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angelfire360
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sweetie, it just means that you care alot about him. To be fair, you might be a little clingy. I have to ask, did you ever lose someone close to you at a young age or in the recent past? Because if you did, then that would explain quite a bit. Your friend is right to a point. It isn't that normal to have that the fact that you might lose him to death on your mind ALL the time. try not to obsess over that too much. If you believe in Heaven like I do, and I'm not trying to shove any beliefs down your throat, but if you believe in Heaven you should know that you will be with him for eternity if that is what you constantly pray for. You have to accept the fact that one day one of you WILL die first. The other one of you will just have to wait. You two are together. You shouldn't have anything to worry about especially if you love him and he loves you as much as you say, because death cannot conquer love. Love lives on forever, even if he body doesn't. You two will be together in Heaven one day. All you have to do is wait.
One more thing. If you spend all your time worrying about losing him, then you lose the time you have WITH him when he's already right in front of you. You spend all your time together worrying that you'll lose him, so you'll not enjoy the time you actually have together.
My advice to you is this. Enjoy what you have now. Dwelling on the fact that you could lose him will only cause you more pain than you need to bother with right now. Be a strong woman. You are only twenty. Since you never say his age, I'm assuming he's around the same age you are. He hopefully has a long life ahead of him, as do you. Enjoy it. Cherish each other. You will be fine either way. Even if you do lose hiim, know that one day you will be together again. |
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Evelosia
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I'm not married yet but im set to get married in april (providing my mother doesn't ruin everything lol ) but im worried about him getting into a car accident...theres alot of those here around columbus...im afraid of him getting sick...im afraid of dying myself...whats gonna happen to him!
it's not strange..its normal..at least i think so |
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Cha cha
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Its normal to worry, I worry too like when they interview widows on tv who have lost thier husbands in accidents and stuff it makes me cry. But i think getting him to call you heaps may end up making him resent you in some way |
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leopardstripes
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Naw, it's ok. You're new to this; some sort of fear is natural. Yours is just being expressed in a different way than most people. Almost everyone is afraid of loss of a loved one, whether it's the age-old abandonment issue, or fear of a grand piano falling on them from out of a clear blue sky. As time goes on, this'll pass, and you two lovebirds will both relax a little. Congratulations! And try not to worry too much. You're ok, and I'm sure he will be, too. Have a nice, long life together! :) |
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primalclaws1974
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If you just moved from your parents home when you got married, this isn't strange at all. You are insecure being on your own. It will get better. |
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Janice F
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I feel the same way sometimes.. I'm always scared he or I ( my bf) will die before we can get married.. I'm scared he will get in a car accident and I'll never be able to live life with him...
I constantly am paranoid that he will die..
It's not just you.
I also have anxiety issues though.
See your DR. he can put you on some anti-anxiety medications..
The way I see it, the world is screwed up. People die everyday... its onlY NATURAL for someone to think these things and worry, but we kind of have to forget about it and put it out of our minds so we can live life... so go on some anti-anxieties if you are concerned...
But NO you are not weird.. you just have anxiety, like ME!
at least you got married... im so scared me or him will die before we get to BE married lol. |
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AliSa DaNiElle♥
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I think its sweet but you shouldnt worry yourself to death... if u know jesus pray for him everyday all day, and if you dont know him you can still pray 2... but im sure you 2 will be together a very long time... congratulations... |
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Von
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No, it is not entirely odd to worry about your loved ones getting hurt or killed especially in the world we live in. However, this fear of your sounds like it may be getting out of hand and that makes it a serious issue. Whatever you do never watch the news before going to bed because that can contribute to your anxieties. |
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kathi1vee
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What kind of job does he have, anyway? If it's not a dangerous type of work to start with, then stop worrying so much. It's good that you are so concerned with his safety, but you are driving yourself nuts for no reason unless he is a firefighter, policeman, building construction, or other potentially dangerous occupation. |
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Libby
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This is normal however, it sounds like you are spending more time then normal thinking about this.
You may have abandonment issues or even OCD. You might want to see a therapist and talk about it with her/him.
Good luck! |
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itsme
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Matthew 6:34 - "Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Let the day's own trouble be sufficient for the day. |
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mo
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i think its normal for you to do that i worry about my family when they dont come home for a while and sometimes i think about what it would be like for my bf to die so i think its normal but then again im kind of crazy jk |
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sassy_girl
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some times in life u have to ignore certain facts of life ...
instead of worrying ..enjoy ur new life ...
there thing s u can never change and then there is future
u know nothing about ...
so why not live in Present ... and hope nothing bad happens
chill ... Play it cool
believe in GOD
best of luck |
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lady in RED
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I think its totally understandble that you worrying about ur hubby, I think u started having that family bond between both of you, which is good, I am sure you both will live the happy life and do not worry and think too much about sad things in life....
Good luck:) |
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drewxjacobs
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It's not wierd that you have this concern, but if it is an obsession, then yes, like anything else that consumes you, it would be considered abnormal.
