My vegas trip. is it cheating?

My friends and I went to vegas on january. There was 4 of us. We all married and been good friends for a long time. We were out all night pretty much in strip clubs and regular clubs. This was a 40 bday present to one of my friends.
The very last night we went to a bar and meet 2 women. They were around our age and both were single. Me and my friend( I call him T) shared one room and my other 2 had another room. So my friend and I bring these 2 girls up to our room. T immediatly got in bed with the girl and started making out. I was in bed with the other rubbing her back, i grabbed her chest several times but we didn't do it. She did not feel comfortable doing it in front of my buddy. So we left. I was horney but I figured no means no. We had coffee. She held my hand and told me the she really wanted to but she can't do it in front of her friend and if we can get another room she would. I wasn't interested at that moment. Did I cheat? I know my buddy did but did i?
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BTW ladies who believe their husbands are so good. Vegas was an unbelievable experience for me and really opened my eyes. The guys who I thought were committed to their wives slept around. I could also say that those 2 women were married. I saw one of them take off her ring.

seaelven

If you have to ask, it's cheating.

lisalooo

Stupid question with an obvious answer....

Mama Mandy

You got in bed with another woman. You intended to cheat but you didn't because the girl felt uncomfortable. If I were your wife, I would probably divorce you. The intent was there.
What happened to fidelity and faithfulness?

ocean lover

marriage is a big deal. you shouldn't mess around with other ladies even it's just with the buddies. it seems like you had intentions to cheat... you technically didn't but if you keep up this mindset, you will be cheating very soon...

questiongurl

you're a piece of #$%&

probably don't deserve your wife

thknuvu

Yes it was cheating, anything you do that you would not tell your wife is cheating!!!

Mrs. Jack Sparrow â™¥

You crossed the line and you KNOW it..let's just hope that your wife doesn't take a girls trip!! Ha the guilt and not knowing what's she's up to will drive you up the WALL!!!

celticwarrior_amazonwoman

I'm thinking like so many posts on here, that this is a joke. Because you can't really believe that if there is no penetration involved then there is no cheating? Where'd you buy your conscience? The dollar store? Actually I am laughing here because that is so absurd. LOL @ inviting a woman into your bed other than your g/f wife and not 'sure' if it's cheating.
Your poor wife.
And doing something you would not tell your wife about isn't an automatic get out of jail free card either. Hopping to bed with someone else without the prior agreement from your spouse/partner that this is allowed (i.e. open relationships) is cheating. (I mean for those people who do it and think well my partner knows I do it, even if they don't agree with it, so it's ok)

lyndina82

Guys like you are disgusting. You were horny and did not sleep with her just because she was bothered by the presence of the other couple in the same room, not because you didn't want to... So yes, that is called cheating, smartass! I hope your wife will return the favor!

Anji

Your intention was to cheat....IT was just cut off because she all of a sudden developed some morals...

Would you consider it cheating if your wife did this with another man? Ask yourself how you would feel knowing that another man touched your wife's breasts, etc....Then you'll have your answer.

I personally think it is cheating....Your heart was not true to the one you promised to protect...

You should be ashamed.

kristinpwll

yes, you cheated. Any physical intimacy with a person other than your wife is cheating. I am really sad to hear this, while your wife is probably totally unaware that you disrespected her for a night of fun. How would you feel if your wife went with her friends to a bar and took to hot men back to their room. Imagine her lying in bed rubbing on another man. I really think you should come clean

TenderHt

Are you wanting a medal or something? Can't think of why you would tell us about behavior that makes you look like such a low life as a husband unless you are getting off on it.

Really now

Would you consider it cheating if you walked in on another man fondling your wife like that? And who cares what everybody else is doing! What are you like in the ninth grade or something? Okay here goes...Just because everyone is doing it, doesn't mean it is right or good for you.

Sandyi

Yes you cheated, or let me put it like this if it was your wife that went with her friends and did what you did exactly with another man is that cheating? You need to grow up you know it is cheating no matter how you look at it.

justakiss62

So how did it open your eyes...looks like you pointed the finger at your buddies but you would have been there too if your girl hadn't backed out.

How would you feel if your wife asked to go to Vegas by herself? Would you trust her. Do you feel no guilt at all in what you did?

If not then tell the wife see if she thinks it's cheating - I do

Live F

i think thats soooo wrong and not fair 2 ur wife if u really loved her u wouldnt do that and this is my personal opinion and nothing more

Chris

This was cheating, but I do believe there are degrees to cheating. I would forgive you, as a woman if I found out about this. Just make sure your wife never, ever finds out about this. If she does, when you go on trips, she will not trust you to do the right thing. Part of the right thing is not putting yourself in situations like this.

Queen of Beer

Yuk...this is why I remain single. You can't trust anyone.

Faith

Yes, you cheated on your wife, because you considered sleeping with the girl. You were going to until she said no. You touched her, groped her.
You cheated on your wife, and I hope you tell her because it will eat you alive.
You might not belive me now, but you will later.
Shame on you.

Musica

Yes, it is still cheating even if you didn't actually "do it." I would suggest you do a better job at picking better friends. NOT all men cheat on their spouses, so quit justifying you and your alley cat friend's actions!

you saved yourself 500$ and even tho your buddy would never admit it, he paid up.

in other words, don't flatter yourselves.. they were h00kers.

Elizabeth L

I think anything you could not or would not do in front of your spouse (or even tell your spouse, detail for detail) is cheating. That's just my take on it.

elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom

I would consider it cheating, and I would divorce you if I found out about it, if I was your wife...

that's just me, perhaps some don't think it's cheating, but, it is...

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