My wife is cheating.....?

Suicidal

Well I hate it say it, but it sure sounds to me like she doesn't love you very much at all... get a good lawyer, man... her infidelity is a serious problem and your divorce should benefit you.

snoogans

dude seriously, you got off easy, if you had kids you'd have to pay her 60-70% of your salary & she keeps the house. happened to a freind of mine. and she continues to screw other married guys. DAMM move on,she doesn't love you. sorry to be such an a-hole.....

g m

If she files she could get it if you want it or not. I would suggest you get a good lawyer, and fast.

Love does need to be both ways in a marriage, and if she is not feeling it you cannot force it. Secondly, she has done this to you two times? and you are still there.

Finally it seems there are some issues you may need to look at in yourself and might want to consider counseling.

loser

Man just feel lucky that you do not have kids, do not waste your time trying to keep her, she will continue to hurt you and cheat on you. Make the break and move on, the pain will go away and you will find someone who loves you and will treat you right.

Angel Eve

Sweets; LEAVE HER... She is the one who Effed everything up. You 2 will NEVER be able to trust eachother again, and TRUST is EVERYTHING. Without trust, their is NO relationship. Just imagine... She is out late with her friends.. She forgets to call, Even if she actually isnt doing anything wrong, the thoughts will cross your mind and you will feel terrible. Move on, Im sure you can find someone who will respect you enough to NOT eff Everything up.

skyler

you can try to go to counseling, but there is no need to keep her in the marriage against her will. If you do that she will wind up even more angry with you and come to despise you. If she is not open to counseling then I would sign the papers and go on with your life. I understand marriage is a HUGE committment, however it takes two people to work at the marriage. so many people are so quick to file for divorce when times get rough, but it sounds like she went about it by sleeping with two other married me. It kills me to see how many people are unfaithful to their spouses...i wouldn't want to be with my husband if he cheated on me twice in 3 months - your wife should have come to talk to you about the problems rather than sleeping with two other people.

livetall1

why don't you want a divorce? she has betrayed you. find another women who will appreciate your loyalty - there are plenty out there.

Kimber

Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. If she wants a divorce then you have to give it to her. Do you really wanna be with someone who hurts you so much, and who you'll never be able to trust? Those two things are what holds a marriage together - love and trust. There are sooo many single women out there looking for someone like you. You deserve better then what you're getting. Unfortunately we can't make people love us, and some people are just never satisfied. They always think the grass is greener on the other side 'til they get there. Your wife sounds like one of those people. If she's had that many affairs in that short of a time, she's obviously looking for something. You sound very sweet and I'm sure you'll find someone that will be just as in love with you as you are with them. Good luck!

mml619

if she doesnt want to be with you, you cnt make her. obviuously she has felt the need to cheat. let her go. you will find someone else to love and soemone who will love you back!! TRUST ME!

hello

You are worth more than that. Don't settle for someone who isn't in love with you. You are wasting time with her when you could be searching for your real true love. Get a divorce.

wilfreds805

If you dont want to leave her just aske her new man if you can move in with both of them.....Dont be such a loser and move on

Sunbird

IF SHE IS CHEATING JUST LET HER GO IT WILL HURT BUT YOU WILL GET OVER IT. ALL THAT INFORMATION THAT YOU KNOW WILL HUNT YOU ALWAYS IF YOU STAY WITH HER. THEN COMES THE ARGUMENTS THAT THESE AFFAIRS BRINGS. YOU DESERVE BETTER.

notyochic

I'm so sorry! that is really messed up she did that to you. when someone cheats on you like that especially when you are married that is like the worst pain but to tell you the truth it sounds like it is over! she cheated not once but twice and she wants a divorce! i know you love her but is that really enough? i don't think so! give her what she wants she doesn't love you! when you love someone you do what ever you can not to hurt them!!

Pat R

The Big question (and the one you don't seem to be asking, "Why is she cheating ?"

Let her go baby... What are you not seeing here?
It is time for you to start thinking with your head and not your heart..

So pick up the pieces of that broken heart and put them in your pocket and get it put back together...

mrpeabody

Time to move on.
Leave with dignity.

