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I know i said in the wedding vows 'in sickness and in health , better or worse' etc. My husband got sick last year and we have been to 6 or so doctors ( i have to take him everywhere) and nobody knows what is wrong with him. He has memory loss on top of everything else so it compounds to the problem. he has not worked since last June and plays computer all day or sleeps. I think if he is able to play a computer game he can do some type of work. We have 4 children the youngest is almost 4 the others are older. I went back to school in October and he has seemed jealous of me ever since. Without me around he would miss every scheduled appointment and does not seem appreciative of anything I do.
An example of what I deal with is on the rare occasion when we are out together, which becomes increasingly unpleasant, he yelled at me because I did not hear what he had said because he talked forward and I was standing behind him and there had been a loudspeaker on at the time so he got mad at me for asking him to repeat himself.
It gets to the point where I do so much on my own that I may as well just be single again. I hate to leave him when he is ill but he makes every outing unpleasant to the point where we do not want to bring him anymore and he knows it but will not go get any help.Even his dad thinks he is depressed. What now??
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they have done MRIs no brain tumor, it is some sort of central nervous system disorder.They have ruled out MS. We have 4 kids. intimacy is out of the question because he is too tired to do anything.
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ogkmqueen
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wow hunny, I have to admit that you're in a very tough position. Have you talked to your husband about the way you feel? Would it even help if you did? I think you need to trust your instincts, if you love him enough to hold out and see whats in your future then do it. If it's breaking you down then you might have to think of another option. Do you have kids? If you do then I would suggest trying to hang in there for as long as possible. Can he get a job in his condition or not? I guess it really just depends on how much you think you can handle. If you love him and are strong enough to work through this thing than do it, but if you're feeling like it's not going to get better and that you deserve better then you need to make a decision for yourself. You might feel guilty but you've got to realize that anyone in that situation would take a long hard look at their marriage and they might make a decision they never thought they'd have to.
Be strong, I hope you get through this. |
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misplacedjerseygirl
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go to your local church. turn to your friends and family. its amazing when you ask for help, there is a response, might have to scream for help, but there is a response. check out your town info on the internet, go to your government site, they can help too. go to your local hospital site, maybe there is a visiting nurse that can help. |
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benthere
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u are in a tough spot im sorry u have to go thru this... have they considered a brain tumor? |
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Deep Thinker
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Hang in there unless of course he is faking.If he continues to refuse help give him an ultimatum and stick to it. |
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