Once again I feel bad....?

lady_phoenix39

Yeah. He was clearly insensitive....as for dumping him, yeah. I'd consider it.

Klingon

I would DUMP HIS A**!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Elaine P...is for Poetry

I would be delighted. He has just proved to you that he isn't in the least bit concerned about your feelings. When the month is over, tell him he has not proved that he respects you and you feel it's time to move on. It's senseless to continue on like this. He'll never change and he proved it at the party.

Anthony F

He is sending you a message loud and clear. Read it and take the appropriate action.

juscurious

Hell yeah i would be mad. Forget mad I would be LIVID. I would tell him exactly how I felt and tell him that he isn't acting like he really wants me to stay.

I mean how is he just gonna let you sit there and go off with another woman. The least he could of did was ask you to go and watch the game, you could of been his personal cheerleader.

taraevansin98

girl, you should have gotten up and went with him to watch him play that game,,,,just b/c others are playing "bags" what is that by the way.....anyhow involve yourself in him too. now if he wouldnt let you go watch him play,,then id be a little more concerned about him and the female coworker being alone for 3 hours.

in the big easy

id be very mad. not because he played for 2 hrs but because he involved some tramp over you.
and whats this about proving you he respects you.
girl, go get yourself some hot mute action!!!!!!!

pinktink

You know, one time I went to a wedding reception with my first husband. I was visiting with a group of ladies and later that evening when nearly everyone was gone I started wondering where my husband was and I found him sitting alone in an empty room. I didn't intend to abandon him, but he was very hurt by what he percieved as such.

I could have taken more interest in his goings-on earlier that evening and would have sacrificed social time that I hardly ever got to enjoy (I was a FT undergrad student at the time). Or, he could have sought me out and joined the conversation - he knew all these women.

Respect is a two-way street. I can understand your feelings are hurt, but be more pro-active in your approach with him and he'll reciprocate. If you end your marriage over this incident then you've not allowed yourself the opportunity to become involved in the solutions that will hold you both together.

Good luck.

JennyPenny

It sounds to me like yall have been having problems already. He may just have not thought about it. When guys get caught up with their friends then tend to forget about us. ( yes it's sad but true) just let him know how you feel.

goodgirlabout2gobad

I would definetely be mad, and he has broken his promise. I think you would be better off without him, he obviously doesn't care about your feelings. I think I would have left him there with his co-workers. I know how it feels to be left with a bunch of people you don't know talking about stuff you could care less about. Stop giving him opportunites to hurt you. Leave.

Old Man

Mad isn't the term I'd use. Sounds like he doesn't even like you. You said she. Sounds like he might have another honey.

just me here

Be mad??? No, more
like feeling like a total idiot!
Are you sure he wasn't playing "his"
balls with that other woman??
Think about that one Goose!
Why did you wait..2 hours??
15 minutes would've been good enough
for me to go hunt down my man..
You gave him time, he gave you ..NOTHING!
Nothing but "egg" on your face.
Make me wonder what his co workers
think about you now..
Are you sure they were not in your hubby's
Little game??
Think about that one..
Yes, he is trying to get rid of you.
He didn't give the time of day there,
why settle for second best??
Good luck Girl.

nancy p

That was rude and insensitive! Shame on him. 48 hours is plenty of time, trust me. He wants a month. Its still on his terms! Take the 48 hours and get a new life hun. Sounds like you are not respected at all.

Noe F

Yes you are correct. I would talk to your hubby in a calm manner, write it down for him, and have him consider the seriousness of the matter. Evaluate his feelings tell him yours and good luck....

lotteda717

Big yes! The coworker is who he was thinking about not you.I would have called a cab and left,went home and packed his bags.Then call another cab to take the suit cases to him at the party.I would not be a door mat for anybody if I was you.He wants to prove to you that he respects you.ha! Throw the bum out.