I never had them about my husband, but my kids were another story. When they were out with friends driving around, I was always very nervous and made them call me whenever they arrived and when they were going to leave. I never allowed it to "consume" me, but I did not really breathe easy until they were safe at home. |
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kaleo
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you know, you are the only other person besides my best friend that i have heard that thought that way. i dont think it is completely unnormal but if it gets to much worse you should probably get checked out. my friend astrid got checked out by a psychiatrist and she stopped with the morbid thoughts. i am not telling you to go to a shrink, but rather to stay positive. you guys have many many happy years together so try to think about all the things you guys will get to do together. dont think about all the things that wont happen if hes gone. i hope things change for you...good luck... |
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Gfunkyfresh
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Not at all weird. I'm scared all the time for my girlfriend and we're not even married. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. It's the same kind of feeling concerned mothers get, it's just one of the many manifestations of truly caring about someone. From personal experience, I suggest you try and cope with it by reminding yourself that it is more rational to think that your loved one is fine. I know this is much easier said than done but practice makes perfect. Tell your friend that the reason most people aren't worried about this is because what you have is special and more rare, and when you have a healthy loving relationship you worry less about infidelity. |
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crankydad_9999
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It's not a problem to worry. It could become a problem if you start to become obsessive. You'll drive yourself insane if you dwell on the what if all the time. Does he have a high risk job? |
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csbiup
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I absolutely have the same fear. I don't make my husband call excessively, but I do check to see if he is breathing in the middle of the night sometimes. He sleeps too quietly.
I'm a nurse, so I see all of the terrible things that can happen to a person as far as injury or illness. I now he would never leave me on purpose, so I worry about him getting sick or hurt.
I think we feel this way because we love them so much and can't imagine our lives without them. I wonder, too which one of us will "go " first. I hope we both live to be 100. |
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kttphoenix
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You might be worrying a bit too much. Try to focus on the life you have together now. |
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sarabrooke27
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Thank You! I thought I was the only considerate wife out there. you are not thinking of yourself first. I worry about my husband getting hurt or sick or even worse, everyday. When I l leave him I say I love you because that could be the last thing I ever say to him. The last thing we say to each other before going to bed is, " I love you." because he might not wake up in the morning. I'm sure you understand what I feel. I always worry about this, and never him cheating on me.
I guess we know the true meaning of love don't we? To put the love for our husbands first, rather than our unfounded selfinvolved jelousy. |
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07
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yeah. i absolutely agree with you.
i am 14 and i am in love.
i love this girl so much i just cant imagine beeing without her.
i cant imagine how horrible it would be if she died
but hey, life is life and someday we will all die.
i just hope it isint anytime soon. |
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wife2denizmoi
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Of course that is normal! It will lessen over time. You will learn that his route to/from work is safe and eventually you will revel in the joy of being together and sharing your lives instead of worrying about the end. Congratulations and good luck. He's lucky to have you. |
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Mari
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I do not think it is odd to be worried about your husband--or anyone you love for that matter. If you are worrying about him alot and crying during commercials, there may be deeper issues you need to work out though. You should definitely go talk with a therapist or psychologist. It could be something you can work out with the help of a professional---like depression or a type of obsession. Being emotional or caring about loved ones is okay!! If it is interfering with your daily life-you may need to get some extra help. Don't worry though--I know from personal experience that a lot of people have these same feelings and you are not alone!!! |
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Carol T
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It is a very normal thing to be worried about. We find that special someone that we see as being with us the rest of our lives. Then we see something like that commercial and we are taken back at just how vulnerable and fragile our lives really are. Tell your hubby about what you are feeling. If he understands, then I wouldn't worry about what your friend thinks. It sounds like your hubby is very lucky to have someone care about his safety and well being. Enjoy your lives together. Live each and every moment, no matter how good or bad it may be. We marry with our hearts in forever mode. Life doesn't promise us that that forever won't end tomorrow. And if you've loved each other with all your hearts, then those moments won't have been spent foolishly.
Many Blessings. |
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arajason
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Even though I'm pretty far from marrying, I've thought about that before: What will I do if my husband/wife dies first??? I don't want to be left alone...
I've had times when I pictured my brother getting killed or hurt... and I almost cried even though it was just a daydream.
Maybe we are both weird??? Maybe it's normal for us to think thoughts such as these...?
I'm sure there are other people out there that worry about these types of things... Just relax. You shouldn't worry too much about these things yet.
Maybe when you're around the age of 50 you should worry more? |
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Jerry C
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This is not an odd question and it tells me 1) that you are not worried about cheating because you are confident in each others commitment to each other, and 2) you have such a close relationship that you have difficulty with the concept of being alone and without him. This shows actually a really close relationship and is a healthy sign. Of course taken an additional step it could become obsessive and smothering, but if your husband is happy with your concern, there really is nothing to worry about. |
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Anuja P
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Well I m glad, somebody thinks like me and I m not abnormal.. Well i m to get nmarried in next less than 3 weeks time.. And it worried me all the time wht if something happens to my fiancee... Its a troublesome thought...Scary...But now, after reading ur fears, i think its pretty normal... one becomes apprehensive when alls goin good... Happens.. i suppose... |
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Tangarin
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I think because you love your husband so much and your beging a new life together and the thought of loosing him is to great, that is why you feel the way you do, so I don't think it's a weird Q at all. Just try and think of all the good times ahead and cherish every moment together, just know that when the time comes you can't control when that time will be so worrying about it will only cause you stress and as a newly wed you don't want that. It's o.k to ask him to call you when he arrives at work and leaves if it puts your mind at rest. I hope you will have a long life ahead of you and your husband. |
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Illy
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This is just opinion not fact. I think it's normal to miss and worry about anyone you love. It's ok to think these things but what's important is that you remember, thinking about things that are bad is normal, just turn on the news like you did. Actually don't even watch the news it's depressing, nothing on the news is a pressing matter and if it were people would tell you about them. Just enjoy life and remember to think of the positive when you think of the negative. Don't expext to be happy, just be happy to be being and enjoy what you have while you have it day after day. |
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gabiehr9
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no it's not odd. your a person who thinks of the future could hold. your newly married and scare of what's to come.
it's ok and perfectly fine. but if it goes on for like a year then something is wrong and you should see someone.
but your fine and not crazy, just worried that's all. |
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