 10 years, because he will commit the most unforgiveable of things, but then be sorry when he turns 50.

Pink Panther2 U

I'm over 40 and it changed me too...but in a good way. I now enjoy life more and appreciate things that use to go unnoticed. Life is short. What about him has changed? It would help if you were a bit more specific.

busymom4boyz

this is an age that is difficult for alot of men. It is the age where they see alot of men really into their carreers and getting that settled thing going on. Then they look at it as if they are not really that old but too old to be that young stunner he used to be. It is a case of middle age crisis they all go thorugh it. Just try to be supportive of him and encouraging in what he does as long as it is not something that is hurtful or harmful to you or your relationship. Sometimes this is when their ego needs the most stroking.

Not Guilty!

Yea, I changed too but probably the complete opposite way as your husband. I was a hell raising party and womanizing animal. Something changed in me around 40 I started to realize how immature and irresponsible my lifestyle was and decided to start acting my own age.

dottie

i think they start going backwards at that age. they act even more juvenile than usual. just ignore him that what i do with mine. Above all dont humour him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111111

The One That Got Away

Mid-life crisis... and possibly he's sick and tired of people in general and he's become bitter. I'm half his age and I already feel that way.

Malina M

This is a period in some men's lives where they are reassessing their life: goals, family, marriage, career, etc.... Sometimes they are satisfied with it and don't show much change; other times, they are unsatisfied and feel an intense pressure to change or make things right in their lives. It is commonly known as mid-life crisis, but it truly isn't a crisis. It is a transition. Women go through menopause and men go through this reassessment.

They also experience a dip in their testosterone just like women do with their estrogen/progesterone and testosterone. Be patient with him, talk with him, and show him extra special attention. Make him feel like he has/is doing great things and accomplishing things in his career and at home. Also, because of the decrease in testosterone, he may not feel the same in the bedroom. Try to spice it up a little and keep it interesting. That can actually bring his testosterone levels up and make the "crisis" a little easier to deal with. Sorry for the long winded answer! Good luck!

Princezz

Definitely mid-life crisis! I've known many who have, divorced,bought a sports car or motorcycle, changed their look, changed girlfriends or moved!

lesa

I am 30 and my husband is 41. He is set in his ways an refuse to change for anyone let alone for me. I think that when men get old they either just give up on life and quit caring or just settles in his ways.

ameeker

Sounds like a mid-life crisis. Watch the movie Wild Hogs.

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