Ok, so u've spoken to ur partner about it, afterwards he does it..then what?

Even if they don't necessarily understand 'your problem', yet they do the things you've asked them to do...does it mean he's doing it under duress? coz he doesn't understand why you've asked him to consider doing something?
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well, applicable to any problem you'v talked abut really, where there's been a suggestion of what either of you can do to help a situation.
Maybe communication barriers for example; I wanted more personal communication/active interest in mylife as we'r a distance relationship, he states it just doesn't enter his mind to ask, & assumes I'll be msn all the time. I explained the imporance of communcation being in our situation. Now he does it more, but he's always said its against his nature. I feel bad for this too, coz I'd be fine with knowin he does it out of consideration, not under orders.

jude

sounds like he is trying to make the relationship work, and u need to be positive when he does what u want, and be appreciative.

mr.c

i'm beginning to see the problem here. you've driven him insane.

ah-ight

damn...he did it! why over-anaylize it?? geesh, he's damned if he does, and damned if he don't, ain't he?

Happy-2

I love my wife so much that I don't *have* to understand why she wants me to do something in order for me to do it. The fact that she is asking me to do it can be reason enough. Of course, I very much prefer to understand - I'm just saying it's not an absolute necessity.

kpopp

Please, ask specifics!

Douglas B

The question is did he do it out of love, wanting to fix things, or did he do it just to please you, that he knew it was the way back into your panties?

David

Then you be happy that your spouse has listened to you, takes your desires into consideration, and loves you enough to be willing to do what makes you happy even when it doesn't do it for them. Appreciate what you have in that regard, many of us don't get that consideration.

SSG D

They do it I mean did it out of choice they chooses to respect your wishes unconditionally, because they love you , then to question yourself in why they would do what you had ask them to do , shows that you are a very unstable person seeking a way to end what you have or to challenge it by means of self destruction. Get help

ranger_co_1_75

You lost me, be more specific and put it in an actual example of what happened or didn't happen.

kitkat

I guess some might, others do it because you ask.

rooney

What, just ask your question with details of your situation then maybe we could make sense of your question!

edit: that's who is, you married him. One thing I learned in my marriage is that it's an uphill battle if you want to change your spouse, in the end if he does change it won't be without lots of fighting and a lasting resentment towards you. Just keep communicating, baby steps, you can't expect things to change over night, over a week, over a month, it could take years! But in the end you chose him as a partner, accept it for who he is. if he does make efforts to change then RECOGNIZE that and tell him you see change and appreciate it.

Debbie B

Ohhhh jeeezzzz.....another one

Magic 8 Ball (Call me BILF)

It means that he understands that you don't like it, but he doesn't necessarily care.

munkeroos

If my other half says something bothers him, I quit doing it. Even if I don't understand why or how it could possibly bother him - because I like to make him happy and I certainly don't want to knowingly do something that gets under his skin.

Conversely if he asks me to start doing something - I will try my best, whether it goes against my nature or not, and whether I feel it's necessary or not - because it will make him happy.

There are a few exceptions, if it's an unreasonable request, or something I refuse to do - but he's yet to ask me to do something I'm unwilling to do.

I don't do it 'under orders' I do it out of compromise and team work. I put out the effort to make and keep him happy, whether it's a natural thing for me to do or not - and he does the same. Win/Win

Unforgiven

if he agrees to it, (LIKE my hubby) he may eb agreeing to shut you up, he may think that you are trying to control him, and if he goes against the agreement in some shape or form, then he never agreed with you in the first place, just lied ot make you shut-up.

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