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apeskape
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Of course not. Tell her she is ignorant and its no wonder her husband is fighting with her if she is making stupid accusations like this. |
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BlueCollarMan
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LISTEN KID- As far as your concerned I'm an old man
I'm over 50 YO
listen to a old guy once here, OK?
I've been around quite a bit and unfortunately I was once divorced too. I SERIOUSLY SERIOUSLY Doubt you are to blame at all
What happens is that people get so uptight and so used to being annoyed and upset all day every day with their spouse- they snap at everyone around them too and look under every nook and cranny to place some of their anger and blame, <they have so much to share!>
Best thing for you to do is try and stay out of it- thats hard I know- mind you business as best you can and tell them to not drag you into it- hard to do but you'll be better off for it -eventually they'll respect you for it if you stand your ground.
Hard thing for 16 but good luck |
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wcchick264
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No. It is innappropriate for your mother to blame her relationship issues on you. |
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InTheDark
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no, and she's a creep for saying so. |
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Syzygy
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Parents always blame **** on kids don't worry it's not your fault. |
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wee
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no why on earth would she say that -- it doesnt even make any sense -- its not your fault is thiers -- dont let her hurt you by saying that |
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Garnet Glitter
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No. It's not. Please listen to me. When adults are in very stressful situations they can and do say thing they don't mean.....if two adults get divorced it's because they choose that....there are many reasons why but the child(ren) are NOT the reason...the adults involved are.
Even if she for some reason says you are don't believe her....ever. It's not you Hon.It's her and your Dad. It's the adults in the marriage. Honestly. |
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Cynthia B
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no it's not your fault she just needed someone to blame. Instead of being a mature woman, and taking responiblity for her actiions, she chose the easier way out to deal with it. |
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melissa n
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No, I don't believe it is. Most parents do argue/fight periodically. Your mom is just mad and hurting right now so she is lashing out at the person she cares most about which in this case is probably you. The "adults" can begin to act like children during these times. They may try to play you against the other one. Hang in there, talk to your school counselor or an adult you can trust. And above all else, do not start believing that it is your fault. Sometimes people who are married or live together for a long long time just seem to fall out of "love" and it's time to move on if it cannot be fixed. |
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xtmilx
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wow. that is a ridiculous thing to tell your daughter. im gonna go with a nope. unless you did something ridiculously outrageous that you're not sharing. but i'm guessing not. |
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llazyiest
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Only if you're sleeping with your dad.
You're mom's a witch to say that to you.
Good luck to your dad on finding a nicer woman. |
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Angel
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No it's not your fault. Your mom was a witch to say that. Usually Parrents get divorce because of difference between them not the child. If it they do decide to do it. Don't ever think that it's your fault because it's not. |
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reely2shy
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ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! Listen to me sweety..no child..or any person for that matter can MAKE another person fight...or be a quiter! No one.....we all have control over how we handle conflict and if they choose to fight that is THEIR problem not yours.
That is a cowards answer instead of owning their own actions and taking responsibility for themselves............they blame the kids and wonder why the world is messed up! |
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Star T
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No it's not. Parents who have trouble always play the blaming game. It sounds like there is a communication problem in your family. Hang in there. Try not to add wood to the fire. |
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A U
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Hi,
I am married for 7 years, have 2 kids and sometimes I feel bad about my marriage.
But never bad about my kids!
My kids are good and best in my marriage.
Whatever bad and problematic - comes only from man-woman relations and nothing else.
DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF!
Maybe (and most probably) your Mom is just upset about this whole situation, so she blames it on whoever is around.
Kids are never responsible for divorce, never!!
Please cheer up! |
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sweetestlady
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no. your mom has got issues. she's probably treating you the same way her husband is treating her. abusive. maybe both are abusive.
when you grow up, make sure you do not find a relationship like theirs. so unhealthy.
she needs to take responsiblity for herself and not blame a kid for her actions. ignore her. |
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datsleather
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It's never the child's fault the parents was together with problems long before the child ever comes I am sorry you are living this But its not your fault, If you get the chance tell your Mom it's ok , ,Just be strong she does need you and so does your dad, they may just need to be apart . |
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fourofsix2003
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your mother needs professional help. |
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purpledaisy0625
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No, it is NOT your fault. It is terrible that your mom said that to you and I am sure it was said out of stress, sadness, etc. However, she should never have blamed it on you. Keep your chin up, you will get through this! |
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justclicktherubyslippers
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That was very unkind of your Mother to blame you for their arguments. Steer clear of them and perhaps suggest that they get some outside help. A divorce is never the fault of the children. Even if the parents are fighting over rearing the children issues the kids are not the reason they can not come to an agreeable solution. There is never a winner when two adults are fighting.......only two losers. They should know how to communicate without fighting but discussing solutions to each and every problem. Talk with a school counselor about this problem. Perhaps you can stay with another family member during this troubled time at your house. Just know that you are not at fault and you need loving parents to be supportive of you right now during these tough years for you. Good luck. |
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jessejamesseals
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I SUSPECT YOU ALREADY KNOW THE ANSWER AND SHE WAS WRONG FOR SAYING THAT TO YOU . |
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Modern Man
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How could it be your fault when you weren't ever around when they got married? They got married and if they get divorced, they will get divorced. You have nothing to do with it. Doesn't even make sense. |
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The Devil's Reject
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No it isn't your fault and parents should never stoop to blaming their children for their problems. |
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Amanda
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No, it's not your fault. I'm sorry. |
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GGGG lou EEEE
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Your mom is the adult and should take responsibility for her actions and comments. Her marriage is between her and her husband, not you. Her job is to protect, support and educate you, it is unfortunate she feels the need to blame you instead of take responsibility of the relationship, or lack thereof, as she has.
I don't know the specifics of the stupid reasons they fight. However, as the adults, they need to take responsibility for their relationship and not drag you into it. |
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deborah g
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Sweetheart, it has nothing to do with you and I'm sorry that your mother said that to you. Hopefully she will be sorry for saying it as well because no one deserves that. Keep your head up! |
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Tracy M
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NO!! That was an awful thing for your mother to say! No marriage breaks up for just one reason...maybe you have caused them to have some fights due to differences in how they want to raise you, but in no way would that be the cause of them getting a divorce. Your mom was very wrong to blame you. She must have been upset and looking for someone to place blame on rather than accept the responsibility herself. |
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Janna
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NO I don't think she can blame you. Don't let her make you feel bad about this. The marriage is between two people not three. So try not to blame yourself.She just wants somebody else to blame.Just try to stay out of it and try not to take sides. |
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bookWorm<3
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of course not! she's just taking out her anger and frustration on you. which she shouldn't! |
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Jay J
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No. People are ultimately responsible for the choices they make concerning their own lives, so it is her fault if fault is to be had. |
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celticbuddha
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no. it's all her fault! and she's just to irresponsible to see it, let alone admit it. |
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