Pictures of ex's -- what should I do with them?

InquiringMind

Memories are something that no one can take away....take them....but dont hide them...let her know you have them...see what the reaction is....if it bothers her I say get rid of them....
She may be okay with it...as SHE is with you now.!

We may end relationships but that does not mean there were not some good memories and times that we liked and are a part of who we essentially are!

Everyone that comes into our lives helps shape us into who we are!!! Good ones and bad!!!

yadira25

if you have children between the 2 of you, give them to the kids. or give them to your parents if they are still alive. you may want to ask her if she would care to have them.

Kitten Toes

Ask your new wife how she feels about you keeping them. Or ask your ex wife if she wants them. I wouldn't find it weird as long as you kept them tucked away as opposed to on display.

Andrew W

Perhaps you could scan them onto disc and throw the originals away. A happy medium?

Misty E

GIVE THEM BACK or give them to one of your exes family members.
Thats the decent and kind thing to do

Shades of Greyâ™¥

Some years after divorcing my first husband.... I had his sister over for lunch (I remained friendly with his family) and we took apart three gigantic photo albums. She took home dozens of photos and I hung onto a couple.

If this isn't within reason for you, maybe send them to her or her family....

Queen ME

If you have kids, put them in an album/scrapbook and give it to them.

~nicole~

Well I kept all my wedding pictures after I divorced only to give to my son when he is older. He may want them. And I didn't feel right throwing them out.

Sara W

throw them out. you don't want your new wife to feel insecure knowing that you have pictures of your exwife tucked away in the garage. if you have children with her, you may want to see if they want the pictures. just don't take them into your new home with your new wife.

Kat the Great

Why don't you just stick em in a box in the back of your NEW garage?
Don't throw out your precious memories - they are part of who you are.

Tessa

i don't think it's weird.
i mean she is a part of your history right?

you could just put them in a small shoe box or something, that's what i do with all my old notes and pictures

David S

give them back to her
that's the best thing to do.

if you can't find her, contact her relatives.

and if that fails, get a beer, make a fire, and reminisce about good times. don't hate, just bask in the memories.

answerthisx0o

just throw them out or burn them or something you dont wanna creat problems with your new wife do you?

It really depends on how you feel. Can you talk to your current wife about it? if you packed them and bring them just to hide them then it really isn't fair to your wife. Myself, I would throw them away...the past is just that, the past. Did you have children with your ex...then give them to the children if you do not want to throw them away.

xoxo

keep em.. or just ask her what does she think.. explain to her that you dont feel nothing for her .. but it was a memorie in ur life..
there should be no problem...
good luck

daisee1203

I feel keeping a few of yourself during that time period is okay but I wouldn't keep anything with her in it. I have a feeling you want to remember the good times and your marriage that is now over is something you are probably okay with not having a visual reminder.

Corgis4Life

When my divorce is final, I am only keeping pics for the kids... they need to have pics of their mommy and daddy, other than that... they will likely not hold much value to me other than the fact that I spent 8 years of my life with this guy. The pics will go to the kids... I won't throw them away, the kids deserve to have them and see their parents in their "happy" times.

daljack -a girl

I would put them in a box and take them with me.

You had a life before your new wife and unless you're an idiot and take them out to look at them....she should understand.

dillsweetlady1

JUST GET RID OF THE PIC'S BECAUSE YOU'RE STARTING A NEW LIFE AND YOU DON'T NEED TO BRING THE PAST WITH YOU. LET THE PIC'S GO OR SEND THEM BACK TO YOUR EX

finfan4002

if you have kids give them the pics ,if not offer them to your parents OR hers

cheryl-lynn u

no.and if i ur you i wouldchoose the one i love best u wit me

Heatherrrrrrrr

What do you really think of the pictures? Do they define you or your past in any way? Why are you holding on to them now?
If they really don't mean anything to you then toss them or ask your ex if she wants them so you don't have to carry them cross country.
If you are attached to them maybe just keep one or two and toss the rest.
I probably wouldn't want my new hubby keeping a box full of pictures of his ex unless their are pics of kids and other family members there is no need to have them. It is history.

Rebecca S

Well if you have children you should save them for your kids. Other than that maybe you could give them to your mom to hang on to.

Sweets

My fiance has pictures of his ex wife and family and we literally sat down one nite, had a bottle of wine, and just looked through them and all the memories he had. I don't think its weird to keep them. You obviously love your wife but no matter what ever happens, you have a past. Plain and simple. Your love doesn't change just because you have pictures. My suggestion to you is to keep them in a box. Its not holding onto your past....its just remembering life.

mrmilo02020

personally i would say get rid of them what's the point of keeping them?

slsvenus

A few years ago i went through all my photos with the intention of throwing out any with my ex husband on them. But as i got down to the task, it just felt wrong, we had a lot of holidays with friends and removing all the ones with him on them felt like a lie. In the end i threw away all the ones of him on his own and any of us as a couple, and of course my wedding album and kept group photos.

I dont think keeping hold of them should be detrimental to your new relationship, and if this relationship is going to work, this should be something you can discuss with your new partner. Maybe she is having a similar dilema....talk to her and explain you would quite like to keep them packed away in the garage and take it from there. There might not be any issue at all with her but you wont know untill you discuss it.

jtease

IT'S THE PAST EX. BURN THEM!

huny

You are about to start a new life with someone else. Get rid of them. Ask your ex if she would like them

aquarius2104

Even if you are moving pack them in a box and store them anyway. Pictures are good memories, regardless of how bad the marriage had ended. Do label the box so your new wife will not accidentally stumble upon them and be shocked one day, but do keep them. I keep all of my pictures for the reason stated above.

Right Wing Extremist

Ask your Ex if she wants them. If not and you have no attachment and no children that would want them I would throw them out. The only reason I have mine is because of the kids

robert.l.sanchez@sbcglobal.net

These pictures are a record of part of your life. It has nothing to do with your ex or that relationship. Keep them simply as a record of that period of your life. Then build a new wonderful life with your new spouse. Someday you'll want to see those pix again. Or your children might want to see them someday. Find a place to store them and keep them safe. A closet shelf, a desk drawer, whatever. As long as you're not building a shrine in your bedroom to your former life, your new bride need not be jealous.

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