Need help very upset and sad need advice!?

Satanic Brainsmasher

It sounds like I'm looking to bang other women. But if I don't find someone better. I will go back to you until I find someone better.

PrettyN

Let him go darling....I'm in my early 30's and I have been there already. When a guy says he doesn't know...it usually means he doesn't know if he sees a future with YOU...Most likely he doesn't see one and the only surefire way to know this is to let go of him. If he comes around than it was meant to be. It sounds cliche, but it's true. I have witnessed it myself. Make yourself busy...hang with buddies, go out and pamper yourself, go to the beach and seek serenity, read books, watch movies...have a pity party if you must. My late grandma, bless her soul, once told me in a similar situation "pretend you are on a vacation" and it worked.

Goodluck...

nett42965

Well, I'm 43 and have been through some real losers and all I can say is good luck. You're both young so I wouldn't rush anyway. If you want to put your relationship to the test, here's one way.
Back way off. Just worry about yourself for a while instead of letting his "lack of direction" direct you. If you try to force him to decide now you may push him away. It is a tried and true method to get a guy where you want him by distancing yourself for awhile. Just act like you have other things going on and don't let him know how anxious you are to take the next step. He'll realize that he may lose you if he doesn't "commit". This usually works anyway!

Raaaaach.

If I were you.. I would just tell him exactly how you are feeling, and show him that you can have a happy future together &that there really is nothing to be scared of, &if he still hasnt decided then you should just tell him that you cant wait around for ever for him to make a decision and that you need to move on and get on with your life, &not dwelling in the past...x

chivillry63

Sorry to say but he's already looking for something else in his life and unfortunately those plans don't include you, cut your losses and move on, you have your whole life ahead of you and you WILL eventually find someone to spend the rest of your life with,
Don
t be in such a hurry to "settle down" with anyone, your only 20 yo so start living life, in one more year you'll be able to legally go to clubs etc. if that's your style; move on live life and you WILL find someone how knows what they want and where they're going. Good luck

Tony N

He's basically telling you that he doesn't know if he wants to be with you any more. Drop him and move on, because he's a lost cause.

Happily Married to my Prince!

I advise you to move on. I'm not saying he will never settle down and get married, but he is FAR from ready. You need to make it very clear what you want out of the relationship and let him be honest about what he wants (or what he doesn't know he wants). Keep in mind, 22 is still young but if you are more mature and ready to start a family, or at least take the next step yet he isn't, it's going to cause problems. I've known too many people who stayed in relationships for years and finally left because the other person didn't want to settle down.

So either you wait around until he is ready to get married or possibly suffer heart-break because he will never settle down, which is honestly more like. This is one of those tough relationship choices you have to make.

Tracy H

I think he is keeping his options open. If he hasn't decided on a school, he may want the option to move out of state. Additionally, no one can tell you what the future will be and at 20 and 22, I wouldn't commit to moving in together right now. Maybe after he finishes school then see where the relationship stands.

â™¥Makeup Freekâ™¥

Your bf sounds like he got the last minute jitters. He's obviously worried or nervous about commitment. Whatever the reason, it's best he told you now, then after you moved in. Give him time, don't rush things. You are both stil young. Just take it slow. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, maybe he's just not ready to feel "married" yet. Talk to him and let him know how you feel, he's probably just confused and undecided. If you were meant to be together, then you will be....

Doc

Ok, sounds like you see him clearly. If possible, just tell him that the pressure is off and the two of you just be best friends for a while and see where that goes. You are both young and have plenty of time for things to get serious for both of you. Date other people for a while and encourage him to do the same. Like the old saying: If you love something set it free. If it is meant to be, it will come back to you, if not then it never was. This doesn't have to be an all or nothing situation. Just slow things down. Besides it you can't be best friends, there isn't much there to build on anyway.

amentofreedom

above answer right on the point

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