My wife had a one night stand with her co worker..she says its over and she loves me ?

Little Girl Blue

No. I think you wife is sincere and she's not sleeping with this guy anymore but only trying to avoid creating a problem in work.

flatfootfred

Divorce the cheating biooooootch !!!! Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater.

Ya-hoooooo-oo!

Your wife should not be worried about what her co worker thinks when you kiss her. She is YOUR wife and they were both wrong. You should put her in her place and confront the co worker.

mamacita

Wake up. She's still with this guy.

Taketwoasprin C

Divorce her NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Marina

Buddy, if she slept with her co-worker she does not love you. And, she's still banging him. I promise you that. I would divorce her. You can no longer trust her, and she clearly has no respect for you or her marriage.

Mex_tech78

Sounds like more then a one night stand!!!

VOTE YES ON 3 IN MASSACHUSETTS

ya know what?
no you shouldnt, you should simply leave her, she cheated on you, and she will do it again, so dont be nieve, and waste time in this very short life you have, go find someone more deserving.

Save a Tear

the fault lies with ur wife...
how many persons will u go on confronting ?
something is wrong with her, not with the co-worker alone

Just Me

Confront him all you want, but SHE is the one you need answers from. If it's really over with this guy, then she shouldn't care if you kiss her in front of him.

Lori T

it sounds ike you already know whats going on in your heart ....if she called it off she wouldnt care to kiss you .... something elts is going on .....if i were you i would leave her ...GOOD LUCK!

~NIKKI~

It seems to me that your wife is being the shady one in this situation. She is the one that needs to be confronted. This one night thing did not just happen randomly, I am sure she has a relationship with him and she is continuing that relationship. That is why she will not let him see you two kiss.

Rebecca

He isn't the problem, your wife is. She made the mistake and betrayed you so why now would she be touchy about the other man seeing you kiss her? Maybe she's hiding more than you thought or she's just insensitive, either way it sounds like you two need to talk. You can't get angry at him because all he knows about you and your situation is what she's told him, I would be wondering what impression your wife gave him about the status of your relationship.

nickyname

Sounds to me like it isn't over after all. Sorry. But it has to be the reason why she won't let you kiss her in front of him.

foxinsox

Unfortunately...confronting him will just make your problems worse.

He can put a restraining order against you...it could be seen as harassment.

You need to deal with your WIFE. SHE needs to kiss you regardless of who is watching. YOU are the husband. What possible reason could there be other than she doesn't want HIM to get jealous?

Maybe she needs to quit her job and find a new one.

Examine your own feelings and what you are willing to tolerate.

If she is still acting like a suspicious woman and still has contact with her lover at work..so what if the phone number is changed. She still has a broom closet or "lunch time" runs to Burger King.

I think you are amazing that you are willing to forgive and try to move on..now she needs to join you if she wants to save your marriage.

Koozie the chemist

Shes going about this backwards. By not kissing you, shes stating that shed rather save his feelings than yours. Your wife should always kiss you if you ask. Theres something probably still going on if she wont kiss you. You have every right to tell the guy off. He's ruining your family.

prescientone

This has more to do with her than the other man. Her actions towards him will dictate what he does...if she encourages interaction with this guy..he will not go away. It is up to your spouse to tell this guy it is over..no questions asked. If he doesn't go away after she does this, it is time for a beat down. If she can't tell him to get lost...she is the problem...you should be able to kiss your spouse anywhere...except church...maybe.

Lynn R

It is not the mans fault. Confront your wife. If it was a one night stand, try and forgive her. Every one can f up once. An affair is way different. If that is the case start to document and sue her for divorce. You deserve better

South-east-asian~invasion

Honestly, I think you should talk to your wife and not her coworker. IF she had a one night stand with this guy, and now won't kiss you...well, there is something wrong. She cheated on you, she should be doing all that she can to make it up to you and work things out. But, it doesn't seem like she cares because she is not trying. You need to be a little more adamant about this situation, don't let her get away with this so easily.Your a human with feelings, you deserve to be treated with some degree of respect...most of all from your wife.

drc457

You need to move on. She isn't fit to be your wife. If she has done it once she will do it again

Fonz

You are wasting your time. Dump her sorry @ss and move on.
It is not his fault, he did not stand at the altar and promise to forsake all others. She did. Leave her..

BimmerGirl

She is playing you! Once a cheater always a cheater. She feels that she is cheating on him with her husband.Sad!!....

littl3_red

ok so basically your wife is lying to you and cheating on you and it seems like you dont care. this guys is a problem and it looks like she wants him still if she doesnt want you to kiss her at work. she wants him and she doesnt want him to think she wants you more.

dump her

Cutie With a Booty

Why confront him, that won't do anything but cause a fight. It's up to her to say I don't want anything to do with you" to that man.

She made the mistakes not you! If she really wants to cut off all contacts with him for the sake of her marriage she will tell him.

But unfortunately I think he has an obsession for her because he doesn't want to see her kiss you or maybe she wants him and is not attracted to you anymore.

I think you need to tell her to get a new job where theres no seeing him anymore. If she doesn't want to do any of this then yes I'm afraid that was more then a one night stand. If thats so you need to ask yourself do you really want this women, because she won't change.

If she agrees to do what I said then this marriage still needs healing with marriage counseling.

Dad's found yer scoo'er

Ask her if she is willing to change her job.

Lulu

Do you truly believe her when she says the affair is over??? Something is not right if she is worrying about you kissing her in front of him. If she thinks her safety is at risk then she needs to tell someone like the police or her employer. She can't undo what she has already done but she might want to start looking for another job. Best of luck to you both.

cat

first of all, itz ur wife whom u should confront for being unfaithful to u. i respect u becoz u had the heart to forgive her even though she cheated on u. u r a great person! really. hats off to u.

yackat

I think the solution needs to come through open discussion with your wife and not through confrontation with the coworker. He is a distraction from the real issue, which is your emotional relationship with your wife.

Set a time and a time limit for the talk: tell your wife honestly (and gently) how her specific behaviour (not accepting your kisses) makes you feel and ask her about her relationship with the coworker. Ask her how she feels or if there's anything you can do to help. LISTEN.

It's understandable that you feel hurt and angry but during the talk try to remember she is a human being with private problems, needs and emotions that you may not be aware of. I guarantee she is doing this not to hurt you but because she has some personal problem of her own.

Offer her help in dealing with the problem.

If she refuses your help it may be good for you to outline your position on the matter, at least in your own mind.
For example, what do you expect from her? What is the action you will take if you do not get what you expect?
Think about it calmly.

â™¥Pumaâ™¥

Don't do anything illegal! If someone loves you they wont fall for temptation. I hate when people make excuses after they were caught. I'm sorry but once a cheater always a cheater.

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