My man wont get a job. What should I do?

Foff

Finding the real reason is key.

The question you need to ask yourself is WHY he wonâ€™t get a job. Is he lacking education, motivation, or does he simply not care?? If he is lacking a degree to get the job he wants.....he needs to pursue his education to obtain a degree, BUT, he needs to get a job while going to school to supplement or offset those costs.
As for motivation, we all know pride is one of the most sinful things. If he is not motivated because he feels that certain jobs are beneath him, tell him that his pride is certainly not paying the bills.
And if he simply doesn't care....you know in your heart of hearts what to do. You can't do or say anything to change him. Then it's time for you to move on and set the best possible example for your children that YOU can.

Good luck to you!

CeciliaM

Yeah. Find a man who is willing to be responsible and get a job.

Your current man won't get a job, for whatever reason. Knowing that he has you and 4 kids and probably all sorts of expenses that go along with a family, he still won't get a job. You can't make him care enough to get one. He has to want that himself.

YOu have a choice here: continue to support him and your kids; or make an ultimatum that he get a job or you will leave (and then STICK to that - leave if he doesn't get a job), or just cut your losses and leave now.

Jani

Yes - kick him out.

I worked for almost a year, sending my son to private school, paying all the bills while my ex sat at home on the couch and did nothing. You're giving him a free ride. Kick him out on his butt and let him know he has to work just as hard as you to be a part of this family.

letterstoheather

Yes, dump him.. he is an added expense... you already have four kids, why support some adult bum?

Gather your dignity, and take care of YOU.

He's a leach.

cute_cuddly_tyger

Kick him out flat on his a$$

sheloves_dablues

Leave the kids at home and get your own job. And once you've got a couple bucks in the bank, pack up your kids and find a new place to live - without him...

AlenaT

yeah...leave him...if he doesn't work you have to take care of 4 kids...and you can get rid of the 5th one...your man :-)

callawak2

Nothing. You decided to have 4 kids with a man who doesn't take responsibility for his actions or the welfare of his kids. You are in part responsible for this situation.

BabeHeart

Give him an ultimatum...get a job or get a divorce lawyer (assuming he's able to work and just unwilling to do so).

max_rochny

lala, why are you still there? take him to court.

Becca

Find a decent man. Get a job and take care of the kids by yourself in the mean time. Get rid of the bum!

floridaman39us

Why did you marry this lazy bum? Kick him out.

notyou311

Leave him. He's a bum.

yeah, leave.

Allison, aka Nice Lady

Think more carefully about who knocks you up next time?

Sean L

Kick him out.

Ketchup Fan

if you are short on your bills then YES, he needs to get a job.

But if you are working mom and have enough to pay all the bills then ...........u know what y es he should work dang it. Thats not right ??????

Beth66

Why stay with dead weight, you have five kids now. He needs to take responsibility for support of his family. He may be depressed but he sounds lazy to me. Move on if he isnt willing to pull his weight,

sapphire

Yea throw him out and find a man who isnt to lazy to work.

bigjohn B

Child Protective Services. Get your tubes tied. Or get a diaphragm.

bountyhunter

Yea! how do expect to feed the 4 children....get a job maybe you'll find someone else to replace the worthless husband ,
next hubby will provide everything.

cocoa

I had the same problem. I found out that he had several mental disorders and couldnt hold a job not because he didnt want to but because he couldnt cope. Is there a root to the problem? If he is just lazy, try being hard on him by not suppling food, clothing, or gas for him. Tell him you can barly afford the kids. Try not buying groceries for a few days so he can see that he needs to feed his family. Dont starve your kids but just put your foot down.

littleluvkitty

kick his @ss out the door and tell him not to come back till he gets his act together.

Linda K

If he is mentally and physically able to work, stop supporting his lazy dead a$$ and boot him out the door. HE is nothing more than a liability to you and your children. Don't allow your children to witness this type of behavior or they will think its normal and your boys may do the same to their wives and your girls may allow men do the same to them!

~â™¥Truckers Wifeâ™¥~

Well, what is the reasoning he wont get a job, is it pure lazyness... Set something up where he takes care of the house and kids and you go to work...

Encourage him to get a job, tell him your hopes and dreams... Maybe he will see what he is doing.. I wish you luck!

encourage him and then if he still doesnt have him take care of the kids and then you be the breadwinner, but both of yas should work c'mon people

cs2005

leave him and dont support him, do you have a job, if so stop making easy on him

Jacob's Mommy

Listen to the song:
Why Don't You Get a Job?- The Offspring
They have some good advice in there!
Click the link for the lyrics!

mila

I noticed that u said man not husband, i would kick him out and file for child support, the state will put him in jail if he don't find a job to support his kids.

iyamacog

WHO supports the family now? WHO pays the bills now?
WHERE do you all reside? It's not easy to live w/the price of e/thing today. There are options for a lazy husband.
Put all his belongings at the doorstep. If he refuses to pay for his children, he can be jailed. Hopefully your children are old enuf for you to be employed. That is the gut honest truth.
Those are the only options I see, other than welfare.

AnswerDude

Why doesn't he want a job? How are you paying bills right now? How does he plan to pay bills in the future?

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