My husbands never home always at his best friends house partying I know he is hanging out with girls what I do?

jude

if he is hanging out with girls and friends he really doesn't seem to want to be married, and is acting like someone who is free to do as he wishes. i would confront him, but he may leave when u do, because he sounds immature and not really wanting to be married.

Marina

go with him. Do you have kids? if you do, then it's really tough to go with him. If he's partying, his head isn't on you and the family, and if he's with girls it isn't either. File for separation and tell him to stay at his friends house until he wants to be part of the family. Do not threaten to leave him, just separate for a bit to shake the sugar tree, do you know what that means? It just means shake him up a bit and maybe he'll come back and have his head where it belongs. If he doesn't, you can decide what's next after that.

Brad V

Go out yourself. Why sit home alone?

Molly F

Wow. That's got to hurt. You have tenacity. I couldn't handle that. You need to have a heart to heart and ask him where he sees your marriage going. It sounds like he's lacking commitment and respect. That doesn't make for a good marriage. Marital counseling, could be greatly beneficial.

Bio hopeful

get on over there and have yourself a good time too

JEROME B

Sneak up on him and bust him and embarrass him...then start hanging out with guys..tee..heee..heeee

carol

Sweetie, you cannot maintain a relationship all by yourself. I can imagine how you feel being left alone all of the time while your husband is partying and hanging out with girls.
This is not good at all on your marriage and if it continues it could eventually lead him into something if one of these girls become attracted to him?
I would start setting up some boundaries here and limit the times that he hangs out at his best friends house.
If his friend is single over there he has nothing to lose so remind your husband of that.
I would try to make friends with other married couples where you can be a part of things along with him.
Your husband should want to spend more time with you than his buddy unless he goes there to mainly check out and socialize with the ladies?
Something would definitely have to change here because I would not wait around for him to put himself imto temptation and rip the rug out from under me.
He is married to you and your feelings should matter that he leaves you alone all of the time.
I believe that it's time to give your husband a wake up call if he doesn't want you to drop his clothes off in green trash bags at the next party for everyone to see.

Restless

My mom use to have this problem. So this is what she did for almost a month. She started hanging out like he did with her friends nothing to put her marriage in trouble just enough to rub it in his face so he would know how it felt! They would sit around her best friends house all night have wine and talk sometimes they would do dinner and movies ya know girl stuff. The point is every weekend starting Friday around 6 she would disappear the entire weekend come home late like he did get up early Saturday and stay gone all day. He started noticing after 3 weeks and then he would just be sitting at home waiting for her. She kept it going so long because she wanted him to know what it felt like sitting at home while your spouse is out doing god knows what by the end of the month my dad was home every night by 7 and they haven't had that problem anymore.

craig b

The issue is not whether you should join him or not.......the issue is:
"Is he doing what is righteous for your marriage?"

This is not about you. This is about the moral character of a man that is married. Is this what a married man is supposed to do to uphold his vows? It doesn't matter if you're in the picture or not. This is about integrity and truth.
Which it appears that your husband has none.
You feel "trashed" because your marriage is being trashed.
You can stay in it and accept it or you can leave it. You cannot change another person's behavior. That is up to THEM to change.
You are in control of yourself and you have two choices. Pick one.
Which ever you chose to do - tell your husband WHY you're going to do that.

10tolife

go and hangout with him
he wont mind.
if he does then you have a problem but untill he say no i dont want you to come then dont worry.

blusugabutterfly

Ask him if you could come along , but if it's just a guys night out then you should have a girls night out as well.It's normal for guys at a young age (even if they do have children) ,to like to go out and take a break from the family and just hang out with the guys sometimes.As far as him hanging out with girls is a matter of trust.Trust your instinct ,a female intuition is usualy right.If you suspect anything just ask him if you can meet them.The vibe you may get from them should tell you if you should worry or not.

blazing_fire

Put the hammer down, ask if you can go with him, or highly limit the amount in which he goes. Like say, once a week.
Tell him to invite his friends over to your house to hang out.

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