My wife wants to separate so she can know if she misses me.?

arcy_wanna_b

My wife and I did the same thing, and a month later we got back together and we are better than ever and expecting our first child! Do what I did, get away. Go on vacation with a friend. Clear your mind.

And above all else don't call her. she will miss you if you don't crowd her. It is hard not to call, but try not to.

My wife and I separated because I had problems with my temper, perhaps there is something you can address. I started going to church and getting counseling and she saw how much better I was doing, and how hard I trying to fix things between us.

I know how much it hurts, but you need to start getting things together for yourself. Until she sees you can handle things better she will return. Just take things slow.

Good luck and God bless!

doodle

i am sure she will miss you take a cruise and see how she feels being apart will only make your love stronger and if some how she doesnt miss you im sure you will find some one who will

code_red

She prob wants to sleep around or some bs like that. I think the "misses you" is a load of bullcrap. Just end it and move on w/ your life. You'll get over it.

heartache

That's a bit harsh on her part but did she give you a time frame? I mean if it could prevent a divorce then I would say do it, but if she is looking for way to date other men, then I would just let her go...

jaydee78

I don't mean to be harsh, but if you were a friend I'd give the same adice:

Stay away. She doesn't want you anymore. She's not even sure if any part of her still NEEDS you. If her interest level is that low then trying to hold onto her is just delaying the inevitable.

Your only chance is staying away and letting her see what life is like without you. Hopefully she'll find that life is less enjoyable. If not, then you could probably be as lot happier elsewhere anyways.

h0twng

If you love her you will let her go. She obviously is not happy and persuadin g her to stay will only make it worse on you. Now that it is out in the open you should move out and start the proceedings to divorce. Life goes on and it will get better. To tell you the truth she is using the "see if she misses you" as a way to get out.

lpr747

that makes absolutely no sense. Tell her to take a month long vacation somewhere and then determine whether she misses you. She maybe trying to tell you something.

belizeigram

Tell her you already know the answer to the question .Distance makes the heart grow fonder , But also ask her this ...... How do you get over the ex? Ill tell you the answer ! Move to the next .

META-4-RIC

she just wants to seperate not get a divorce shell be bak jus be strong until then let her know ur a strong person dont be a mess around her when she comes around...and ask why the separation u might have f"cked up and not even known it....

dappersmom

I'm sorry that you are in this situation, there is more going on than wanting to know if she misses you, i'm NOT saying she's cheating not at all don't even think it, i'm saying she's having doubts about the relationship but you can never fix a relationship by leaving it, tell her that, suggest some couples counselling, marriage is a committment and she made it she should stick to it. she needs to figure out what it really is that she is worrying about oh and if she does leave, go out have a good time hang out with friends and that will drive her crazy! she'll be back in a heartbeat! let her know thats what you intend to do, that its not what you want but hey she's making the choice but definitely the better thing to do is stay and try to fix it. Good luck to you, i hope it works out the way you want!

javelin

If you mean like separate so she can go have relations with other men, then forget that. Dump her. If she means like she wants to take a vacation for a week, then let her.

scabs32

Everyone needs a little me time. Give it to her, it might break your heart but it might mend hers.

imurhuckleberry

go out one night and tell her that you are going out. go have a good time spend a night at a friends house...the next morning if she didnt ever realize you were gone then be gone

kjcdbh420

that is dumb!!! maybe she is having an affair and wants to see if the other guy is what she wants

lend322

I would not suggest that for your wife. Try to get her to try something else like counseling, marriage retreat, special getaway etc. She may need some alone time and a break away from things but if its solely to see if she could miss you, I have heard that getting away is not the answer. You both probably need to work on some things in the relationship. I understand why you are hurt. Didn't you both promise to love each other and stand by each other. Even when you didn't feel it.

madbul007

very contemporary thinking. Why did she marry you?
probably big Pedro at work is looking handsome to her.

But when man does it it a big thing, right?

Atique

My friend, it is over. She is leaving you for not comming back. I am sorry.

charlesjerrell

sounds like u love your wife, i think u know that u would miss her because u do love her, if the love is there, and you are apart, missing each other is automatic, u should have to seperate to know that you would

jason a

how about trying a little vacation away from each other for a few days or a week...

Confucious

i learned a long time ago. You gotta wear the pants in the family . I have been there and done that. You need to read the book "LOVE MUST BE TOUGH" by Dr. James Dobson. You can order it online at Amazon.com . She is testing you. Show her who is boss. There is actually a method you can use to make her come around to her senses. Dr. Dobson Explains it all in his book. He actually has several books out there. The one im talking about though, is "love must be tough". for married couples. There is one for singles also called "love must be tough " for singles. Go get it "NOW". You need to start from the beginning with the singles book. From the sound of things, you didn't start off right back in the dating years.

get ready to be dumped

sunnylustful

how long have u been married to her.

ERICKSMAMA

Give her some space...Alot of times it is good for both people. Give it a chance..It will show her you actually care about what SHE wants. I wish you guys luck.

oops1388

Its just an excuse. She wants to separate for good.Sorry to break it you.

carmine7972

That's f*cking stupid.
I think maybe she is leaving you for good and is just being nice.

Loser.

momwithbusyspirit1

This can actually work. I know people who have done this. It will go one of two ways. Either she'll realize how much she wants to be with you or she'll realize how much she don't.
You must be supportive and let her go. Don't be clingy or desperate for her. As that's a huge turn off. If you play your cards right she'll come back.
Let her know you don't want her to go, but you'll be fine without her. DON'T ACT NEEDY.

iampoo30

I just put my husband through this. Maybe you should ask her to explain why she thinks a seperation is the answer. My experience was because my husband didn't realize what he had. Our lines of communication weren't open, it is very important for communication to be open.

tiger baby

do u guys have any kids ? just curious!and how long u guys've been together? I dont think that the reason she gave to you wasnt true.May be she just find another guy or something?? That's such a bad thing.Anyway u have to find out why she wants to do that.Good luck!

priya

you shud only tell her life is not joke and marriage is not a time pass.. divorce is not way to know if she is going to miss you ... or elz tell her that your ready to give her divorce only on the day you realise that there cud be someone who can love her more than you can, who can treat her better than you, to the least the person who can walk hand in hand at the time of trouble,the person who may come along with more happiness than you can...

Yuliya

watch out she might never come back.sorry

Mz.H

I am sorry but what a *@%#^! That is a very bad excuse, if you ask me. Seems like she has something else in mind. If someone really loved you they would not say or even think up something like that. I say divorce her and leave her. She doesn't deserve you anyway. You can find someone way better who will treat you better!

wakawaka

i'd love to tell hang in there if your really love here and wait for as much as it takes, but on the other hand if her head is full of cob webs like my wife's she can easily make you crazy and the longer you wait for her you are prolonging the agony, so take a stand and decide. i certainly would not blame you if you decide to forget her and move on with your life, Try staying alone for a few months to a year and you will get a clear perspective of what the future hold for you. best of luck and i will pray for you.

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