My wife and I separated earlier this month. Should I still do anything for her for Valentine's Day?

Lv Dr. 4U

Yeah, I would, you spent a part of your life with her and she'll always be special! It dosen't have to be ugly or nasty, sometimes it just don't work out! You should be cordial and remain friends, especially if you have children! Get her a card or something that says you appreciate her as a friend, accompanied with flowers!

David J

Not sure about inappropriate, but it could be a waste of money, Why not give a gift to a women that would like to at least date you? Good Luck

Answer Man

No because you are now seperated you need to move on as she has

racer 51

i think i'd let it go. she knows you're there but has chosen to start dating. that's a sign that she's done. to get her something would seem like begging.

Flaca_in_Az

Let her new man buy her Valentine's Day . Seems like she already made her choice. ..right?

ladytaurus5339

Why bother !

Badass

No! Its over! Stop wasting money on a dead issue!

If she's seeing someone else, she doesn't give a 'flying fcuk' about you!

Ms.Thoughtful

Maybe a very general card, not one with a lot of deep "sentiment".

Musica

Personally, I think it's inappropriate, but if you want to, then do so...but don't expect anything in return...not even so much as a thank you.

She's moved on, maybe it's time you did, too.

Jasmine808

She's seeing someone else? I'm sorry but giving her a gift is both sweet and pathetic. Get back into the dating game and don't waste any more money on her. You might not feel so generous if the divorce goes through!

Dr.PhilwithBoobsDueInJune

She has obviously moved on so if anything send her a card.

Cynthia Y

If you still feel that you would like to work things out with her (and it sounds like you do) I think it would be a nice gesture. It doesnt have to be over the top, but let her know that you still wish her a great Valentines Day.

But, dont go into too much like I miss you or wish we were back together again. Just that you were thinking of her on this special day. She has got to appreciate the thought. Good Luck!

teritaur

It would be inappropriate and would push her away even more. Don't do it. You'll send her screaming from the room. Check out the website to learn why this is a bad idea.
Good luck.
If you have kids.. get Valentine's stjuff.. just small little things for them instead. If you have the real urge, get something for your mom! (-:

dragonfire

no
absolutely not

in fact the best present would be a summons to court for dissolution of marriage

cindi_chean

wow. your so sweet to even think about that.
no. dont waste your time. i dont think she'll appreciate how sweet you are. dont waste your time on her. karma is a b**ch. she'll get wats coming.

Lisa

No I don't I think it will make her smile if you get her something but if she is already seeing someone it might just hurt you if you do get her something.

bopdoobie

uh no! why would you do that, save your money let someone else get her something, But you know the ultimate decision is yours. You can buy me something if you just want to be nice.

Kate 429

I'm sure her boyfriend will take care of her!

Im ok now

Since it sounds like you are not the one who wanted the separation it might be ok, but then again if she has made it clear that it is definately over, it may only make her mad. If she is giving you any idea that it may still work out, go ahead.

Josie Jo

I would say NO. Reason being . . .
Who instigated the separation?

If it was you - don't be so cruel as to say 'bye bye' and then tease her by getting her a gift. Let her move on.

If it was her - why would you want to remind her when she already knows and still wants to be with some-body else. Bite the bullet and move on.

If it was just an ordinary day, would you be asking this question? Pretend it is.

Valentines Day is there for all the lovey dovey people who wish to remind each other how special they are to each other

Marcy M

Cool that you are even considering it. Who left who?
Do you have children? If so - it is very good for you to acknowledge her to keep things nice between you two.

No children? And she left you? then nope (she doesn't deserve)

No children? And YOU left her? then double nope!!!! (she won't want to get it from you and may throw back in your face!)

Amanda

No. Personally, I think it would be a little inappropriate, esp since she has found someone else. And I'm sure he wouldn't appreciate it either! Even if you're still friends with her, its not really the best thing to do. It sounds like she's gotten over the marriage. Perhaps you should too... (And I mean that in the best possible way! :) I mean, she'll be your ex-wife soon. Valentine's Day is for people who are in love. Good luck in whatever you decide though.

Mrs. Kittyâ™¥

Yes... let her know you still love her and would like to get back together.

taste2good_69

If you still want her and love her, you should definantly give her a gift to let her know she has your heart

smiley

My husband and I are in the same situation. I am getting him a "I'm thinking of you" card. It might work it might not but I can't not try. Good luck.

~~eddie m~~~

invite her and her new man to dinner, and hire a tasty escort!

mammie

NO AND THIS IS Y

VALENTINE'S DAY IS BOUT CHERISHIN UR SWEETHEART ND IF SHE NOT UR SWEETHEART DONT CHERISH HER WIT THINGZ

xxwhoxxme2483

Well did you break it off with her or did she break it off with you ?? ... if you really still care about then i'd let her know now, if not, let her move on with her own life and not have to worry about you. It depends also on if you think she still has feelings for you too...i need more details to help you

bAbyDuEmAy28-MiSsInMySoLdIeR

No...not at all that's really sweet of you....just don't do anything too big!

lisalisa

NO NO NO

Don't if she is seeing someone else.

Look if you act like she did nothing wrong and be so forgiving you almost encorage her behaivor.

Dont speak to her at all that is the only way you can win her back
If you really want her.

I say if she is over 30 and you treated her like crap then try and make it work she might be going through mid life crisis

Same situation here. Wife left earlier this month. She was cheating, I called her on it and said it was over. She filed. We have a child. Things have been really weird but weve been together over 10 years. I think she may have feelings, not sure. I still do because I was blindsided and haven't fully healed yet. Not sure what to do. PS she is over 30 and I think she really is going through a mid-life crises. My family and some friends have stated shes been acting strange for a while. Decision making process is way off.

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