Give her nothing, take her for everything you can.
Don't let her think for a minute you care at all.

When you've gotten some distance you will realize how much better off you are without her.

mommylee

You have to give her the divorce and move on. She will just continue to hurt you if you stay in the marriage. She doesnt want to be there, I know that is tough to hear.

mrssmokestack003

Hi...sorry this has happened to you...But..2 affairs in 3months!..wow...This does not look good,buddy. I suggest getting a good lawyer,QUICK. She has already filed for the divorce..but you need a lawyer to protect the things she HASNT taken yet.It will be tough at first...but you will be fine.I mean Think about this...Could you ever TRUST her again? I know I couldnt.And what kind of marriage does anyone have without TRUST? Trust is a very fragile thing...and after someone takes advantage of mine..Im DONE. FOREVER..I sure hope everything goes alright for you...I wish you all the Best!!! Take Care!

well...what made her cheat? also, think of the other dudes...where did they spray? in or out all over her? man, i'm not trying to make you even more mad, but my ex did the same thing and dude...that's all it took for me to think about that question and knew she was what she was...a tramp!!!

You really need to ask yourself why your
self-esteem is so low, that you would even be willing to put up with someone who treats you so disrespectfully?

If you have no kids... then gather up what is left of your self-respect, and just walk away.
Don't even look back.

There are plenty of decent women out there who would never even dream of cheating...
find one of them.. and dump your heartbreaker.

do u love her or love the idea of her & what she used to be. because i doubt that when u married her, she was this adulturing horn dog. 2 men in the past 3 mos? whew-she's a buzy bee. did she tell u or did u find out on ur own. i feel that if she told u, then she is looking for attention & for approval that u still love her. if u found out, it sounds like by her filing for divorce, that she wanted u 2 find out so u have a reason to divorce her-but her plan backfired b/c u want to be with her still. does she still make u happy? can you forgive her, and convince her to work on the marriage? if so-u can't always bring up the cheating. it's either all or nothing.
good luck with that, Doormat.

NONAME

It is quite possible that you are the biggest loser/p ussy on the face of the earth!

Hollynfaith

Do us a favor and take the "walk all over me" sign off your back. Honey, this lady doesn't know the first meaning of love, nor does she seem to understand committment. And I don't think yahoo would allow my comments about her screwing married men, so we'll just focus on you. At what point did your self esteem become so low that you are willing to over look the ultimate betrayal? I mean when did this stop becoming a we thing and start becoming a her thing? What part of your mind makes this acceptable? I'm not criticizing you, I just can't comprehend how or why you'd still want to be apart of this. This isn't going to get any better for you, you can't love someone who doesn't love you honey. She's going to keep doing this and eventually she is going to file for a divorce, and eventually, she'll be awarded one, no matter how hard you try to fight it. Just let it go, get the divorce. You'll go through a mourning period, a self evaluation stage and then you'll start to heal and move on, which is what you need to do. You are better than this, you deserve better than this and it's time you start believing that you matter, your feelings matter and someone is going to love you for you!

chattykatty

I have been married for 13 years and I've decided that a happy marriage is only possible if both members are choosing to be together on a daily basis. Love is a choice and it seems like she has chosen not to love you. Sorry

nanny2

She will never stop cheating.Divorce her you deserve better.

sharethalove

I know its hard but you have to let her go. She feels trapped and she needs to be free. I know that we may love someone but if that someone doesn't love you back then you can't hold onto something that isn't going to happen. Your wife has cheated on you twice in the last 3 months and doesn't look like she wants to stop and she has filed for a divorce. Sometimes its hard to let go but in your case you just need to let go because it doesn't seem like she wants to be with you and why would you want to be with someone who has cheated on you twice that you know of. Let go and let God deal with her. She will reap what she is sowing and God don 't want you with junk anyway. God Bless you and you will be in my prayers.

gooterscooby

dude..she let 2 other guys inside of her....are you insane?.....get away from her!

diraf_m

try to find another one and when she find out you got another girl then she'll know how's it heart then leave her.

akristel2003

Divorce her, she doesn't love you anymore.

However, if you are hell-bent on stopping divorce consult an attorney, they may have a trick or two up their sleeves.

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