My man has a drug problem?

Soapbox

You should support him any way that you can, but it is really up to him to kick his habbit. You can only do so much.

Jeenie

Talk to him and having admit it, then you both seek help in centers like alcoholics anonimous or put him in rehab. MOst important you need to go to things like Alanon. because this can cause a sever damage to your selfsteem.

Jazzy, I Miss U Love!

Call the show Intervention on A&E.

kiss_me_cold_007

what kind of drug? if its weed, then I wouldn't worry too much about it, there are worse things for him to be doing. If its cocaine or worse, then he should seek treatment. You could always tell his family, or if your not comfortable with that, get your family/friends together and have an intervention. I used to be addicted to cocaine and didn't seek treatment, I just found it in myself to stop. Drug addicts usually have some other underlying problems that need to be delt with before they can stop using. I feel bad for you though, I know my friends and I have went through some stupid stuff for no good reasons. Hopefully he can see the error of his ways and see that it's not healthy and damaging relationships. If you can't deal with it, seek help for yourself. If he can't change his ways, leave him. Doesn't matter if you love him, it's what you can live with and can't live with that will effect YOUR happiness. Help him as much as you can, but think of yourself if all else fails. You deserve better and you shouldn't have to worry about someone else's problems. Give him an ultimatum and tell him that it's bothering you and give up or get out. Sometimes, just a reality check works for addicts, but sometimes not. Be prepared if he picks drugs over you. It happens. Don't hang around for all the emotional pain that you will go through if you decide to "give it another shot"..blah, blah, blah. If you allow him to use drugs when he is in a relationship with you, you are enabling him to use them. Don't waste your time and efforts on someone who won't give you what you need in life. If he picks you over the drugs, then be watchful and don't invest much emotionally in them until they have proven that they've been sober for at least a year. Once an addict, always an addict!! If you are willing to live with that, then good for you. If not, move on and think of yourself. Don't end up 40 years old and wasting your life trying to fix his, do what's best for you.

King Castellon

rehabb

tell him to let off the drugs or you are LEAVING!!!!!!!

beckley0578

First of all does he know he has a problem? If so then let him know exactly how you feel and then suggest that the problem get taken care of quickly..the more the problem persists the bigger the problem gets. If you can get him to go to a counselor (I know it sounds redundant), then I would go with him and let him know that you are there for him. But at the same time let him know the guidelines of your relationship. If he gets back of them ar does not stop them then he really doesn't need you that much!

Mongo

Get him into rehab. That is easier said than done. Confront him with others that he trusts present. There is strength in numbers. Before confronting him pick out what facility you will take him to so you can act fast if he is receptive.

some pplz children!

get him some help and be there for him every step of the way

Chuck T

Get him help , or course if he is not willing to get help then you must leave him...

madbaldscotsman

You need to ask about a class called "Codependant" or look for a book at the book store about that subject. I am serious. It will answer all your questions.

ice_aka_ice

send me his drugs

tinaturner

try going to drug classes with him.He needs to stay away from friends or family members who use.You can try handling all the money.when someone who does drugs have money they go and buy drugs.Get out the house with him and go to the movies,dinner,etc do positive things.Drinking is the #1 trigger to using drugs.

Mr nice guy 2U

and your question?

fireball226

see if he will go to rehab

Mary

you should support him if you love him. That is what he really needs

j t

when dealing with addiction you can only do so much. ultimately it is going to be up to your man to realize he has a problem and then do something about it. what you can do is help him realize he has a problem. If he already know he has a problem and is not willing to do anything about it then you are in a hard place. just be supportive and help him get the help he needs.

Sewage

The best thing would be to seek some professional counseling and support him through it, if ever there is a time of hardship remind him why he is quiting. I know what its like to get over that kind of problem, the best thing for him is professional help...

flyfish_777

You can only support him. Nothing else.

Just do the right thing, ALL THE TIME, no matter how hard it is, and everything will turn out well in the end.

He needs to adopt the same attitude and he will feel much better about himself.......

Who knows

What Kind of drug problem???

I think you need to sit down and talk to him about it and tell him how you feel... Remember he is the one who has the problem though and he is the only one who is going to change it... He is the one who has to want to do this though... Stand by him and tell him what is going on and how you feel... If he's not willing to change with in time maybe you should take a step back or make sure that he knows that... He may lose you if he doesn't change....

Devdude

Dont enable him. Make sure he has to live up to his own responsibilities. Dont call him in sick for work. Dont do more around the house. Its his problem to fight so dont make it easy for him to avoid fighting it.

shyla g

maybe u could tell him u love him and say that u want him 2 stop with his drug problem.

nora p

if he's woring to overcome his addiction that's one thing, but if he's in denial tell him to phuck off AND mean it!

lovergirl

take him to rehab

ronalee

If you are in love with this man you will be supportive to him. Remember though that people that use drugs lead a secretive life that even people that are close won't know about. They become very adept in hiding the drug use. If you confront them, they have no recourse but to lie about it. Don't put your man in this type of situation. Let him know that you will be there for him if he decides to get help and that he is not alone in his quest for recovery.

nickle

My question to you is: Does he , himself REALIZE he has a drug problem and has he "HIMSELF " asked for help, if so then you need to give him all the support you possibly can. If he has NOT recognized/realized he has a terrible drug problem then there is no sense in you or ANYONE else trying to help "PROVIDE" the help because it will NOT DO ANY GOOD. A drug addict, just like an Alcoholic must first hit bottom and finally recognize there is a real problem,and ask for help. It is a TOTAL waste of time/money for someone to try and help another when they are NOT ready to get help

Karen

You can't fix his problem.....You can stay and sink with him or you can walk away to have a better life......You gonna do what you want regardless of what we say but consider yourself warned!

Sorry this is not what you want to hear I'm sure but it's true.

xhopingxwithxisolationx

You should try to help him in any way possible. Tell him you want him to stop, its not healthy for him and its not healthy for you. make him get better. rehab is a possibility?

Frank L

get him help. if he doesn't want it, then threaten to leave because you will leave eventually and this is what he may need to get into rehab and stay there

Queenie knows it all.

Talk to him about it.
Tell him how much you love him, but that you're worried.

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