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if you're not happy then tell him about it.u dont really sound like a ***** ur just being honest about how you feel.so talk to him about it.if you're not attracted to him in any way then its understandable...you're not being a ***** so dont feel that you are.people might say u are but thats just bc they're not looking at the whole picture |
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freudian fate
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invest in veners adn a weight loss program...give him a complete make over...run jog walk together and take him to the dentist. |
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canadian heart breaker
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it's prob best to leave him considering you have kids. Do you want them growing up seeing a loveless relationship |
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kittykatsback
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I think you are just as ugly on the inside if you could actually bring kids into this sham of a marriage.
You deserve to lick his gross teeth every single day. |
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kyukyu99
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Hun, the truth is, the kids will be unhappy if you are unhappy. I grew up in a home like that and it was miserable. You have to take care of yourself and your needs first. The kids will come around. You can't stay with someone who you are not happy with. And as shallow as it sounds, you have to be attracted to your mate in one way or another, to make a relationship work. Its not all about the physical (thank goodness in my case, my husband would never have spoken to me lol), but there must be some kind of attraction. If you're not attracted to him, you owe it to yourself, and to your kids, to be happy. Would you encourage one of your kids to leave their spouse if they were in this situation and you were outside looking in?
Good luck, and take care. |
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peace
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i think that you should talk to him how you feel and if you really do love him, you can look past it... try and see if he could work out more, go to dentist and look nicer for you. if he really cares about you too, he will do that. |
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PiNkY
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Good grief, darlin'! You are a perfect example of why couples need to be MARRIED several years before producing offspring.
Learn from your mistake. |
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Darren G
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I think the answer to this question is to stop comparing yourself and him to other people! |
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Johnni
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As hard as it seems, tell him how you feel. Maybe he'll try to look better for you. |
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LonnieLove
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Why bother asking the question "what should I do?" You won't leave, then you'll stay with the cavity creep that you feel robbed you of your youth.....Sounds like you made decisions and want him to take responsibility.... |
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fauxxreal
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try signing up for a couples makeover type thing and explain its to make you both feel better about yourselfs |
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♥♥ Colton's Mom! ♥♥
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why dont u tell him that u think it would be fun to go out excercising together and stuff, then suggest the 2 of u get makeovers. if he refuses tell him how ur feeling. if he loves u he'll try and better himself for u. good luck! |
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billie joe calls me mother mary
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if i were you, i think that i would hire a therapist. because thats a tough decision and i would want a professional's opinion. |
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Just me
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Click on the Restart button!!! |
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brad a
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drop the hammer on him. not leaving him, but tell him that he's got to change. get on him to brush his teeth 3 times a day, and lose weight. its tremendously easy to lose weight if you try, he doesnt have to get 6 pack skinny but tell him its time to shape up. Fear is a strong motivator, if he knows your unhappy he'll change fast. |
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♥ LIFE!!!
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You don't sound mean. I dont think there is any other way around this than to just talk to him. Just be kind about what you say. Offer to go on a diet/exercise plan with him. (Even if you feel like you dont need to loose any weight -- it still couldn't hurt)
I commend you for sticking this out, most shallow women would have left (or cheated) a long time ago =) |
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Leaf
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Why don't you help him fix the things you would like to see changed. Join a gym together or start a work out routine. Research caps and veneers for his teeth and take your findings to him gently suggesting that he have his teeth fixed.
Good luck to you! |
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lady me
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what do you want us to tell you.....obviously people are gonna say leave if your not happy but you just said you dont want to leave.......wtf |
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fatboy
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do you live in lodi because i know a guy like that anyways do what your heart tells you to |
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Fo Sho!
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Well there are two options. You can put it all out on the table and tell your boyfriend what you really feel, and tell him you feel like you deserve better. The other option is to leave and move on. Everyone deserves happiness. If you are not happy, I am sure he isn't either. So why stay for the kids? It won't make things "happy" for them either. Good luck hun. |
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David S
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Is he kind to you? Loving? Does he have a job and keep up with his responsibilities to you and the kids? Isn't that more important than the size of his waist or the color of his teeth? Is it really his fault that YOU don't take care of yourself as much as you would if you were with someone more attractive? You need to GROW UP and start thinking realistically about your life. Sorry for shouting, but your shallow reasons for wanting to leave him make me sick. |
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cashloyley
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Tough spot. Tell him you would like to start taking care of yourself and let it show for a couple of weeks. Then, bring him into the mix and tell him you need support. Start excersising together, make appointments for the whole family to go to the dentist (so he doesn't feel picked on). You don't sound mean, just a little to stuck on a habit. If you're not attracted to him, maybe he's not attracted to you. It could work out better for the kids.. Everyone will be happy again. I am a firm believer that, you not being attracted to this man can put a strain on the way your children view relationships. |
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jbear
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I understand you aren't conceded - just tell him that its a turn off for you that he doesn't take care of himself - tell him you haven't felt the same for a while because of it - be honest with him but don't make him feel too bad about it. but if he doesn't change and he is repulsing you don't stay with him just because you have kids with him. |
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NelJua
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Why dont you both get a makeover? Start working out, stuff like that. |
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Forever & Ever
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There is a fair age gap between you two.
I don't think it is mean, to be honest I think a lot of women would be the same. Who really wants to passionately kiss a man who has awful teeth and they are not attracted to at all?
Have you ever considered talking to him about it and maybe you two could go to the gym together, claim you just want to be more healthy! and that could get him a bit fitter for you too if he's nice and prepared to work for it.
On the other hand if it really just has fizzled out for you, I couldn't possibly imagine being with someone who..well...'grossed' me out.
you shouldn't have to be in that kind of relationship where the guy thinks its ok to just let himself slide and not make an effort to look good for his girl . - saying this i am not saying end it, i'm just saying work on it and talk to him, if he's a reelly nice guy then I'm sure he would understand and want you to be more attracted to him. Teeth and weight. They are not VERY hard things to change. You can get whitening toothpaste that works or some cheaper teeth whitening treatment that is worth it.
It could be worse for you! |
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KANITA
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sweetie i guess you just need to sit him down and talk to him...tell him that maybe it would be nice if the two of you joined a gym, and worked out together...that way he wont be offended, and he would get his body back, and look great for you:) |
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& thats why i shot im your honor
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You can't change him. Try to think about the things about him that you were first attracted to, know that looks ARE NOT everything! but if he needs some serious help, help him to clean up his act. Do everything you guys can afford :P to make him look good. =]
Or get over it and love him for who he is =/ That's a possibility. |
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geneticbeauty
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u got with him for all the wrong reasons i mean yeah u got along but did he look as u type when u met him? and ur going to have to figure doing something with the relationship sooner or later u will cheat on him he grosses u out..how can u be intimate with someone who does that 2 u and it isn't fair to him either u need to be honest with him and let him no that you don't have no feelings for him....it hurts but ur being honest the kids are going to be his kids regardless of how u feel about him......goodluck |
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Tiffany
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you need to think about what is most important to you...is it your family, love, appearances, or what. once you figure that out you need to decide if you can live like you are now or if you can live without him.
does he know how you feel about his appearance? if not then you should be honest with him. he can change his appearance...teeth can be fixed, weight can be lost.
But do you really love him...if not then you should let him go so he can have a shot at some sort of happiness. he can't feel good about himself if his own wife won't kiss him. |
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