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SEF in MEH
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dude.. she has a right to feel weird about it.. its her son and he is still young.. he still has a life to ahead of him and the best thing is not to get involved in anything to serious that has already left the living life to the full part.. BLOODY 2 KIDS to look after.
there isnt much you can do but grit your teeth and hope things go bad.. but .. yeah. i dont think it would work.. but you just need to support him because im sure you dont want to loose your son |
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daboykf09
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he is 20, not 2 |
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orphan boy
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just be happy for him or you will lose him |
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littlebethan
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He's an adult. Let him make his own mistakes or not. Let him know you're there for him and that's all.
Keep nose out! |
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Han <3'zz Jamess :)
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deal with it
its not your life its his |
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Mrs HarleyBrat
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your son sounds more mature than his regular age group - that cross your mind? And the other post is right - if he isn't living with you - just be supportive - it's his life not yours - his life lessons to learn not yours |
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Allen B
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Mind your own, would be a good start! |
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cuddles
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support your son...he chose to date her because he sees something in her that hes attracted to..
if u interfere negatively with the relationship u will drive a rift between yourself and your son... |
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Veston Pants
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Make sure he uses contraception and does NOT leave it up to her. I could tell you a harrowing story about my cousin (20), a divorcee with 2 kids (then another one) and the CSA ... I think you get the picture.
xxFJ |
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Spiny Norman
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The fact that you don't like it is not important. The choice is his. Just wish him well and give him your support. |
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pasha39571
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With serenity and acceptance that he is a grown man.
He has made his choices, and at present they are only dating, you have no right to interfere with his options. If you do, you risk alienating him and actually pushing them together.
Deep breath and make her welcome. Who knows, you may even like her |
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Curious
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Your son is a young adult. It is not for you to handle. All you can do is express your feelings about it and sit back and wait for the relationship to end. Chances are it wont work out anyway so dont stress yourself out about it. |
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Debbie P
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Be supportive and let him make his own mistakes. You can't control him. |
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Mark C
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You must stay out of it and let him learn by his own mistakes, you will only cause friction by interferring or making comments, let him sort things out for himself, she will turn him against you if you try to get involved.....good luck |
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patricia bstarstruck
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I would not like it either - but if you can try not to fall out with him over this. He will probably get fed up with playing at Dad to someone elses children the novelty will soon wear off. |
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mrs O
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As mothers,we always want what's best for our children.We already have preset "plans"(for lack of a better word)of how their lives will be played out.
But...we have to at one point,accept that they will live their own lives and make their own mistakes...even if we KNOW they will hurt in the end.It's not easy to do,by no means...but we have to let go.
Be there for support.Try to guide him without judging him.This may truly be what brings him joy.Or it may not.Only time will tell.Trust in him(and yourself)to do what's best for him.He'll appreciate it as opposed to putting him on the defensive.You'll get nowhere that way.
Good luck. |
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angelkisses9865
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As a mom I would be really upset also. I think I would try to sit down with him and talk to him about what he wants from life and from the relationship. I would tell him to be careful and to make sure this is what he really wanted. I would also tell him that I will support what he wants and would always be there for him. |
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Gemini
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Handle it by doing nothing other than being normal, if you say anything about not liking it youre likely to cause big problems. Its his life and he has to learn to live it, if it goes wrong, you just need to be there for him without the "i never liked it" speech. |
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MyNameIsScott
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if he really loves her then its his choice, not his mothers |
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stuffys_sweets
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Support him in his decisions. Right now it's just dating, things happen, things change. All that aside, there is no age cap on love. Let him live his life. =) My mom didn't like my hubby, no age gap, but I did what I wanted anyway. |
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mian 54
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a parent's job is to guide your son and teach him everything you know before he is ready to spread his wings and fly...but he is now out in this world... you need to let him go and make his own mistakes and trust him that he would make the right crosses and turns because you have taught him well... |
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Buttapekantan
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Just be supportive, He is young and he feels like he knows what he is doing. If you give resistance, he may move further away from you and cling more to her. Dont harp on the fact that you dont approve. He has to learn about life one way or the other and you will not always be able to protect him. Just trust that you raised him well enough for him to know whats best for himself in the long run. |
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Toonces
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I don't think any parent would want this for their child. However there isn't much you can do with out alienating him. Does he live at home? Or is he on his own? This makes a big difference.
Chances are the relationship will fizzle out...not many men that age want the responsibility of 2 children. Just be there for him... |
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mimzy
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He's young. You probably won't have to "handle" this long. Regardless, if I were you, I wouldn't say anything against her. Just let him do his thing, and this could all be over just as fast as it started. |
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andy
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Just because YOU don't like it doesn't mean that it isn't right for them....... Just support your son and make him aware of your concerns but don't push the issue,, all you will do is drive him into her arms quicker and he will turn against you in the process..... So let him make his own mistakes and grow up,,, By not trying to talk him out of the situation your are telling him (without saying it ) that he can talk to you about what is going on,,,, Did I confuse you?? Hope not Good Luck |
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Beth
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step back from the situation, realize that everyone is entitled to their own mistakes, state your situation calmly to your son and make shure you tell him youll still be supportive in his decsion... and do so. |
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Emmanuel M
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You can not do any thing he is an adult and he will not like you to interfere in his business, but time will sow him that he made a bad choice having a woman older than him and with 2 children |
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Confused husband
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He's an adult now and on his own in that dept. You can offer your thoughts, but you can't make him do anything. Who knows? Maybe this is the love of his life? Or maybe it is a learning experience? Either way, it's his life, not your life. Whatever happens - marriage or painful breakup - you must be there for your son. Celebrate his new love, or offer a shoulder to cry on. |
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robert x
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You should mind your own business.. you've lived your life how you wanted! - so let him live his... He's old enough to make his own mistakes... all you can do is be a wise council for him.. if you interfere you risk him pulling away from you and that will be worse. |
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