Ok, I am having a marital crisis, and I have confessed my husband?

that lately I look at men in general in a different way than before, and he tells me that I should do what I feel like doing!!!
he is in his hometown at least 1 week per month, going to job interviews but staying more days so he can party with his friends...don´t tell me to party as well, I think going to pubs/discos is sooooooo boring..
I was hoping for some more attention from my husband...can my marriage be saved???
I should add that my husband has been unemployed for over 1 year now and is feeling a liitle depressed...we have been together for almost 17 years, married for 6 years, we are only in our midthirties, no kids.

bayou_babe1111

next time he leaves to go "look for a job", tell him you went out & met someone that was really interesting - I bet he'll be home quicker than ever. if not, you know its over. how can you afford his little trips anyway? atleast you dont have kids to mix in the equation. good luck to ya!

Just that One

What is he doing going out with his friends if he has no job?

You lost me with that.

heather

Sounds like he is depressed about being unemployed and it's affecting your relationship. he may even have someone else since he is telling you to what you want.

I would suggest you work on improving your own happiness and figure out whats missing from your life. Perhaps you should speak to a counselor and get him to come with you. You also need to communicate your needs that you want attention from him. Sorry to say that this may not work out and you may be better off leaving him and starting a new life. you two have been together since you were young and maybe you are bored with each other or have grown in different directions.

IamSAHMiAM

Uh, I'd question his faithfulness to you if he's telling you to do " what you want." It might eleviate some of his guilt if you cheated on him. ?? Maybe he should start looking for jobs somewhere else.

Liz

Question really is how long has this been going on?!?!
If it's been going on for months & he's not willing to work things out I don't see a solution.

jexielia

The question shouldnt be "can my marriage be saved"... ask yourself if your marriage is worth saving.

Your husband is unemployed but out partying with his friends? Why is it that he's doing this and how do you feel about this? Have you told him how you feel?

If you dont care what he does, and his response is "I dont care what you do" then there's a whole lot of not caring going on and that's a shame really.

Are you supporting him financially? Are you happy in this relationship? I know it's frightening to think of moving on after being together that long but you are probably at the point where something NEEDS to be done.

Set him down and talk to him, tell him how you feel... hell give him some ultimatums - he should either be finding a job or at home with you, not out partying!

jojo

You both have to learn how to communicate with each other better. It sounds like you are losing that aspect of a relationship. A relationship can not survive without communication. I would suggest that you go to counseling together if he is willing and if he is not go by yourself.

smallcocklongtongue4444

you heard him...do as you please. if you're looking for some fun give me a shout

Miss Manager

i think it's time for you guys to have kids. it'll change things up a bit, and give you and him a better out look in life.... it'll definatley brighten the mood, and give y'll something to be happy and smile about~ it'll also bring you two closer together.

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