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nightowl24
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She cannot kick you out of your house simply bc she wants to! That is your house and your children too! If she wants out then tell her the door is open, but you, my friend, have done nothing wrong! Try to talk to her reasonably. Ask her about counseling, but stand your ground. You need to get honest answers from her. Maybe you too could take a trip and try to rekindle the flames, if she cares about your children I think she would agree.How does she stop loving you all of a sudden? If you are religious, I would also seek advice from your religious leader. You need answers and even if she says it is over for good, I would seek counseling for you and the kids sake. But like I said, just bc she is a woman does not mean she can kick you out. I am sorry for your hard times, stand strong, better days are sure to come no matter what. |
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candleinthewind7579
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You cannot force someone to love you...but you DO have rights! If she's the one who wants to end the marriage...let HER leave. You stay where you are with the children. My advice to you is to begin thinking with your head and not your heart...get an attorney, and find out exactly what your rights are. Getting advice does not mean you have to file for divorce...it's just a way to protect yourself and your children so that you will continue to have a place to live and can provide stability for the children |
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sponge bob
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you have to do the hardest thing possible and accept it.
if you have been together for such a long time she would have taken a lot of time and thought over this decision.
and when a woman has convinced herself of her decision you wont be able to change her mind.
be strong
only time can heal you
and it prob will take a while |
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LEX
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Talk Steve it's all you can do mate! |
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Charlie Brigante
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Yeah thats a situation we all dread in a relationship. Starts out well and things are fine, but the real test is the test of time. If you still love her and haven't done anything obvious to cause this change in her, its obviously a problem within herself that she needs to deal with. I would see a counsellor to discuss this issue as there is obviously more to it than what you put in your question. Good luck to you and I hope you get thing worked out one way or another. |
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Emerald Jones
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Ask her about counseling. I am sorry for you and hope it's just a mid life crisis for her. |
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Anomaly
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Find out who she's sleeping with, and QUICK! Gather all the evidence you can and hire a lawyer! It's going to be a rough battle! KJH4129 is right! Start getting everything that belongs to you out of the house for safe keeping or she might sell it and keep the money. DO NOT MAKE THE MISTAKE OF THINKING YOU KNOW THIS WOMAN! Do not trust her! I did this and I am paying dearly for it! I was married 10 years and thought it would be a short divorce, that she was going through some "phase" or something. I just found out she's moving with the kids after 4 years of divorce and joint custody and now I'm only getting every other weekend! The court system is still very much in the "mothers only club" way of thinking! It's not impossible, but rare for a man to win custody. That's why I'm telling you now- get the evidence you need! If she fell out of love with you and willing to tell you then it means she's in love with someone else and wants to go forward with the new relationship! Find out who it is and get photographs, look for emails, text messages, etc... You will need all this in court to have any chance at all! Don't be stupid like I was and DO NOT TRUST HER! Good luck, man!
Oh yeah- try to be the first to file for divorce- that usually carries some weight with the judge! |
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ENIGMA VS MYTH
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THEN JUST LET HER GO. FIND A BETTER ONE. GO ON FOR A NEW FRESH LOVE. |
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kjh4129
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Typical....She's probably in love with herself....Cover your ***...ets and I mean quickly buddy...
She's gonna take you for a ride through a system that is set up for her and just for her so you better get tough and cover your butt boy....Don't give even an inch and don't even consider reconciliation. She made it clear what she is and what she is capable of!! |
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Bonnie D
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I am so sorry. You need to turn to family for support. A church would be a great help too, and counseling. Please don't try to go this alone. You need your friends and loved ones beside you because you need time to deal with the loss of your marriage, but you also have to be there for the kids. |
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Ontheotherhand
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You have my sympathy, not that it helps anything. Nobody can say or do much to help you. You'll just live with pain for a long time. I truly wish I could say something that would help, but there is nothing. I lived through this, and it was the worst thing I've dealt with so far. While I can't tell you how to deal with this, may I tell you what DOESN'T work? Stay away from bars. Don't get involved with ANY women. Don't quit a job, or move far away. Get counseling yourself. Ask for drugs-(SHORT TERM) very short. You aren't going to sleep well for a long time. Cultivate SOME interest to occupy you. You need to keep busy, preferably with things that tire you physically, like hiking, biking, or anything you MIGHT enjoy. Mentally, try to put yourself in neutral, and just sort of remain where you are for now. Your mind is overwhelmed- and this is the worst possible time for you to be making major decisions about your future. Try not do do ANYTHING. Just let a little time pass, without making decisions. Your life ISN'T over- and you will find happiness in the future. It's just that now, that is unimaginable. You feel alone. You aren't. Also, your children are hurting- and this isn't their fault. Spend as much time as possible with your kids. You'll be helped as much as them, by spending time together. Good luck. |
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engineer46526
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That sux man. Why does she feel that way? Maybe going to see someone might help. |
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misskitti7®
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things will be hard, you will feel like a fish out of water after shareing your life with someone so long.
it is sad but sometimes people grow apart as the years go by.
you need to be brave not just for you but for your kids.
things will not be easy but time is the best healer of everything,
you may not get over your wife but in time you will learn to live with it.
first things first you have to sort out a place of your own,
once you do you can really start putting your life back together.