Taracita

I could see why you would be upset and feel abandoned. What I have to say to that is actions speak louder than words. His actions apparently aren't matching what he's saying. You should tell him about your concern. Be upfront with him and communicate to him what you did not like about the situation. As much as we want to say, "Well, duh, he should just KNOW that that would be wrong!"...we can't always assume. It's best to tell him blatantly how it affected you. Open the lines of communication and see how it goes from there. If this is a marriage on the rocks then I would try to also talk to a counselor or church pastor, etc. about what's going on before it gets blown into something bigger. It's always good to have outside support from someone you can trust.

nemofish

yes, I would be mad...it was very inconsiderate on his part....he should have wanted you to be with him..game or no game....a half hour would have been long enough for me....If the situation would have been reversed, would you have left him there for 2 hours???? he shouldn't have to "prove that he respects you"...it should show in his actions.....sorry i'm being harsh, but I would have been really mad............

I hope things get better.... you deserve it :)

juanita

girl i would be VERY mad not only was that rude and disrespectful, it was uncaring and oh... i just hate it when the man that is suppose to love you respect and take care of you treats you like a stranger im sorry hun you so deserve better if you need a friend you can message me i am 33 and married also

dlmrgnk

I wouldn't be mad, I'd be gone (well, mad too but GONE!!). What about disrespect and not caring don't you understand? Look, I KNOW it's not easy when you learned some poor lessons growing up. Parents teach some terrible lessons and you learned them well, didn't you? Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words and if he talks like a dreamboat, acts like a turd, doesn't follow through on what he says, there is no other conclusion you can reach. Learn to value yourself and require respect and honor from those in your life.

~~HaVe An AwEsOmE dAy~~

First of all he should have never left you alone for two hours. Even if a coworker was going to play why couldn't you have gone and watched? He is not trying to give you the respect that you need.

bigbro.rm

As a man I know better to not include my girlfriend. I feel he has a big lack of respect for you. Maybe he has a thing for this woman at the party? I enjoy having my girlfriend around,when she wants me there. We are kind of in the same situation. I'm ignored all the time. think it might be a good idea to talk to your husband with out using the "you" word. That would be an attack. You can tell him that you were hurt,because you were not invited. If he loves you,truly loves you,he will listen
Good luck!

kathyw

I might be mad and talk to him later about how I wanted to play 'bags' too (I don't actually know what game that is). But his answer would probably be that you should have gotten up and joined the game on your own. You could have just excused yourself and said, 'I think I'll join the game.'
Maybe what irritated you the most was that you were left with people you don't know who were talking about work. The thing is, that's what coworkers do and it is very boring for other people.

in limbo

Listen sweetie your man took you to a place among his peers and then left you to drown in your own sorrows helpless and hopless if he did that to you i front of other people what else would he do? If i were you i would have a get together with my freinds ahve them invite single men have a couple of drinks talk to as many men as you can and leave your man waiting in the background as if he were a stranger to you as well and as soon as you get home dump his sorry butt!!!!!!!

maaniangel

I agree with anthony,its obvious what hes trying to do,he wants you to be the one who leaves.So hes not the one who walks away,instead hes gonna make it unbearable for you...Its all games,you could stay and play too or find someone else to play with or just have some time sorting out your own self worth.Either way good luck hon!

ugcj10

Question? Since the party was work related was he trying to network and get in with key personnel? And what is bags? He still should have at least come back to check on you. Did you explain to him how you felt. Sometimes people have to be taught how to express love. His intentions may not be to leave you by yourself or act insensitive. And he may need to be taught exactly how it feels. Is he a outgoing person where you are more of an introvert? There are always a lot of uncertainty involving a relationship especially if you are thinking of leaving. But life is too short to be miserable especially if you are in a marriage.

MizR.amerIZ^Latina

HELL YA but if hes really a good guy and really loves u some times you have to look away from the silyness. it sounds like hes a bit inconsiderate. try to talk to him about ur feelings and it should be okay

KELJO

i would be pissed and i would tell him where to go and i sure as hell wouldn't have sat there for 2 hours waiting for him to come back! i would have gotten up and found my own fun WITHOUT him!

sunny babe

i would be so mad! thats just awful ovbiously u guys should get some help at least he should lol god bless!

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