My wife is thinking of having an affair, and I am encouraging her. Is this wrong?

Blondie Bear

Not at all.

But think it through carefully, are you a jealous person, could you handle your wife coming to home to you knowing that she's been with another man? If you think you can deal then give it a whirl. You won't be the only couple in the world enjoying an open relationship.

Royalhinney

Why be married then?

Marriage is about two people committing themselves only to each other.

I predict that you will regret encouraging her if she follows through with it. I wouldn't be able to look at my spouse the same way ever again.

B K

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bronzebabekentucky

yes, it will end your marriage

ginger

it will end in tears!

auntie debbo

yes it is very wrong and also very sad

Joy

You will end up destroying your own marriage. If tat is wat you wan. Good luck.

Dmh

Yes. Why don't you call it quits and you can both get on with new relationships without hurting yourselves and others

Dylangirl

you obviously didn't take your wedding vows too seriously

I like it hardcore!

u might get off on her being with someone else.....if ure both happy with it go for it. However it can bite u back in a few years

Chianti Man

Got anyone in mind?

manhattanmaryanne

in allowing your wife to have an affair....
you've just allowed yourself to have an affair also....
either have an open marriage..or get it over with & divorce.

Strass

Yes it's wrong and you know it. When she leaves you you'll know why.

plumprump26

Yes it is...What if she likes the way the other guy lays the pipe on her and then what. You are setting yourself up for heartbreak.

bay bay

why did ya'll get married for. you are wrong for this. you dont do that. marriage is two people who are in love with each other. you dont mess up your volls. you are wrong son. you need help.

bluelitttt

if your into swinging or swapping its fine, if your not, you will wreck your marriage

sashtou

'You,' as the saying goes, 'pays yer money and takes yer chances.'

If you are encouraging her in this, the obvious questions is 'Why?' What's the payoff for you?

It's not Wrong nor Right. It is what it is..... as in the meanings you both give to it.

But to repeat myself, 'You pays yer money and takes yer chances.'

Sash.

yasser h

Definitely that is wrong unless you know that you are not satisfying her. Probably she is demanding and you are not capable of keeping up with her in bed. In that case, try to find a solution for this problem other than having someone else to sleep with your wife.

what do you mean your encouraging her that's your wife stop her thinking like that

Your guardian angel

NO! NO! NO! Do not go down that road as it will all end in tears and have many ramifications for yous both and your families for many years to come. Remember your marriage vows................till death do us part. Please don't do this.

48Special

It seems to me you two have an open marriage that you can talk about things like that! If she really means and you really mean it then why not? But it just gives you reason to have an affair to. Your feelings might change after she has an affair. But your wife could be saying this just to test you and deep down she really dosen't mean it! Good Luck!

maraesa1000

the grass is ALWAYS greener. once she has had her taste, your relationship wont be as sweet as you were before.

either
1. he will treat her as you did when you first got together and hse will feel treasured
2. it will be passionate and exciting, and your relationship now will melt in comparison (marriage after a while loses that initial excitement)
3. why did she tell you she wanted an affair. i think she was asking for you to be jealous and protective and show you that you're a 'man' and want you all to herself. it seems liek a cry out to make her feel more secure
-> she will resent you for letting her be with other men as it seems liek you dont treasure her enough

it's not wrong if thats how the relationship started, but this will end badly. i guarantee it

rafikitwothreesix

YES, when she tells you she is thinking of having an affair, what she is really saying is,

"I need to be loved and I want you to make more of an effort"

If she really wanted an affair, she would be on her bosses desk with her feet in the air a long time ago.

Spend more time with her, go for walks in the park and hold her hand in public, do this more regularly.

stone_angel11

oh sweety,that's so wrong in so many ways. it will ruin your marriage,or is that you easy get out card i wonder. it will all end in tears I'm afraid. xx

confused

lol an affair is a secret thing that the husband/wife tends not to know anything about.. sounds more like a swingers thing to me....

and erm if you really want your marriage to last i would say dont joke about it, it just might slap you in the face and your wife will be off

gorgeous_ami

Why do you want her to have an affair? Do you not love her? It depends what you're wanting to achieve from this.

I would say you seriously need to start asking yourself questions about your relationship and moreso how you feel towards her. Why does she want to have an affair? Is she unhappy?

You got problems!!!

gemma2334

why the hell are you encouraging her in the first place you no its wrong you sound as bad as her it sounds to me that you are on rock bottom and are just saying anything to keep the peace i suggest that you and her need to sit down and have a proper talk see a marriage advisor and work through your problems together instead of being so stupid and allowing this to happen if you cant do this then to me it sounds over with you two

phil

Of course it's wrong. You wouldn't be asking if it was the right thing to do, now would you? In fact, really encourage her and just go down to the court and get a separation (pending divorce) right now and she won't need your permission at all. And then it will be perfectly all right?

why would u want to encourage that? ive had a few relationships with married men - i didnt know they were married tho. it ruined their marriage in the end when the wife discovered us. affairs do, unless u have an open relationship its not a good idea.

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