Please help. i am not proud of this,but need advise?

Leo F

A married man who is having an affair is a player. A woman having anaffair with a married man is a player.

jdhs

Have you ever considered that maybe he just doesn't want to leave his wife for you? If you love him like you say you do then learn to respect his marriage and stay out of it. He has made his choice and that choice is not you.

love_ridden_85

maybe he loves his wife more than you. maybe your just the friend and his love cant go further than that with you... i would suggest leave him alone and let him be with his wife...

Lrn'dTheHardWay

Step away from the married man.......Step away from the cheater.....You are his toy.......not his best freind......He cant love you....He loves him......He is doing 2 women WRONG.....his wife and you !
Shame on you.......
Do the right thing.....

Seth C

To be honest why would you date a married man if he cheats on his wife he will cheat on you he has player engraved on his forehead

foxfire

Oh really? Not a player?? Why should he leave his wife?? Out of love for you? Why? When he can be with you and have all the physical benefits and not the costs, responsibilities or support payments? It's the best world for some men and believe me, he is lying about any divorce. He has no intention of leaving what is a "good thing" when he has you on the side. AND if you split up, watch, he will find another very quickly. Also, IF he did divorce and end up with you, what would make you think he would stay faithful to you?? Surely not any vows, since he has already broken those. Unfortunately there are many men just like this and as far as I am concerned, they are scum. They lie to their wives and children and they lie to their woman on the side. They play both and don't have the guts to be failthfull to anyone. I've seen both sides of this story. The wife hurts so badly when she finds out or suspects that it can literally drive her insane. The deception goes deep into her heart and is so unfair to her and her children. He uses the excuse "Your pushing me" so that you won't force him to decide. If you ever do, he WILL go back to his wife, but only until he can find someone else to deceive. He is a liar and a cheat and he won't change for you or anyone else. I know your hurting, but work on YOU and breaking this off. It has no good ending for you and he will play you until their is nothing left to play and then dump you. You have to learn that you are worth more than this, otherwise, you will be the "other woman" forever.

Elizabeth L

Umm, You need to stay away from him. He is lying to you and is MARRIED. Get a clue

dar

sounds like a player to me better run as fast as you can and stay away from him

Winnie08_98

First of all if he is married and cheating with you, what makes you think he won't do the same to you?? Put yourself in his wife's shoes for a minute. What kind of self respect is that?? Back off and find a SINGLE man.

cheoli

He is playing you. If he really loved you, he would have left his wife a long time age. If he cannot deal with his emotions and feeling now, he is not going to deal with him emotions and feeling later. Respect yourself, don't you want someone with you all the time and not only when he can get away from his wife and if you ever did get together with him, aren't you going to be worried about where he is and what is he doing when you are not together. Hello, go on with your life when he is ready to deal with his emotions and feeling and if you are still available and if you are still available then you decide, but right now why give the man your heart when he is really not available to give his heart to you.

OleMarbleEyes

One, your very wrong for being in a relationship with a married man. Two, he is playing you, he has his home life, and he has his "fun" life.

Melissa

I know this hurts but you need to find someone who is single and available to you.He will not get divorced.He does not love you. He may think he does but chances are he does not.

Ace Librarian

Get away from him as fast as you can.

killerkitty557

Before you do anything, think about this. If he is willing to risk a marriage over a flame, what would stop him from doing the same to you down the road?

If he isnt giving in to temptation, he is a good man and you should find one of your own, even if it seems impossible.

Common_Sense2

GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP! THIS MAN WILL REALIZE THAT SOONER OR LATER THAT HE MUST MAKE A CHOICE, AND HONEY, BELIEVE ME, HE HAS NO LEGAL TIES TO YOU, SO YOU KNOW WHO HE'S GOING TO CHOOSE. DON'T GET YOUR FEELINGS HURT.

