No Proposal yet and it's been almost 6 years?

ladysteelersince1976

Personally, if it had been 6 years, a child and a home you bought....Toss him out on his lazy ****. Why should he marry you. He has all he wants and hasn't had to work for any of it. The next man you meet, you shouldn't become a door mat. Stand up for yourself and make your desires known. You have wasted time on this man. I don't know why you would want a proposal on Valentines Day. You need to think long and hard about what you really want out of life and if this guy is worth all of it.

Bubi

Why buy a cow...

RYAN

He more than likely will not propose. Excuse my bluntness but you've already given him everything that comes with marriage (well everything except a life long commitment).

There's no incentive left for him to propose.

The Great Gazoo

If you are that concerned about it ask him to marry you I mean this isn't the middle ages. Women have earned equal rights with that also comes the right to ask a man to marry you.

Nelle16

Girl you already live together. Why should he waste money on a ring and wedding if your already acting like husband and wife? Big mistake.

um...ok, so the guy basically has a free ride- If this arrangement has been going on this long, I don't think I'd ever expect a proposal.
The message you're sending is- We can date forever.
You can live in my house without marrying me. I'll have your children and you don't have to marry me....
He's getting the milk and a whole lot more for free

Man in Black

I would have suspected when he didn't ask you to marry when you got pregnant that he probably wasn't ever gong to ask.

Been There Done That

Girl....wise up.....if he wanted to marry you He would have already......

<3MommyofACutie&anAngel<3

It sounds like you have given him all that he wants! If you want to be married to him, propose to him and see how he really feels about you.

Emanon

Let's see, you've already given him ALL the benefits of marriage without the commitment, why SHOULD he marry you? Why buy the cow when he got the milk for free?

Irving P

cristelle R

first of all, if i wanted to get married i wouldnt of waited six years... if this is what you want and you love him , then it is time for a sit down talk with him, if stilll no commitment then it is time to move on and fall in love and marry someone who shares the same dreams and hopes that you have

Tina

Why do you think a man who has a house that you provided and has benefited 6 yrs. of having whatever he wanted and needed from you.....playing house, would ask you to marry him?? Do you really think that is going to happen?? He has everything now! It is a lot cheaper walking away from a live in relationship then paying for a divorce. There is no way this man is going to marry you.

In Love with Mr. Perfect!

I think he probably has commitment issues. If he is not willing to commit then he needs to go. You deserve better. The only way to sort it out is to talk to him and see what he has to say about the situation.

Musica

If you hadn't received a proposal now, you shouldn't expect one. I'd think the guy is happy with things just the way they are...and has no intention on changing it, and is assuming you feel the same.

If it's marriage you seriously want, you're going to have to ask him. If his answer is no, then you'll have to decide whether you want to continue cohabiting with him, or leave and start from square one to find a man who is open to marriage.

mrskerlin

First I would evaluate your relationship. Are you happy? If you are then don't sweat it, if it was important to you to be married you won't be living together and having children together. Having a child together is a bigger commitment than getting married will ever be, so you are already there... If you want to get married then I would suggest asking him or talking to him about it.

Sam

I think he feels he already has everything so why would he need to get married. He already has you, a child, and a house to live in and he probably feels that getting married wouldn't change anything ..so why get married?

Maybe you need to nag him a little more. I had to nag my bf of almost 6 years and we're finally getting married next year. =) Just keep on asking him and see what he says. If he loves you, he'll marry you.

Wish you all the best! =)

Rose

Why would he want to marry you if you guys already have a child and live together? He just doesn't think that a piece of paper will do anything. Therefore, most people get married before they have any kids or right after they find out they're pregnant. Since you didn't get married when you announced your pregnancy, he might be one of those guys who don't think much about the whole marriage thing. In my opinion, he doesn't want to get married. He has everything he needs already. It might not be that bad. My co-worker lives with her man for over 17 years and have two children together. She calls him husband, but they have never been married.

Sophiesmom

It is leap year, you ask him to marry you...

iyamacog

Valentine's Day isnt for 2 more days. Perhaps he meant THIS is the year! Otherwise, he forgot his promise. OR he doesnt see the need to have the marriage certificate.
I would stop trying to guess his motives, and ask him.

nonyahbusiness

You may already be considered common-law marriage. And have you actually talked with him about this? Maybe you need to propose to him and put him on the spot. You'll find out real quick where he stands!

ladyren

Then you must decide if you wish marriage more than you want him. In two more years, it is common law anyway, and if you split, he is responsible for half of the rearing of the child.

So, do you wish him with you, or gone?

zila

i don't understand why the men must do the proposing

just sit him down and talk to him, find out if he's ready to put that ring on his finger, if he's not then you have a serious question to ask yourself

are you in this for the promise of a ring or for the love of your man?

if its love than why should a ring matter, it only brings tax deductions and makes separating more painful than necessary

keep an eye out on articles,more couples are choosing to abstain from marriage due to numerous factors

keep in mind you can always do the proposing

Grant Ray came on 12/8/08!

It seems to me like you have your heart set on this....Have you been bugging him about this? If you keep bugging him....he will keep getting freaked out about it. You can't force him to marry you!

Nena S

Sorry to say this, but Ryan and LB are right.

Why should he want things to change? He has everything he wants- without any legal papers. If I were a man, I wouldn't want to get married either.

That is precisely why I don't believe women should move in with their SOs - or have kids without getting married first!

You will have to decide IF you want to keep on waiting- perhaps forever- or not. Your call.

dollbaby2407

Maybe he thinks he doesnt have to marry you to prove he loves you. Do you keep asking him when he is going to ask you? If so stop.. My sisters both did that and one is now married and her husband keeps saying he didn;t want to marry her but she keeped pushing it and he's not happy and the other pused and now is getting married and her fiance is saying the same thing.. You may push him away or end up married to him and he might just end up the same way..

familylove

I was in that same position.. me and my fiance have been together for7 1/2 yrs. and have a 5 yr. old. we moved in together when I got pregnant and he proposed 1 yr. ago.. its not normal, but its not bad either

markeen

Call me old-fashioned but a man knows exactly what he wants to keep for life the second he lays eyes on it. 6 years is way too long not to do it, then again I dont see the importance of marriage if you two are together but given your situation that he lives in the house you purchase..you have created an atmosphere WAY too comfortable for him that he doesnt feel much of a man who needs to provide. "leave well enough alone" Men live by that their whole lives. Proposals should be surprises and not obligations or contracts due at the end of a given time period.
How would you benefit from marriage either way? Think about it. You guys have been together THAT long as opposed to married couples who dont make it past a year.
I think he is too comfortable. You may need to shake his hammock a bit..if it means that much to you. Ask for a BIGGER house..with HIS money.

LadyRed4u727

He is just comfortable hun, and although it is hard to face, the fact is it is part your fault...he feels like everything is fine just the way it is so y bother changing it by getting married, as far as he is concerned, u are already married...that is not a good position to be in...now dont get down on urself bcuz it is not too late to change it, u HAVE to stand ur ground, it may be unconventional but it looks like you cant leave this one up to him, you can ask him to marry you without having to get down on one knee and propose to him...the bottom line is sometimes when u want things to happen, you cant leave it up to someone else to make it happen for you...if at that time he says he doenst want to get married at all then maybe its time that you evaluate your relationship stands and if where you are now is as far as you are going to go, then it could be that you've gone as far as you can go, the decision is urz from there

Live Laugh And Love

i don't know when but i wouldn't Expect it

if it happens it happens if it don't it don't i mean the proposal thing

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