My wife is not happy with me having female friends why?

fajita

she is very jealous and insecure..and she thinks you will cheat on her....maybe you should..she doesnt deserve you.

jake

Tell you wife to go out with her male friends and you will soon understand.

blueyedblondej5

She is just insecure. She wants to be your number one, and when other females come into the picture, she feels that maybe you'll think they're better than her. Trust me i know- i'm a woman!

Sam s

I feel like there might be trust issues here.

Nobody Special

First of all, she knows that you now have one "get out of jail free" card and she's of course afraid that you're gonna use it. Secondly, men cannot be friends with an attractive female without wanting to *** her, that's just a fact. So, if your lady friends are attractive, then she has ever right to disagree with it.

Emily Hobhouse

No man needs a female friend. Your wife should be your best friend. Stick to couples, it makes life much simpler.

Izzy

Ok, let me start with even if she hadn't cheated on you, why do you feel the need to have female friends? My question is what's the purpose. What do most people like to do with there friends. Go to a movie, dinner, converse on the phone, go on road trips, and being there when the need them. All those things are things that should be done with your wife of 17 yrs. If you have that much free time on your hands and your married, work, and possibly have a family then your not doing something right. The only reason I would agree to my husband having a female friend is if she was a mutual friend, but there still would be no alone time for them to "hang" out. The only advice I would give you is what if it was the other way around? How would you react to her asking for the same thing? Good Luck!!

jimmy.parker06

Its a feeling of jealousy and insecurity. She probably feels because she cheated it give you an excuse to... and I think subconsciously or consciously you are mentally punishing your wife for her mistake, by having female friends. Even if you think your trying to prove that you are still faithful having female friends, i think in a sick way that is still mental torture. If you have truly forgiven her, then quit your female friend and spend more time with being friends with your wife.

troble # one?

The ones that cheat are always the ones that suspect, better watch her......

mendmyways

Maybe your intentions are these female friends are just that, female friends and you are trying to punish her subconsiously because she cheated on you. I don't know who she cheated on you with....a friend, coworker? I just know I thought the same way as you might possibly be thinking. There is nothing wrong with having a male friend. I had a male friend and a year later I was having an affair with that male friend. Do yourself both a big favor if you want your marriage to work. Dump the female friends or at the very least make sure you involve your wife when you are with your female friends.

cfalways

if she is not allowed to have any male friends, then you should not be allowed to have any female friends. in order for you to truely grasp the understanding of what she is feeling you need to allow her to hang out (frequently) with her male friends. there cannot be a 'i can do this but you can't' in a relationship. that is too one-sided.

Andrea C

Maybe coz she cheated now she feels insecure that your gonna do it back to her. I don't think its bad for you to have female friends as long as none of those are your best friends or you consider her too close, coz your only best female friend should be your wife.

Chick

Sounds like shes feeling insecure and maybe her imagination is running a bit wild and she thinks that you'll maybe try and get your own back on her, even if you dont, its hard to think rationally if you're feelin this way.

As long as you dont spend alot of time alone with a female friend, one in particular, or go out with them alot i dont see a problem. Maybe your wife should meet them and if it still makes her unhappy then you decide which is more important to you, female friends or your marriage ?

I have never cheated on my husband. However a tad of insecurity raises it's ugly head when he's around other women. I do control it though and know its me and not him.

It may be that she has a low opinion of her self, which may also be why she had the affair. ohhhh I really hope things work out and you are able to give her back some self esteem in your relationship.

spannerbox

because she knows what she's capable of, and assumes you'll do the same. Well would you ?

inlovewow

You're a strong person for forgiving her b/c she royally screwed up. She is scared for you to have female friends b/c you might cheat in retaliation. It's something that she did, so she's going to have to live with you having friends as females.

TAM

Prob suspects u will cheat at some point because she cheated on u

danika1066

People who cheat on spouses often are very insecure about being cheated on themselves. In other words, they feel the need to "beat you to the punch," so to speak. Therefore, your cheating wife is probably too insecure for you to have female friends. If the situation were different, I would probably recommend that you ditch as many of the female friends as possible--for your wife's sake. But she cheated on you!! Why are you even with her??!!??

T M

i think the fact that she cheated on u is a big part. i wud feel the same if i cheated that u cud do it as well and i wudnt want the pain of it, good that u r able to forgive her.. i myself have been going out with my bf for 7 months and he has a female friend of 17 years and im fine with it but i found it strange when they wud go for walks alone 2gether in our early days of our relantionship, tho this hasnt happened for a while i wud not be happy if it did start again, tho she calls round unexpect to visit him etc, i have kept quiet so far sort of made a few comments , but i wudnt want him going out alone with them, it ok if they phone the odd time or if wee both to invite them round with there partner , i wud say if u hav to have contact with ur female pal to do it with groups etc.. good luck..

Rainbowz

Because she gets jealous, which is a good thing as it wouldn't be normal for her not to be at least alittle jealous, if it was the other way around and she had loads of male friends, would you like it, would you like her spending time with other blokes instead of yourself, doubt it, you'd be abit jealous and I expect she thinks you will punish her for her own past misdeeds by having an affair with one of your female friends, she knows what you could get up to as she's done it herself, she feels unsecure, but if you really are devoted to her and her only then she has nothing to worry about..right?

anis118030

this is a true feelings of wife for husband to remain fussy of girls till the end of the time

yui

tell her that you will never cheat on her like she did....

dlmrgnk

Trust is a delicate and difficult topic especially with folks who were brought up to believe they are not worthwhile, valuable, and lovable. You won't get much relief from the unhappiness over your female friends unless and until she begins to see herself in a new way and can learn trust. It's difficult for a person to change that way without motivation, hard work, and therapy or deep discussion. It can be done.

hellokitty

Shes really insecure with herself. And probably because she knows that she was unfaithfull and is convinced you will do the same to her (would serve her right if you did). I think you are ace to forgive her, that must have been tough on you. Tell her to grow up and stop behaving like a child. She obviously doesnt trust you because of her own jealousy and insecurities.

Bridezilla

Probably beacuse she thinks you're going to cheat on her out of spite and she's trying to cling on as much as possible! I occasionally get jealous of my boyfriends girlfriends but I have to pull myself together. Take a look at the relationship and see if she has any reason to feel rejected/jealous.

tinkerbell

the only true answer you will get is from your wife go ask her

The Cat

She knows that if you put ball bags and a rod within inches from her she will play and assumes because that is how people are on her planet, conversely stick a furry cat in front of her ball bags and rod he will play. Do you need it?

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