My wife has put on weight - what can I do?

Offending Party

Divorce her.

She can do much better than you

*asdflkj;

start cooking :) that's probably the source. go shop with her and find a healthier diet. go for evening walks with her and the baby or go to the park together. she's probably really sad she has gained all the weight cuz really who likes being overweight? she is just probably feeling very hopeless. don't tell her negative things like how turned off you are by it or how disgusting it is... you are just making her feel worst and digging the hole deeper. be kind to her. you should love her no matter what. at least that's what you promised to her when you married her. but just try a whole family diet change and doing family things together. just don't make it seem like you are forcing her to loose weight. good luck.

Joey R

You don't deserve this woman. You are all worried about looks. You are considering divorce because she has put on weight? The only thing stopping you is the love of your child? Get the divorce. I hope your daughter never sees this question. She will see how shallow you are.

dreamer

Oh the pig, you should totally cheat on her how dare she gain weight, especially after having your baby

butterbean2112

she should kick YOU to the curb.your an *** and it seems you dont relly love her at all but more your material things. love comes from within and should not be mesured by the outside. The person you fell in love with is still there, its just the outside that changed you are the one that needs help..........

Mel

lmao! your a catch lol!
whole point of marriage vows is 'for better and for worse' so you shouldnt have married her and said those vows if u didnt mean it. idiot.
i bet your no prize pig either. and at least with her, she can lose the weight, but u, well... u will always be stuck with your personality.
i feel sorry for your wife, but most of all for you

Rogan

It sounds a bit insensitive to divorce her for that.

I mean, would you like her to walk out if she suddenly thought something was wrong with you?

I'd recommend being patient with her and let her make her own decisions.

jess r

OMG!!!!!!!!!

IF U LOVE HER YOU WOULD'NT CARE!!!

no one is perfect !! i bet u aint a looker but she deals with it!!!

it doe'nt matter if you love her that much u would'nt care!!

not every ones a size 8 with big **** and bleach blonde hair you no!!

jess x

baby.dollxx

You have nothing to do but let her know the extent of the problem... Do try to understand that after having a child we do tend to pack on a few pounds though and our bodies are hardly the same again but I do agree with you that there are many things that she could do...
Try taking her out and doing fun things again. Tell her that you really appreciate when she tries to make herself look nice for you and tell her that you think she's beautiful. This may motivate her to do something about it.

Pikachu

Get her a surprise membership with a trainer

Better yet offer a second honeymoon somewhere exotic where she would want to lose some weight so she can look nice in a bathing suit..

Are other chicks hitting on you right now? I mean its been 4 years why now?

leonard m

get out with her
maybe go for a run

mooseneese

I can't believe you'd divorce over this!!! You should love her no matter what!! I'd quit telling her you find her repulsive--that approach won't work for sure. Maybe you need to find ways to make her feel better about herself & tell her that you love her regardless of weight. Maybe then she might want to take better care of herselft.

hope

I don't think you know how hard it is for some women to loose weight after having a baby. All your shape changes for most women and hormones change.

Maybe she has some emotional problems stopping her from losing the weight. Stop naggin her and help her instead.

Or divorce her (great pay back for having your beautiful child) and after you are divorced she will lose the weight and find someone that will love her for her inner beauty...

Pinolera

Go for walks as a family. Also, have you notice any other changes in her, because she may be suffering from depression and you threathening divorce won't help her cause at all.

smm

start doing active stuff. bring you, her and your daughter hiking, canoeing, etc. just because someone had a baby doesn't mean they can start being lazy, eating unhealthily, stop being active, etc. that's ridiculous. while i'd focus on ways to make this work, not on a divorce (cause divorce while seems easy just creates more problems, and you're not guaranteed that your next spouse wouldn't do the same anyway), i've never understood why when a woman has a baby all of a sudden it's okay for her to change completely and stop caring. i mean, come on.

Specsy

You should not have said you found it a turn off - what a way to make her feel wonderful and get her to keep turning to food for comfort. What you can now do is reassure her that you love her with all your heart and that your real fear is for her health. Compliment her on other aspects of her appearance, e.g. her lovely glossy hair, her smooth skin, her beautiful eyes. Tell her you are terrified she will have a heart attack or something and you will be left alone, that you just don't know how you could go on without her. If you can persuade her that you really do love her, she may be motivated to eat a healthy diet and exercise to a more acceptable. It is really doubtful though that she will ever be as light as 8 stone again and you may have to accept that she will always be a bit bigger than she was. In the end, if she is a healthy weight that should be enough for you. If it isn't, then perhaps she would be better off with someone else. It is a bit worrying too to think of your child learning such attitudes from you.

gamegirl_x

Offer to pay for the lipo.
Btw, what da hell is wrong with you?!

RAINBOW

divorce is a bit radical,just start healthy eating and you can get her motivated to exercise with you good luck

sarah203isaacs@btinternet.com

do you not love your wife?
If you really did you wouldn't even notice the weight gain. I think you need counselling. She should never have married you! would you really want your child to be raised in a broken home because of your own insecurities?

robert x

Wow is your name shallow harry by any chance? If you really are considering divorce over something so ordinary has weight gain then all i can say is you are a numb skull and in all probability your wife would be better of without having such a shallow person in her life.
Have you ever stopped to think what your wife is going through? is your selfishness such that you only see her has big and not as a loving wife or devoted mother.. Man oh man you need your head looking at...

Cindie V

I suggest you take a good long look in the mirror my friend. Do you look the same as you did 4 years ago?
Having a baby takes it's toll on a woman's body, and some women never do lose the weight. I'm sure another man would be happy to take her off your hands
as there are men who just love big women. Maybe you'd be doing her a favor by divorcing her. You seem to be very superficial, and only care about looks. You'd better grow up before it's too late.

jojoluvspolo

For some people the direct approach works. I am the kind of person who would like to be told my breath stinks if it does or if I've put on weight, so I could fix the problem. But even for the thickest of skins there is a way to be tactful about these things and the lack of tact could ultimately decide on the outcome of your conversation.

Your wife could have sensed your resentment of her and her weight gain, and when confronted decided to be defiant and continue to pack on more weight to get back at you. Even being subtle can trigger this kind of behavior if the conversation stemmed from what she thought was a hurtful place.

What I feel you need to do is sit down and have an actual conversation with your wife to try and understand what's contributing to her weight gain. Maybe she's depressed and unhappy with your relationship. Maybe she's complacent with her new figure. Either way you have to understand what's at the root and to see if these contributing factors are "fixable" or if they are fundamental character changes.

Then you must decide if you love her enough to accept it and move on or act otherwise. Staying together mainly for the kid can lead to alienation of affection and could hurt the kid in the long run, this is why you have to deal with this on a deeper level. Maybe even try counseling if a conversation between the two of you fails to resolve anything. In the end it will be worth it.

craiden

You should put on weight, too.

oh buggar!!!

oh dear the blind cheek of her....... I think you should hide all the crisps and buiscuits......... and replace it with wine and vodka..... thats for the party she can have when you leave!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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