Opinions on something rather than advice.....?

toto

Totally agree ..... Think it is to easy for people to think of the woman as a bit of a loose woman yet the man is just said to have taken what is offered on a plate .... would he eat sprouts from a plate if he didnt want to ???

sparkles

I agree that it is the man that the women should be mad at, but however if the other woman knows the man is married and she continues to have the affair, she is just as much to blame.

quornandwafflesagain

yes you are right why blame the other woman when its your man thats done the cheating, he knows he's married, she may be single or not know hes attached or may not care, his marriage and fidelity is his concern not hers and he should take the blame.

Patti C

I am with you. The husband is the one who made the promise to the wife, not the other woman.

human_meat_is_yummy

your right, but women just hate each other naturally.

Blinky

She should take 'em both.

marie s

well i say it takes 2 to tango, both as guilty as each other, the guy shouldnt get invilved if he is married, and the woman shouldnt get involved when she finds out he is married, its swings and roundabouts

Lisa W

the spouse makes the decision to cheat, the spouse is responsible for their own actions, not just the other woman/man.

eagledreams

It is sadly deep in many peoples psychi that somehow theman is led astray by the woman......when really often the man is the predator....by nature. There is always choice and he made his choice when having the affair.......too often the wife feels to blame in some way that she has let her husband dow driven him into the arms of another woman. The truth is the man is often the one who could have made an attempt to talk to his wife and repair anything lacking in thier relationship bu instead acts like some helpless and hapless creature. Same works in reverse if it is the woman having the affiar.

MICHELE S

agree 100%
Some women wear rose tinted glass when it comes to their men.
Sometimes the other women doesn't know she is other women till its too late.
Men don't seem to care sometimes how much they hurt someone & they play so innocent when they do get caught, like she offered it to me on a plate etc
but tell me wat man is gonna turn down a bit of fun on the side if they can get away with it.
Women can also be like that, but if they cheat on their partner its their fault not the other blokes

qwid_pro_quo

I agree also ... but I have a possible reason why, if she starts pointing fingers at her husband, she runs the risk of him saying "because I cant get it from you", and then she has to take a look at herself ... much easier to just blame the other woman

because, at the end of the day, then she doesn't have to take responsibility for her part

... and, like it or not, we all play a part, not just the cheater

xyz

I think that people dont really want to accept that partner chose to go out on them and the other person is to blame. I do not think that way, I think it is everyones fault at one point or another for the relationship to make it to that point.

Lydia

Of course it is the person who had the affair who needs to be the brunt of the anger, etc. That is the spouse who has broken the wedding vows. But I have seen the same things you have, even on this site, women wanting to contact the "other woman" and get revenge, etc., whereas they should be redirected to their husband's problems. Or, vice versa, gender-wise.

MISSY G

You are totaly right the Man is to blame, he is the 1 in control , he can always say no if being chased, but if he is the 1 who started the affair then what else is there to say

hockey sticks

Agree whole heartedly - m opinion is if the oter woman wants him she can have him - why fight over a prat

ANDREW H

I agree with you entirely.

The person who fouls up the marriage is the culprit & this affects all the kids.

The grass is hardly ever greener & the person that gets the aggression may not even know that the person is married.

It is a shame our society is seriously lacking in standards & morals.

54321

i agree,but when your really hurting its not that easy to think rationally......;)

Smiles

Becaue the truth is harder to swollow than putting the blame elsewhere.
It is harder to work on a relationship after betrayal and focus on the husband being a cheater while trying to stay together while you are feeling all these nasty feelings left after rejection and betrayal.

Why not me

Well the shoe is on the other foot here, my wife has cheated and I was angry at her as much as I was angry at the guy. I blame my wife for this mostly because she should have said no. I also think she was the one that instigated it. As much as I would like to do some foot to a*s to the guy, the blame goes squarely on my wife's shoulders, and I'm not about to go to jail for beating some dirt bag down, because she felt the need to give it up to someone else.

kitkat

My hubby knows that he wouldn't be that lucky..........

I completely agree. Maybe she is angry at the other women because she blames her for leading her husband astray, but it takes 2, it's both their faults. Also maybe blinded by love for her husband.

loulu

I totally agree with you! I was the other woman ten years ago and now I am the wife (have been for five years). The ex still carries that ax around waiting to grind it.....she is still very bitter and it all boils down to her jealousy.....if she hadn't been such a hag, she wouldn't be where she is today.

JustWant2B

BLUNT took my answer, but I agree that the husband is the one that made the commitment so she should definitely be angry with him. If your not happy in a relationship either work on fixing it or get out..Affairs are wrong..

Blunt

It takes two to tango.

Starla_C

I agree.

vintagechic1

AGREE...

adelaide

i think it is the woman's inability to deal with her husbands betrayal. it can be easier to deal with the intrusion of the other woman instead of the deep pain the husband has caused. the women on the talk shows seem to be in denial. as though by blaming the other woman they do not have to face the truth of the relationship. they guard their man while he runs around playing catch me if you can- sad situations for people. i wonder though if these other women chased after the men. maybe they feel their h wouldn't have strayed unless he was actively persued.

ohdarnitsmeagain

I agree with you, the one cheeting is to blame.(period) The person that they are cheeting with might not even know that the person is married and even if they do dose not make them the married person.
I agree with you.

Pinkflower

Yes i agree with you on that one :) some women are strange as i would have a go at my hubby and no one else.

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