Need advice on dating a married man ....?

alialoggi

I am the wife, they sleep with us both. They stay at our house and they go to your house. Don't be stupid! I would never touch him again after I found out, why would you willingly put up with that arrangement?

The bitter wife

Demand to meet his wife & if he's lying you can have my husband instead.

Twillback

Incoming sh*t storm!

IAskUAnswer

My advice for dating a married man - DON'T. He's MARRIED, even if he feels it's over, legally it's not, so you shouldn't be dating him.

erin c

I've been in this situation. I still love him too. But you can't continue being in a one way relationship. It's not fair to you. If you truly love him and he truly loves you. He'll understand that you won't continue on unless their is a solid effort to pursue your relationship. Good Luck.

Jody B.

What did you think would come from choosing to fall in love with a married man...happiness and bliss? Either grin-and-bare-it, or break it off until his situation is finalized. If you're meant to be together, you'll find each other again. If not - then it was never meant to be anyway.

Bitter B

If you are cool with the situation then stick it out but...there is always a chance they could 'fall back in love'. It happens allot. You may want to pull back a bit so you don't get hurt.

ndnqt1966

So you are going to believe this MARRIED man's bullchit about his marital situation? Best advise...dump him and find someone who is available...

Marcie

have you met his wife... the whole thing sounds fishy to me.
You are asking for trouble when you date a married man and if he is still living there... they aren't even separated.

Lov4nzyx2

DUMP HIM! You are worth more than what he is able to give you. If they want nothing to do with each other, he would find a way to get out and file for divorce. Divorce can be cheap these days if they divorce is amicable!

swtserenity43

You MUST have fallen off of the turnip truck yesterday! Come on, do you really think he and his wife have this "agreement"????? I never understand women that have affairs with married men...do you think you are so special that he will not do the same to you when he tires of you. Check the statistics honey. Men who cheat on their wives cheat on their girlfriends...and if they become the wife, they cheat on them. How can you trust him..and for that matter, how can he trust you...You love him??? How can you fall in love with someone who is married to someone else? That is the oldest line in the book...staying together for the children's sake. Man, grow up and smell the coffee. You need to run, not walk, as fast as you can.

free_angel

He's stringing you along. Cut the strings yourself.

Mary B

First of all, you signed on to get involved with a married man so lets be realistic- what did you expect? Things are not going to be the same as a relationship with someone who is fully available. You have not been seeing him for that long so I hope that the reasons he gives you for still living there are legit. Being that there is a child involved also, is not going to make the situation easy for you- no matter what, he has obligations that do not include you. I know it is hard for you regardless because it is ovious that you love this guy but, you need to stay strong because you have a bumpy road ahead of you until his divorce is final & he has established a totally commited relationship with you. At least you have contact with him on a daily basis so that is a good thing but, unfortunately you will have to learn to except what you have with him right now or decide to move on until his situation changes. I wish you all the best & hope that things work out the way you want them to- take care!

Tori

You knew this would be tough when you started a relationship with a married man. I am not here to judge but i think you need to realise that this will be a hard wait. Just know that if it is meant to be it will be. Good luck

americaniconus

really? you love him? or are you infatuated with him? if you love him back off a little and see what happens. you will then see your answer. you see, a man who tells you he has to stay for reasons of convenience lacks character. he should move out, do whatever he needs to do to handle his childs school schedule, and make sacrifices in regards to the finances. maybe he can move in with you, after all, this is about love isn't it? then you and he should prove it.

Jen K

If he would cheat on his wife and kid he will cheat on you...This man has no morals, get away you can do better.

mindy c

He's married???? Red flag stay away!!!!!! wait till the divorce is final and then move forward with your relationship, if you still feel that's what you really want to do. Do you really want to be put in the category of homewrecker even though he says they are going to get a divorce

:Sheila:

Put the pressure on. Tell him that you don't want to be in a relationship until he leaves the house, as it makes you uncomfortable. Then, if he doesn't leave sooner, and if he doesn't even leave in the fall, at least you won't have gone crazy in this relationship.. I'd say just wait it out alone. It all depends on how you feel in the relationship with him now. You say that you don't want to be in an unstable relationship, and you don't HAVE to be in one! Just put it on hold and see what he does.

I totally agree with erin c. Also, I think that he will respect you more when he sees that you won't be played as a fool, and when he sees that you have respect for yourself and for the relationships that you allow yourself to be in.

sapphire

Move on and find another man preferably single...If he cheats with you he will cheat on you.

toolgirl@att.net

cheating is wrong even a little bit

mommie

i think he is playing u like someone already said having said that i dont think he is the only one i the wrong here. sorry im a married woman and that is what i think

cindy w

Does it not bother you that you are an adulteress? That you have come between the relationship that God joined together (if it is his first marriage)? How would you feel if you were the wife? We reap what we sow and adultery is not the foundation anyone should want for their relationship. If a man/woman cheats on their spouse with you, they will likely do again TO you.

i read nothing but excuses in your question. there's an excuse why he's seeing you, an excuse for why he hasn't moved out, an excuse for why he's waiting to divorce. and you have excuses for why you are still in this 'relationship'. i wouldn't believe a thing this man tells me, but since you "truly love this man", i doubt that you are going to back out of it. any way i look at it, this relationship is unhealthy and doesn't seem to be going anywhere. and honestly, a man that cheats on his wife like this (not to mention there is a child involved!), couldn't have any quality that would redeem him in my eyes.

kae

he is not worth the wait. most men who cheat on their wives will tell that same story to their girlfriend. I think he is playing you.

Matt

You already said you are willing to wait. Is He?

gimme_jimmie48

my advice... move on

Jenny

Use him as a stepping stone to a real guy.

Crystal & Steve *Muah*

I was dating a married man, who had a kid, who lived check by check. GREATEST learning experience ever! At the same time the WORST!!! He was not over her. Nor was she. But, she had a boyfriend, and I was the girlfriend.... I think the only. Anyways... It's HELL! Believe me.... and if you don't believe me. See for yourself. Sorry what your going through :(
I know how tough it was.

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