My wife is wanting to quit work but I'm don't like the options given to me.?

Kay G

sometimes mental work can be even more draining on a person's energy than physical work. Also, driving can be very stressful. I do have a solution, tell her you will work one extra day per week and hire a maid to come in once per week to help out with the extra you make. see if that solution works for you both. If not, just pick up your own stuff.

Flavor Vortex

Is housework really that hard for you? Don't be so selfish, take 30 minutes out of your day and give the lady a hand. She's effectively working 2 jobs if you do nothing to help her around the house.

It doesn't matter who used to pick up for you, what you do now, or what your wife does now. You're a grown *** man with a wife, start pulling your own weight before she divorces you and takes half of what you apparently work so hard to get.

fnd40

You are lazy.

Belinda

Dude you had better get with the program or you are giong to be single and living in filth. You are way out of line ont this one.

radio80flyer

Yes, you are wrong, as usual.

Who Knew?

So, she drives 420 miles a week MORE then you, to a job that makes LESS then yours and your complaining about picking up soda cans and candy bar wrappers....um yeah...I would say YES you are very WRONG!

cutieblues28

I think you are completely wrong. She might not do the physical labor, but trust me, working a desk job is not easy either. Personally, I am having a very similar issue with my fiance and let me tell you, if things dont change he is out of there. First of all you should be helping around the house. She is not your maid, your cook,the dry cleaner, or your servant she is your wife. As a man, expecting her to do these things, plus work, well let's just say your not being much of man and I dont know how she puts up with you. She does have very good points, and honestly you working 2 more days a month is not so bad. I mean come on you work 4 days a week, she works 5 days a week, plus commutes, plus takes care of your lazy a**. I think she works a lot harder than you realize. You should appreciate what she does for you. I can tell you if things dont change, expect to be paying for a divorce.

Of course you are wrong! You are only working 4 days a week! First of all I am confused why you aren't helping around the house as it is, especially in this day and age, and even more so when she is working twice as long as you are. She is only asking you to work 2 more days out of a month, which is practically nothing, especially when you already have three days off in a week as it is.

You need to step up to your responsibilities as a husband and choose one of the options she is giving you because in all fairness you really should be doing BOTH. Let your wife take it easy for a while.

And as a side note, if it makes any difference I am a man as well.

Tesse Malou

Sorry to say, but You are selfish, the prince of all them !!!
It's either both ways: you want to separate from your wife, or you are stupid.
What's so difficult with you helping around the house ?
DO YOU REALLY LOVE YOUR WIFE? Sounds like you're just using her. Since she's woken up, you don't know what to do and are acting like a brat kid.

Gina C

Am sure you've got the picture. I think I'll send your wife my recipe for ground glass.

babydolly

what is your contribution at home, you home, you work less and you still cann't help her at home, it pure wickedness or how can you explain subjecting a woman thru such hard work and feeling relutant to help her.
she has given you a choice if you can afford her not working fine, but if you can not, you better get you *** moving and help her with the chores.

PENDRAGON

Be a freaking man!!
You sound like your a lazy person, save your wife the trouble, quite being selfish man and go ahead and work the two extra days a month, can that possibly hurt you?
Come on, it sounds like she really has her work cut out for her, do it at least until she can find another job that's closer.
And as your mom picking up after you as a kid, you need to grow up and get some discipline in you, your not at home with mommy anymore, your supposed to be a man, so be one.

Lady Freyja

Yes you are wrong. There is no reason for your wife to work full time and have to do all the housework. I don't give a damn what your mommy did. She's your wife not your mother. You need to help out around the house or deal w/ her quitting her job. If you left your socks and things lying around my house they'd be thrown out. Quit acting like a spoiled child.

Katie

The Middle Ages are long gone! Get your lazy butt up & start helping out. I don't think it's your wife's job to be your mother. How ridiculous! Actually, I blame your mother for raising such a lazy man! If you want peace in your home, the least you can do is pick up after yourself. You have no good reason to act like a spoiled brat! Your wife will eventually tire of being superwoman & will leave you. When your alone with no one to be your 'mommy' will you then start cleaning up after yourself because no one else will? Or will you be one of those nasty people that lives in garbage? Your choice...stop being an @ss & start appreciating your wife for everything she does! Seriously, when I read what you wrote, I envisioned you as Al Bundy! What woman would want to settle for that??

bro, it seems clear your happy being a slob. see you in divorce court,

Daddy Big Dawg

Yes, SLOB you are wrong!!!. Not only do you NOT help around the house, you make it harder on her by making unnecessary messes. It's not gonna kill you to help around the house, you can start by picking up behind yourself.

She is working hard too, 500 miles a week in rush hour traffic is a hard too. You should be glad she gave you an option, some women would quit their job and make you help around the house.