i wish you luck
kind regards
x kitti x |
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Poz
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I'm sorry. See if she'll go to counseling with you instead of just tossing your married life away. Wishing you the best. |
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a.kolathil
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Try to make her understand your and family problems on separation.If she does not agree leave her and marry another lovable girl.Have a happy life.Do not spoil your self behind a woman who refuses to adjust with you. |
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boodles1
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Hang in there!!!! yes you feel your world has fallen apart theres no tomorrow!!! but believe you me i've been there at the lowest point in my life.. the bottom!!!! and i'm now here telling you there is hope!!!! yes there is!!!!ok shes told you she dosnt love you! well its true ...and hard as these words are they will send you on a rollercoaster!!! and a big one at that!!! but when it comes down you will start to understand there is no point in living in an unhappy marriage!!! easy for me to say!!! but i did this for 16 years and my husband left me!! i felt my life was over.. but i am here happy and now in the most loving realationship EVER!!!! so there is HOPE!!!
DONT EVER FORGET THAT !!!! |
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baganta
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bless you i feel for you and the children, but i would be good if you could both be amicable and share the kids equally i allways say better to have 2 happy parents apart than 2 miserrable onnes together, maybe your wife feels she needs a break, there is nothing much you can do if she does not love you any more, but try and keep talking and who knows maybe you can sort out your differences, goog luck xx |
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who ??
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well ..seel counselling and take refuge among family and friends {} |
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Kathleen b
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She dropped a bomb. It could be a lot of things that have nothing to do with you. If she doesn't want to work it out and tell you what is wrong, there isn't much you can do.
If she really means what she says that she doesn't love you anymore, she does not care how much you suffer so you should. No one else will.
I agree with get a lawyer so you don't wind up in the poor house paying for her new life while your own is in ashes. It is your house and your children too is right. I don't know about a woman who would put the father of her children out in the street. When the parent suffers, the kids suffer. They go through everything you go through and everything she goes through, too. How selfish is right. |
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GREG H
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wow, i hope that never happens to me!!!!!!!!!!
kids, investments, trust, mmmmmm.....
not good, just ask her to consider a session so she will remember what it is all about |
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summerbreeze
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I wud say now is the time to send your wife on a trip by herself.. let her be reminded of the reason she fell in love with you to start with.. just give her some time.. and also in that time try to think about what you could have done to help.. yeah we all get like that after 15 years and esp when you feel you are not being appreciated. its going to be hard but i wud say if you want her fight for her and do whatever it is to make her feel loved.. question is do you have enough love for both of you.. if yes then you still got a chance. |
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♥**•.¸¸verbalkint♥**•.¸¸
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why should you go? dont if shes got someone else then tough shes not moving them into your home, tell her you have no where to go, ask her why shes being like she is, if she doesnt love you then you cant make her, but look at your options first, dont just leave, seek solicitor advice |
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Carli's Game
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TELL HER THAT IS GREAT, FILE FOR DIVORCE AND JOINT CUSTODY. MOST MARRIAGES DON'T LAST NOW BEYOND 10-15 YRS ANYWAY..NO OFFENSE. MEN AND WOMEN FALL INTO A RUT AND DON'T COMMUNICATE WHICH IS WHY MARRIAGES FAIL OR PEOPLE CHEAT.. |
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Richard
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Has she said she will leave you? Is it because you have not been spending enough time together? If she says there is nothing you can do to make her love you - i.e. it is not just a cry for help then you have to get out. Make arrangements with the kids etc. How old are you? Could this be a chance to enjoy a new lease of life? www.thelss.com ! |
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kelly
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o hunny, u have my sympathy. Ask your wife to consider relate. Perhaps you have lost each other over the years. Get a sitter for the kids, and take her to dinner, treat her as your lover, and not the mother of your 2 children, and TALK! You'll be surprised by what she has to say I'm sure, tell her how much you love her, we women love to hear all that. I hope it helps. The very best of luck x x |
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maranatha
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A family life gets build up with open mind talks and love. If you can openly talk to your wife why this is breaking up. May be she will open up and pour her heart to you. And decide that you will change as per her wants. If what she tells is beyond your mind expectations, just tell her that you cannot do it now, but will try to make up.
But a wife has to adjust to her husband as she is not the head of the house. Anyway, let us pray and hope your family won't break up. The first thing you can do is to pray and seek God's guidance. He will help you. |
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martingraham396@btinternet.com
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have you sat down with her to ask what went wrong and what it is she feels she is missing out on may be she does not feel loved she may feel she is just a cook cleaner and baby sitter she may feel she is not having any fun anymore if there is no going back then make sure you are there for the kids because they will be feeling what you are feeling |
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oatesmokid
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Your letter sounds as if you've been blindsideed I'm so sorry.Is there a 3rd party involved here.Check with her it's not easy to just fall out of real love.With the children to consider try to get her to counseling, and talk with family.Others usually see it before you do.If your not fighting then don't go anywhere for awhile.Keep the home in tact til you have the children prepared.You also need to find your options and maybe there's a chance to rekindle the relationship.Wish I could make you a cup of tea and talk. |
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swtlilblonde31
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You need to ask her to sit down for a coffee and talk about why she is feeling this way and if there is anything you can do to mend the relationship. Women don't just up and leave a marriage for no reason. |
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