 
|
confused
|
my wife did the same thing to me and i let her come back and she did it again , so don't let her come back, read my story |
|
BLULINR
 |
I would say no, after all what's going to stop her from doing this again and putting you through this torment? |
|
~NIKKI~
 |
No way
if you do than you are setting yourself up for it to happen again because you are basically saying to her "it is o.k. for you to leave for another man any time you want and come back when you get bored with him"
no way, move on and make her regret it for the rest of her life......she won't ever feel bad enough if there are no consequences to her actions
move on friend |
|
butterfliesRfree
 |
She not only walked away from YOU -- but she walked away from her OWN CHILDREN??? Is she doing drugs or something? What mother in her right mind walks away from her children????? I'd say "forget it" -- she may have an ulterior motive..... |
|
wondermom
|
This is a really big deal. You are at a crossroads whether you know it or not. I can understand, to some degree, a woman leaving her husband but a woman that would abandon her children has something wrong with her.
You're an adult and if you wanted to forgive and forget, that would be one thing but for her to hurt your children that way and now want to come back. What if she leaves again? Think what this would do to your children.
I say you really need to take it slowly and be smart. She'd have to really earn my trust and prove to me that things are different. |
|
Fuzzybutt
|
Sorry to say if she left once you could leave again.
It is your call. |
|
paulina.
 |
no. |
|
jj
|
no |
|
kim t
|
I wouldn't let her back. |
|
lala.
 |
i think you should do whats best for the kids. |
|
Shelley S
 |
because you have kids together this is a tricky situation. Don't let her just come back like nothing has happened. You HAVE to go to a marriage counselor before she moves back in. Make sure she's in for good so you protect yourself and your kids. Plus, it's gonna take work for you to forgive her and you don't want that anger and resentment towards her in front of your kids.. so deal with the issues before moving back in. |
|
napqueen
 |
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. |
|
bugjjo
|
I would take her back but take it slow. unfotuntly some people have to experience things by learning the grass isn't always greener on the other side to appreciate you. My husbands mom did the same thing and left the family to be with another man she came back to her husband and they have stuf together for 20 more years.. Just be patient and calm and if she walks over you then you again you will know it's time to cut ties.. |
|
Damocles
|
It will be best for your kids to have both a mom and dad at home. She will need to earn your trust again (big time). I would take her back. You probably want some conditions, like going to counciling, etc. If you can get past your hurt and pain and be willing to take this for the sake of your kids, it may be the best thing you can do, but it will not be easy. Hope that your marriage can be reconciled, but be guarded with your heart. She will earn your trust, if she honestly wants to come back.
All these people saying "no way" are only thinking of themselves and how they would feel. They do not love and care about your kids. I would put the kids first. It may put your heart through the wringer if she chooses to leave again, but be prepared to go through that pain for those kids.
Maybe you might consider this conference:
http://www.familylife.com/conferences/
called "A Weekend to Remember". Sometimes a conference like this can jumpstart the healing process and get your marriage back on track. |
|
SadFish
|
I would definatly let her come back, Sometimes women need to experince a different lifestyle to realise how good they had it in their current relationship.
I have personally gone through this experince, difference being i am the women. I was bored with our life, the children kept me bogged down, i need to live a little so i took off with another man. it was then that i realised how much i missed my family, how good i had it and how perfect my husband really was for me.
I thank god so much that he took me back, i would have been lost without him. Please take your wife back, she needs you and she wants to be with you. Sometimes people just need to learn things the hard way. |
|
Allison, aka Nice Lady
|
She probably realized how badly she screwed up and is trying to make it right. We cannot decide for you if she deserves the opportunity. Only you can. |
|
tarie75
|
No way, do you really want to be with a woman that can leave her kids behind for another man. She sounds like a loser. |
|
becky m
 |
hi, my new boyfriend is going through this. he has two children and his wife left him about 9 months ago. she cheated on him 3 times and he took her back twice, and it happened again and he decided not to take her back. i guess you should consider what extent she hurt you at and then consider what you want for the kids. can you trust her not to do it again? |
|
Toogood
|
I would say start off with counseling with her on the outside the house. Once you've gained that trust back and the counselor says its okay and you feel that you can/can't have a future with her in that way then you take it from there. Don't let her back in until your trust is back b/c your decision affects the kids too. They come first. |
|
TwilightTwin2
|
Give her a chance, but make her jump through hoops to make it up to you guys. Consider what kind of wife and mother she was before she left. Most people deserve a second chance. Also talk about why she left for someone else. Was she being selfish and rotten, or was she going through some crisis? If she's a good mother, at least give her a chance to make it up to the kids. They need her. Eventually, they'll make up their own minds about what kind of relationship they want with her. |
|
Jennifer B
|
the bigger question is why did she leave? If you feel as though it can be worked out then yes; marriage comes before all exept for the Lord and until you cant take it anymore always try. The kids need you to be strong and show them how to handle this same situation if it happens to them in the future. |
|
Perucha
|
MAKE HER PROVE TO YOU SHE TRULY LOVES YOU.
NOT JUST IN NEED OF HER CHILDREN. |
|
janetrmi
|
Your wife is not the enemy. Satan is. It's his job to destroy your marriage. You need to make it work. You need to put God first in your life and He will do wonders for the both of you. I recommend you check out Jimmy and Karen Evans. They have a weekly tv show that discusses marriage. Their shows are on the internet that you can watch. Jimmy is excellent. Jimmy gives very practical guides on how to have a successful marriage. http://www.marriagetoday.org/ |
|
Al B
|
If you still love her and she wants to come back, try counseling first to try to find out why she left. There may be a reason that the two of you can work out. did she feel not needed? Is your life together boring? and so on. If you sit down and talk about it you may get a better idea of whether to give her another chance and how to make the marriage work this time or whether to file for the divorce. Good Luck to you either way. |
|
agturquiose
|
yes since you do still love her. your kids need their mom anyways. try to work it out if you can, always always try. |
|
Sands
|
You can get really good advice at www.survivinginfidelity. com---this site is great for advice on all kinds of situations. Good luck sweetie. |
|
kesiena10
|
I am sorry about your situation and as much as it is great she wants to be with her kids again, i don't think it is a good idea for you. She can still be a mother to her children, but why would you want to be with a woman who would chose a man over her marriage and her children, that shows she has no commitment and does not care about you and her children's feelings, if she can do that to you. Best advice is to ask her to be there for her kids even more now, since she abandoned them for a man, but don't stay with her. |
|
Emma
|
if you love her than you have no choice. take her back, but see if she really does love you, and if she doesnt, then get rid of her for good!! |
|
gwilliams0422
|
everybody will answer this queston differently.if it was me and my wife,i would consider dating her again to see how it worked out.to see how sincere she was on coming back to her family that she left.it would be very difficult because it will allways be in your head.and three months is a good while to have been gone from the kids.it would be a slow process.and i would most definitly get her checked for std's(you never know).what ever you decide i wish the best for you and your family-good luck |
|
flagger
|
One second chance can be offered with MANY restrictions. |
|
kathyw
|
Yes. Your children need their mother and you need (and love) your wife. Maybe you doubt that she loves you. Well, you're not going to be able to work things out (and learn what each other is feeling) from a distance. Tell her how hurt you have been by her actions and also tell her that you are willing to work on the relationship if she is also willing. Then do it. Things do get better. |
|
|
|
|
No Spam
Adult 
Gambling
Unfinished
Deception
Plagiarism
Not English