However, with the option she gave you it would be better money wise if she quit and you worked the two extra days, but that shouldn't stop you from picking up behind yourself.

Bob

Give her a hand you lazy bum.

honey e

yes, i think your very wrong! what is good for the goose is good for the gander. what would happen if she sat on her duff and didnt clean the house? would YOU be okay with that? okay, so you work, everyone has to ,to live. and with that, when you said :'i do'', i really dont think you meant, that you DO not clean up after yourself! these days marriages have to be fifty-fifty to work, unless you just dont care. mommy is not around anymore,be a strong man and do a lil more than your part, maybe youll be rewarded more than you know!!!!!!!!!

Confused Little Flower

Geez.... You should help your wife out around the house. Even if she is sitting at her job for eight hours a day it can still be very stressing (expecially if she has to answer phones) and then have to come home and clean up, fix dinner, wash clothing, take out trash and all the other chores that need to be done... that would wear a woman out in no time at all!
Be a nice husband and help out around the house even if it is washing dishes a couple times a week or takeing out the trash, offer to vaccume, or heck even wash clothing, none of this stuff is strenious on your body physically and iits not gonna take but a few minutes out of your day.

American Beauty

Your wife is not your mama; so stop expecting her to wipe your runny nose. Since you know you're not going to help out at home, be content with her quitting, while you work the extra 2 days a month. You'll save money this way. Numbers don't change, so your wife's accounting degree will keep, until she's ready to go back to work. You're absolutely wrong; so be smart and take the deal!

me.

Interesting dilemma. Honestly, I think it comes down to... do you love your wife? Do you appreciate what she sacrifices for you? Take some times to contemplate how beautiful she is to you, and then see if its really ok to not pick up after yourself :) I, as a female, often find myself drained physically even after doing only mental work. take that into consideration :) take the next week to pick up after yourself and see if it is as much of a sacrifice for you to do as if feels like now. I understand that your job is physically taxing, but keep in mind men's body were made to withstand more labor. Try to imagine sitting and working, wracking your brain, and then coming home and finding your house a mess after youve worked so hard all day :) I don;t think you're wrong, per se, but you married her because you love her. SHOW it to her, and she;s bound to show it back

kel.ginpa

You're lazy and completely unfair. Why should your wife have to clean up your mess after she works all day? You're the one who only works 4 days a week, you should be the one doing most of the house work, not her.
If I were in her shoes, I would not clean up after you, cook for you, or do one bit of house work that wasn't absolutely necessary.
If you want to stay married, get a clue before she has enough and packs her bags. At this point, you don't deserve to have her as your wife.

lollypop

She still works all day and then comes home to work too.If you don't think that cleaning the house is hard then you do it. She isn't asking you to scrub the toilet just that you clean up after yourself. Why would that be a hard thing for you to do?She is right about a lot of it. The gas and such.So you expect her to work all the time and come home and work after work and you sit on your butt and do nothing. Then let her stay home. You are asking way to much of her as a wife and and a person. Change places with her. Would you if you could. My husband is gone trucking and I'm a stay at home mom.He would not trade me for nothing.

Amy D

When will guys stop being such whiners? you just said that you work hard and don't want to come home and work? Well, what do you think that she is doing? That is part of a relationship, is sharing in the upkeep of bills and home. Why should she be working and then come home just to do all that work by herself. Do you really honestly blame her? Just pitch in at home and help her out, that's all she's really asking for!

Bill B

You I am afraid to say are a fool, You have a good woman and you will soon loose her to a man that will care for her and be her equal

just me

Do you want a wife or mother? Act like a big boy. Your mom should have made you pick up your sh!t.

If you have kids in daycae, her staying home will save big $$.

Have you thought of hiring a maid?

jaded09

Well did your mom have to work full time, drive 500 miles a week and then come home and clean up after a slob? You sound very selfish she is giving you an option to help out more and she will continue to work. If not then she quits I think it's only fair that you do your share.

tjnstlouismo

A real man doesn't put his wife in the position of having to give her husband options. Your wife isn't your slave, and you are a grown man. Look at it this way, once she gets good and tired of being your doormat, and leaves you, are you going to call your mom over to pick up your trash? Have some self respect. And for the record, you might want to ask your mother how she honestly felt about her life with your father. Maybe he had some respect for her, and you missed that part.

Pinolera

You are totally wrong. Both of you guys work and she still has to come home and work some more? How fair do you think that is? Also, when you work in the house cleaning up after yourself it doesn't take a full 8 hours. If both of you clean the house it will take about 1 hour of your time at the least and look at the benefits you will get. She will continue to work -- the poor thing and you will still have your time off and everybody wins. I think you are the stubborn one in this situation. She is giving you a good option. Stop whining and pick up after yourself and lend the woman you claim to love a hand around the house. I promise you it won't kill you.

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