Please help me! I am not sure what to do? Serious Only!?

I have always felt like my kids come first and still do. I am faced with the fact that I will lose my son if I don't leave my fiance who I love. My kids come first but he is awesome as a step dad but the only way I can keep my son is to leave. Like I said my kids come first so I am ready to leave. I have two choices either get married which he refuses to do or leave him. I will and won't wait to do it for my kid. Any adivce? And how do I leave the one I love and not look back?
It is not about him he is a great dad and step dad but I have an ex mother in law who is trying to take my son an this is the only thing she has! My mother in law is expecting me and my ex to get back together and that will never happen cause he cheated.
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I really dont't know why she thinks it is her business but she is makin it her business and makin me scared.

Bs Girl

I have a friend going through the same thing and she talked to a lawyer over the phone for free and there is nothing they can do. Hang in there and if worse comes to worse then leave but not before cause if you love them both and there is nothing that they can use then quit worrying and let it wait.

Second off if your fianvce loves you and wants to marry you why the wait??

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Unless child services have been to your house and you have a case file with them do not worry about your ex mother taking your son. You have more rights then she does. Don't be a fool and let these people rule your life. You deserve to be happy with your new finance. Screw your ex mother in law!

jude

they can't take your child if your divorced and living with someone else unless the man u live with would pose a threat to your kids. the courts no longer care about living with someone. unless he is violent, and a druggie, or something that could harm your kids. u should not have to leave the one u love, and no one can take a child unless there is more to it than what your telling.

(WOMAN)

There's something you are not telling us because there's no way your mother in law can run your life this easy.

standingeagle

Crazy,
You must be beside yourself with this going on in your life.
There are of course no easy answers here, I don't really understand what your mother-in-law has to do with it, and how exactly she would be able to take your son away from you.

And how would getting married to your fiance prevent you from loosing your son?

If the two of you are engaged to be married anyway, what will the harm be in moving up the date to prevent this disaster?

Maybe it would be a better idea to speak to a lawyer about your concerns and then you know what your are faced with and plan a better solution, right now you are operating on fear alone. Get reliable information first then decide your best course of action for all concerned.

I do wish you the very best of luck with this and I do hope it all Works out for all concerned.

Best wishes

Yours mine and ours

Ok sounds kinda fishy to me you can not expect us to answer this when you tell us half the story......Why is it any of her business who you are with??? How would it change anything if you married this guy??? Just sounds all weird to me...........

Piggy

Why will you lose your son if you don't leave him? That makes no sense.

Antoinette W

You said he was your fiance??? Then turn around and say he refuses to marry you??? Which is it??? And why does whether you are married or not controls whether you lose or keep your son?? How can anyone offer sound advise when none of this logically makes any sence. idk hun, wish I could have helped more but you have to help me help you.

tweety

1st off how is he your fiance but refuse to marry you?2nd how can your ex mother-in-law think she can take your son from you she can not do that unless she can prove some kind of neglect.And still she wouldn't get custody your ex husband would ..Don't let her scare you legally she can't do sh_it..

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HEY IF HE CANT MARRY YOU TO KEEP YOUR KIDS GET RID OF HIM MY KIDS ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO ME EVERRRRRRRRRRRRRRR KICK HIM TO THE CURVE AND KEEP YOUR KIDS

Julie

First of all I hope that you already have full legal custody. If not you did mention that your ex cheated so those are ground for you to keep your child. I really think that you need to take legal advice about this situation. You are the mom and you should have all the rights. Plus, you did get a second shot at love and I think that should make everything possible to keep it.

The Hot One !!!!!!!!

I might sound like a nun but this is what happens when you shake up. Honestly i mean it isn't the best enviorment for the child! You should get married before your fiance moves in! You should not brake up with him but maybe you should move out! Kids come first! As they say sons before hons!

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