Please help.. I am confused why was he so angry?

Baconator

Geesh!!! - and you miss talking with him???

And he still wants to talk to you???

Get a boyfriend you can see in person!!!

I got annoyed just reading the question - you two must really be annoyed by it. Your FANTASY relationship is NOT real. Move on - leave each other alone - get a hobby or read a good book.

getmymackon

Get rid of him for good. It's not worth the pain and suffering.

Stella S

He's a control freakazoid. He enjoys getting you on the run but as soon as you try and take control, he gets angry. Drop him and do it soon.

Sonny Walkman

He's trying to control you and wants you there when it suits him and as a convenience.

The chances are he doesnt want you to move on and find someone else even though it was he who dumped you originally. - He can't have things both ways.

Qyllix

You need to protect yourself. You have the chance to find someone who will treat you like you deserve. Break all contact, and make it stay broken. Good luck!

wish I were

Give it up and move on! It's already over!

what's the point

I think by the time you finished writing out your question you knew this guy isn't worth your time anymore.

Amanda

Sweetie, move on...life is too short to wait around for him to decide whether he wants you in his life or not.
You are worth much more.
I think you were right to want to cut all ties, as this is what happens and it doesn't help the healing process.
Take some time out for you, ignore his calls....you will I promise, look back and be glad you did.
Good luck xxx

Karin C

Your boyfriend is a control freak. None of what he says is about love, or caring; it's about control, specifically about him having control over you.

You need to get therapy or counseling to help you understand and recognize an abusive relationship when you see it, before you get into another relationship. And you need to cut all contact with this person, as he is behaving abusively.

This is a website that I have found helpful in gaining insight into abusive personalities and abusive relationships. http://www.drirene.com/verbalabuse.htm

Please get help. If you cannot recognize an abuser and understand the dynamics of abuse in a relationship, you are at risk of great harm.

seew

Don't meet him. It sounds like it has been over for a while. Long distance relationships are too much trouble anyway.

sweetheart88

head games

crappiekat1

He's stringing you along. say goodbye, he's seeing someone else and also wants to hold on to you, let it go!!!

Brown eyed girl

Long distance doesnt work honey hate to break it to you.

eagledreams

This guy wanted to make you hurt......he sounds to me like he has issues and wants to continue to have a control over you. It is up to you to deprive him of this control. He still has power....power to deliver hurt throuigh playing with words and in turn playing with your m,ind. You need to be strong...change your phone and severe this malignant contact,

P B

Move on as painful as it is.... there is no future between the two of you from his actions. He just wanted his cake and eat it too.

Pama

Sounds like he doesn't want to be with you but wants to know what you are up to, hence the phone calls. Get yourself someone who wants to be with you and who loves you. Good luck.x

pitmanette

He wants what he wants, when he wants, and no matter why he wants. Unless you envision a life as a doormat, get out fast!

Nena S

I agree with the other answers.....LDRs are hard to maintain; and from what you wrote he is not in love with you ...YET he still wants you to be there, available, whenever HE feels like talking ! This is NOT fair and it is also NOT healthy.

You should look at what he DOES..not at what he SAYS. Talk is cheap!

He sounds like an immature and selfish person...Why do you want to have someone like that in your life? You deserve better than this manipulator !!!

Stop ALL contact: no calls, no emails, no visits, nothing! He is making it very hard for you to move on and that is HOW he's doing it: by still being "there" and making you think about him...So don't continue to play this harmful game and cut the strings.
Move on and don't look back. Someone who will love and respect you is out there....Good luck!!!

kystarlyte_kystarlight

Move on honey, he's over you. I know it hurts, but time heals all wounds. You will meet someone who can't live with out you. God bless you and good luck.

princess t

I personally wouldn't waste my time with him, he is stringing you along and it seems as though he only wants you when its on his terms and thats not how friendship and relationships work.
He sounds really selfish, and is probably saying that he hates you and has moved on to hurt you and get you chasing him as you weren't there to speak to him when he wanted too.
Move on..it will be realy hard at first but it will get easier, you will find someone eventually and you will be a lot happier rather than hanging about waiting for him to speak or see you.x

aidanj

get rid of him he isnot theman you first meet and fell in love with.

bballbabe725

if he really loved you and wanted to be with you he would deal with the long distance. if you really want to be with someone you go to all lengths to make it happen. i was with my boyfriend for 2 years and a year we spent it long distance 9 hours away from each other and we made it work. we had our rough times but we did our best and we always reminded each other how much we wanted it to work and we made it happen. and 2 years later we are still together and engaged doing great. you need to move on and find someone who wants to make things work and will do watever it takes to be with you. he isnt worth all the pain you are going through.

o0lilazndemon0o

He's using you for comfort, and annoyed by you when you want comfort.

it's a bit like the situation in Lily Allen's Smile. Check out the music video on youtube if you want. maybe that'll comfort you a bit.

~*tigger*~ **

anger is hurt turned inside out
its hurt hes feeling that you wont understand where he is coming from and why he's doing what he's doing

You ask, I answer

tell him to get off the fence. either he wants a relationship, or he doesn't. i think you need to move on. he doesn't seem as though he's dependable.

kenny e

In any break in a growing relationship, it is likely that one person will find new boundaries to explore and may see existing or old boundaries as the barriers that were subconsciously imposed at the beginning of your relationship as restrictive. He may now view your originally shared limits of normality as restrictive. Wanting to 'move on' is a dangerous, yet exciting experience which can only be cushioned by being allowed to hold on to the past through you. Allowing him access to the past by 'talking' permits him to explore new areas of life independently whilst having the comfort of normality that is you, that was your relationship. The dangers of this situation are that it effectively makes you a 'doormat' if he moves on permanently, or 'the love of his life' if he doesn't. It can only be your choice. Good luck!

Mel26

get rid totally,as you are obviously in pain the last thing you need is to be held by a string,its about time you cut all ties.

bluebrancall

hi if i where you i would move on,plenty more fish in the sea,you deserve to be treated better than that,best of luck blue

sian p

let it be, I think the ship has sailed so be the first to contact him and tell him you don't want to meet and that it's over.

pretty

so it hurts yeah but he's toying with your feelings he doesn't love you just leave him it's not the end of the world life still goes on if one door closes another opens forget him all the best.

dawnb

Why are you letting this guy run you all over town and rule your life? He broke it off, now he has to deal with that decision. Stop asking him to talk to you, stop talking to him just because he wants to, and tell him to move on. It will hurt a whole lot less if you set this guy adrift. But you need to get a backbone and take charge of your own life.

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