My wife told me that she is in love with another man. What should I do?

jude

years ago when i was a little girl, mom had a boyfriend,she told dad she wanted to leave, she was in love with her boyfriend,dad stopped her,and fifty years later he would tell you to let her go, dad suffered all of his life,mom was mean to him, blamed him, and even on her death bed there was no remorse, no saying she was the least bit sorry. she blamed him their entire marriage for ruioning her life. dad loved mom too, and dad had 2 children also, but the conditions at home were horribble for us kid's,and for him. so you can't stop it you just have to let it run it's course, they say if you love some one let them go and if they come back to you they are yours.

start 6-22-06 summer time Mom

tell her how you feel & ask her if she will be willing to see
a counselor w/ you & try to make your marriage work out before giving up

Bchlvr

leave her! You are setting yourself up for torchure!

tbayxxxv

She wants a divorce and that's that. Sorry dude, but this isn't going to be pretty.

Angela

Let her go.

Why should you be miserable?

mendmyways

Let her go! I can promise you this will not last. That does not mean you let her take your 2 children with her. Now be prepared that when this relationship fails (and it will) she is going to ask to come back. Are you willing to let her back? Fight for your kids because she is really messed up right now and the last thing your 2 kids need to see is mommy making a big mess of her life.

johnjshuler

If she doesn't love you or be with you...why they heck would you want to remain married to her? You like instilling pain and anguish on yourself...and her!? If she doesn't love you and you two were to stay together, isn't that what would be occurring?

Big Momma Carnivore

She's already dumped you, so now you have to start dealing with it. Call a lawyer today and prepare to separate immediately. Don't do anything stupid that would jeapardize the leverage you have by her committing adultry.

b sonsofbit

There is a saying in one country that women have 100 holes out of which 99 are filled with money and the100th with- uh- uh- you know.Ask her which one you did not fill, and remember even if you change her mind then there is no gurantee that she wont repeat it again,and above all now that she is leaving you with children,she does not deserve to be your wife.

carzone28

talk to her about the problems you guys have. Try paying close attention to her and see what you can do to save your marriage if it is worth saving. Good luck and hope things workout for you guys. ( been married for 6 yrs now, and those thing happen when you take your eyes off each other).

alamgeer

Simply leave her

motorheadss84

you'll always have that thought in the back of your head if she really stoped loving the other guy she obviously selfish for not thinking about you or your children having an affair is a very bad thing if you find proof that shes cheating every thing is yours the house,cars and the kids let her new man support her. don't feel bad she did it to herself

ASoldiersWife

She told you that to your face.... Oh boy I see why some women be getting whipped on.. That has to be some hurting Sh**.... I'm sorry that you picked a bad apple, but she is not the one for you..And also, please remember that children do not make a relationship... How sad to see a marriage go down the drain.. People take there wedding vows to lightly..... As a word of advise, I would continue to take care of my children... But I would leave her where she want to be.. OUT.....

I wish you luck and I hope you both remember that there's children involved.. Please don't be selfish in your decisions think about them.. NOT HER... She's gone.. Let her be.. That chapter in your life is over..

Pray and I promise you will be OK...
And as for her, she must don't know Karma...

Karma (is what goes around comes around)

Karma's a *****........

t_perez1199

the marraige can't work unless both spouses want it to and it sounds like that's not what she wants. the only thing you can do is let her go and move on.

Joyce K

boy is she in for a rude awakening. the guy she is fooling around with? well he'll probably dump her once she divorces you because he doesnt really want to get married to her anyways. (you know the cow and the milk thing). unfortunately for you though you should cut her loose because she obviously isnt happy with you, (she went looking elsewhere) be kind, understanding as much as it hurts, but let her go.

qbanita0113

Give it to her... Why make someone be w/ you when they don't love you.. I couldn't be w/ my man if I knew he's in love w/ another woman. Let her go... Someone better will come along...

Ray

You definitely have an emergency type situation here. Remember to take care of yourself first then take care of your kids. I don't think her actions speak that she wants to work it out so what I would do is try to make myself as comfortable as possible for a cold winter so to speak. Remember to take care of yourself as best as possible, 2 little ones are counting on their papa bear. Be Brave.

just_jerk_it

get a good lawyer, make sure u get the kids and wish them a wonderful painful slow death together

movielovingirl

Go to counseling with her. Try to figure out why she was discontent in her marriage, and went looking elsehwere. Start praying. Go to church. Start spoiling her. Send her flowers, praise her, compliment her. Treat her so well that she won't want to leave you.

Quasimodo

Forget it pal. She made up her mind. You have an obligation to the kids. She isn't going to stop seeing this guy so you know what?....if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence let her go graze.

It'll wear thin soon...mark my words. Then when she comes back for reconciliation....tell her to get bent. You have you pride too I assume.

Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse

its going to be harder on you if you stay with her, then to leave her and get on with your life...im sorry to hear what happend..good luck..

George J

Get a lawyer. Close out ALL joint accounts to which she has access. Don't wait.This happened to a friend of mine. It takes year if ever to recover. It hurts but she has made up her mind.

the_saint1963

GET OUT AND GET EVERY THING.

yp_fanta_beaumont

Sounds like it's over. She has already move on. Go on with your life. If she wanted the marriage, she would have told you that there was a problem long before the other man. It's going to be hard but it willp be harder knowing that she is in your bed thinking about another man.

nxmom

pray about it.......but, if she doesn't want to be with you there is nothing you can do to make her stay.......even if she stays her heart and mine will never be completely yours....let her go.....

Elize-Helen

If you really love her, let her go. If she still loves you the most, she will come back to you. If she doesn't love you anymore, you've lost her all ready anyway

Need Answers

Kick her to the curb. You deserve better

Vthokie25

I am sorry man. I really am. You can not force people to stay with you even if you took a vow of marriage. I have to say that the best thing to do is to give her the divorce if that is what she really wants. The worest part about it is she is being selfish and the ones that are going to get hurt the most is the 2 young children. I know it is going to be hard and I wish you all the luck man. You have to be there for you children though.

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