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Helena Handbasket
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Maybe a local church could help or provide a non-religious referral? |
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Dave87gn
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thats why we have yahoo answers
we'll help you. |
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box of rain
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Do either of you have an employee assistance program at work?
If not, get rid of your cable TV, those cigarettes, and the beer.
Nothing is more important than the commitments you make. |
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LoveAlways
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You dont need counselling, all you do there is talk to each other with someone watching
Sit down, make a pact to be Calm and communicative. Set out a time maybe once a week, turn off the tv, take the kids to the babysitters, and talk. Talk about your issues, your feelings. COMPROMISE. On both sides, or else nothing will get done.
And set out a different time once a week to go do something together. Like cooking classes, ballroom dancing, rock climbing. Do something fun and new together. |
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pokerjoev
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Sit down and talk. |
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SLIM in 2008
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try a community center to find some resources there are places that offer free counseling |
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seventyseventy@rocketmail.com
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go to your local church |
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rooney
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Your church or try calling the county social services. |
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Chelsey S
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church. (even if your not religious, because pastors or priests usually offer counseling for free and its usually no different than any other counseling) |
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Monday Monday
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Check the yellow pages. Or do a yahoo search on marriage counselors in your area.
Please don't take this personally but people sure can find money for a divorce but not for counseling. Oh well. |
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GUY bein' a GUY
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I guess the question becomes, Is your marriage important enough for you to make the effort?
If so than perhaps you cannot afford not to find a way to go to counseling. |
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Howard S
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I don't know if you are Relegius or not. But I would suggest that you talk to your Minister. or better yet Maybe you could just talk with your spouse. maybe right down all the negatives and positives about your marriage. And take turns disgusing everything and make sure you listen to one another. Communication is always key. i've never been in a situtation like this but I am in Pre-Law for situsations similar to this. |
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Paul
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Some companies have a program where they will provide professional help for free for awhile. My wife and I used a program like that many years ago. Otherwise, call people, ask around, maybe you might find someone willing to help you two for a reduced charge or for free. |
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lulu
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Go to community center thy might hv smthing to help u guys out..good luck |
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Messenger (I has tuff)
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Some pastors will offer marriage counseling for free. |
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b-bop
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Don't you guys have insurance typically if you do all you pay is like a 10-15 dollar co-pay. If you don't you can still call around and see what would work for you. |
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JennT
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Have you guys ever thought about seeking a priest or pastor for help? Some jobs offer employee assistance programs also, which allow for a certain number of free consultations. Best of luck to the both of you. |
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samurai girl
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Contact a marriage counselor and explain your situation. Almost all of them will work on a sliding scale fee. Also if you are religious, contact your religious leader and try to get help that way.
If you are both willing to go to counseling, then you HAVE to find a way to make it work financially. You can cut something.
There are several good books available, so go to your local library, as well.
Good luck. |
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y n
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the key is that neither of you want a divorce. what you need is communication. there are a lot of counselors available . try your church or the church of a family member or friend . you need some one who is detached from either of you. you both need to find the underlying problem(s) and that takes communication. i asked a phd in psychology who is a counselor what is the cause of most divorces and he told me it is a lack of communication.i wish you the best and i hope you two stay together. |
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bwilliams2692
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Well it depends on where you live. I am sure there are some support group you can go to. If you and your husband are Christians, something to try is "Fireproof."There's a movie, an interactive book, and some other resources on the internet. If you're interested look at http://www.fireproofmymarriage.com
My parents were going through a rough patch at one point and I know it helped them out a lot. My fiancee and I are not Christian so we haven't tried the program, but maybe it will help you guys. I know that you said you can't afford counseling. Well, this isn't free, but it's much more inexpensive than counseling would be.
Try and look in the newspaper for some local groups. Often times churches have support groups. There can also be somethings run by the city, often held at a local hospital or something like that. If you put where you are from maybe I could try and find something. If not, check your local newspapers or try and google your area.