Jeannie T

dump him he is married once a cheat always a cheat and if he leaves his wife for you then he will leave you for another woman thank about it

smile

bahhhhhhhhh!!!! shame on you you are best friend and u know he is married!!!! try to look other guys that is single!!!please dont destroy a family!!!!!dang!!!!! theres lot's of guys in this planet why u let your self to have a feelings with this guy!?

tbonz

If he truly loved you, he would have already left.
I know you are in love, but you should just walk away.
You already know these stories don't have happy endings.
Tell him to call you when and if he is ever single again.

steph

girl...
set yourself some moral goals & don't be in this situation ever again...
married peopls should be off limits & it's so easy to do..
.it's just not worth the turmoil, it really isn't...

TinyAngel

Your not pushing him away, you are putting him on a spot and he is uncomfortable with that. He is enjoying having a taste of both worlds. Put yourself in his wife's shoes, how would you feel if he was seeing another women. Your his Mistress and nothing more, move on with your life and spare yourself the heartache. He is married, off limits and is not going to leave his wife for you.

kenneth x

i know it's hard ... he loves you.... but not enough to end his loveless marriage...this kind of person just doesn't love you enough...i know how everyone is saying how you shouldn't touch a married man, and this time yeah... you should back away from him....

2 questions ago you claimed this was your cousins story.
You're right, you're not proud and will take seconds.
Wish I had a best friend that lied and cheated (sarcasm intended).

You reap what you sow and I hope you enjoy the pain and tears you are causing on another woman and his childrens faces as this may be your fate one day. If I come across as hostile forgive me as I'm just sick & tired of people who lack morals & values.

Read Dr. Phil's advice below on dating a married man.

brian

why do some feel the need to ask for an answer to a question that has no true answer, start by looking at your question from being his wife. is this a man you could see your self being married to and after 15 years you find your self being the one left at home while he's out with someone just like yourself, and what would you call this other woman? surly your not seeing the total picture here for your love for him has blinded your sight to what your realy should be looking at. you know what you need to do and your asking for reasone to stay in this relationship. your not going to find many here to give you that responce, for it isn't the path your need to be on. move on and try finding your solemate that is without a ring.

you need to give your self time to see that you will always be the other womam and this isn't the place for anyone to be. if love is what your seeking knowing that what you thing your reciving from him is love will turn out to be just words to keep you on his key ring.

Dotr

Maybe u r pushing him. He married someone else for what reason???

Majettza

Do you work together? There is something called a "work husband" ... you work together for 8 hours a day, sometimes you get feelings and that is normal. It happened to me ! But if you acted on them, you should face that he is committed to someone else.... Look, I dated a married man once and some very wise married friends told me.....How would you feel if someone was messing with your husband? I dropped him after that.

Morena

hmmm...he's married and with you too....but then, he is not a player.........**LOL*** sorry but are you... STUPID or GULLIBLE?

Maewest

You may have strong feelings for him....but he is MARRIED !

He may have strong feelings for you....but he is MARRIED !

It may devastate you, but you must be a grown-up and just walk away from this -- you are deluding yourself if you really think he'll get a divorce. He may WANT a divorce, but that doesn't mean he will go through with it. He says he has been scared of dealing with his feelings? Do you really want a man who is so weak ???And would a man this weak EVER take a stand that would put him in a difficult situation? I don't think so!

Have some pride in yourself and stop the DRAMA !!! And stop being so convenient & accommodating to him. If you are so deeply in love with him, keep the feelings of love, but put them on the 'back burner' and don't act on them. You will find many things in life that you feel, but cannot act upon. Get used to it -- it's called life !

And, oh yeah, remember....he is MARRIED !!!!! (& not to you)

The Wicked one

I can tell you this much... If another women was deeply in love with my husband, I would not be happy and can cause some problems in our marriage... Therefore, you need not to get involved with this guy... You can cause some serious damage to his family....Not only
would you hurt yourself in the long run, but you can hurt other people and he will down upon you for that... Think to yourself is that something you really want to do... You should just leave him be...

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