Well, good luck I hope things get better for you. Also, just a note, when my fiancee and I are having a hard time like this, we just communicate. Believe it or not, it really really helps. When we talk things out it can make a big difference. I really hope things get better for you, and I am sorry you are having such a hard time. |
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bearcat_76
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Maybe ur insures can pay for it cause im on probation and they make u go to counseling but it just might be cause im a 14 year old kid |
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Narnia33
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If you are involved with a church, or you choose to get involved with a church, often the pastor/preacher/whatever will counsel for free. |
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sunshine97
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Most university have students studying to become counselors and they offer some great programs. Some may charge a small fee but I have never seen any of them charge over $25.00. Community centers, churches. We have a program in Upstate New York called PEACE that offers it. Look in your local directory so see if you can find any. When I was looking for one I called a bunch and if they were to expensive they gave me suggestions to where I could call and get one on a sliding scale or sometimes free. Good luck |
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Honey Bee
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Look into college psychology clinics around you. Most colleges that offer psychology for graduate school have a college psychology clinic. There graduate students offer free or low cost counseling under the guidance of several experienced psychology professors. You can also request to have counseling with the psychology professors themselves.
You can also look into marriage counseling through your church. This may or may not be a good option for you. Be warned, though, that the counseling will obviously have a religious approach. In addition, while they're often trained, they're not as trained in the aspects of psychology as you might like. So it's up to you to decide if that's an option for you.
Really, though, think of it this way: a divorce is more expensive than counseling. You're telling me you can't scrimp for an extra $100 per month? For one counseling session per month? Even that is better than nothing! Cut out the cable, internet, dining out, whatever you have to. It's important. You made a lifetime commitment.
Additionally marriage counselors are willing to work with you. Meet with a few, and let them know your financial restrictions. They'll be able to make some suggestions to help you, perhaps on a more local level (I don't know your area, etc.). They can also offer books to read in the meantime, etc. So just tell them the situation. Shop around for a good per hour price. They are low cost marriage counselors out there, many under $50/hour. You may have to travel to a remote area for that, but it's still worth it. |
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James D
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This may sound like a silly solution, but my wife and I have recently had the same problem, we tried talking to friends/family, but that only really started to cause more turbulence between us. What we started to do was watch Dr. Katz religiously, I bought all the seasons on DVD and we just watched them with popcorn every other night and talked about our problems and listened to Dr. Katz speak, he is a very knowledgeable guy.
Hope this helps |
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Queen of Beer
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Omg..do not watch that movie Fireproof as one person said. Yuck. Do you have a trusted relative you could go to who is open and non-opinionated? or a good friend? Check with your employer to see if they have an employee assistance program. Many do and employees don't even know they do. They offer counseling for free or very little |
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dave p
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Take a look at this link. I wish you the best of luck and a happy future together.
A Directory of Marriage Counselors and Family Therapists, Live Phone Counseling, Couples, Relationship, Family and Marriage Counseling Articles, Books, ...
family-marriage-counseling.com/ |
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Ella
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Well, in any event counseling or not, all they are going to tell you guys is to figure out where the problems begin... example: Not spending enough time together. You may want him to do things with you but what exactly is it that you want him to do with you, and it takes two... you have to also show some interest in his likes. Then take at least one night outta the week to make it your "Special" time, just doing nice things for each other... it can be a hell of a lot deeper than this but this is what is going to be referenced at some point |
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Bliss♥
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Just attack the issues and not each other.
Find the root of the problems you are having and then solve them.
Communication is key. If it means having talking each other to death, then do it.
You should consider going to a church if you are christian or just need a guider to help you. The priest and preachers I think serve appointments for free so that is in your "tool box" if you want to use it.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. |
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quixoticalthoughts
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well then lay it out on the table... you want answers... this is a good place.... sorta... don't take the one-liners... take the well thought out logical answers. good luck. |
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