Poll: If you're a children of divorce, would you have preferred it if you're parents stayed married, and why?

Wildflower

No, my mom and real dad were miserable.. and he was not a dad.. when they were together, he stayed gone.. for months on the riverboat.. after their divorce, my mom remarried the most wonderful man. My real dad was too busy with his own life to see me... from the time I was 4 until 19, I only saw him once.. never a card, letter, phone call, anything...

But my stepdad was a blessing.. He was everything a dad should be and more. I am so thankful for having known him. He died when I was 13, but in 9 short years, he made enough memories to last a lifetime. And when someone says dad.. it's him I think of.

GenuineGemini

My mum and dad divorced when i was 12. I am glad they did. It was too stressful for me as a 12 year old to have to witness the anger, violence, bitterness and everything else that they had btw the two of them.

I am still in a lot of ways, negatively affected by what i saw and went through as a child.

BabeHeart

I just turned 18 when my parents split up, my brother was 16 (the youngest). We 3 kids knew in our hearts MANY years before it happened, that they'd end up apart. I remember being in maybe 5th or 6th grade and talking with my brother and sister...we figured they would wait until all 3 of us were grown (at least 18) and then split...we were close to right.

They never fought in front of us, never took their negative feelings for each other out on us...they weren't very affectionate but it wasn't blatantly apparent there were problems, but we knew. They slept in separate beds, he stayed away from home working or the gym as much as possible, they were rarely affection to each other, they had almost nothing in common, and the list could go on. They weren't happy together...

Divorce is not "good" for children, but it's often better than living with parents who wish they were divorced.

RedRabbit

I think I would be worse off if they had staid together. I got a good night sleep because I didn't have to listen to the fighting.

Ashley W Missing her Hubby

If the relationship is a bad one then yes it is good.

My parents got divorced when I was 16. I am very glad they did. Their marriage was horrible and they took all of their problems out on me and my sisters. It was a bad situation and I am very grateful to them for finally getting a divorce.

Jenn L

I am glad that they divorced, bacause my mom was hurting my dad, and he didnt deserve that.

vanhammer

My parents were divorced after 25 years of marriage. I don't know why they waited so long because they should have divorced sooner. They were very toxic together and fought all the time. I was already grown and gone when they divorced but it definitely affected me growing up in a house where my parents took out their anger on us kids. I've heard the statement that "it's better to be from a broken home than to live in one" and I totally agree with that. So often parents stay together for the kids, but in the meantime the kids are definitely affected in a negative way when they live in a home where the parents don't speak to each other, use the kids against each other or get their kids in the middle of their arguments. Children feel guilty when they hear parents fighting and often think it's their fault. I think adults should "grow up" and put their children's well being first.

CrushSteffy

I think my parents did the right thing for me by not staying together. They shared me equally, and never ever told me it was my fault or blamed anything on me- they just weren't a good match for each other marriage wise, but they were good friends, and are great parents.

I think had they stayed together my life would have been much more difficult than it was, having to listen to them bicker and fight all the time. I appreciate the fact that they got a divorce, and I think that in this situation, they did the right thing.

soyousay

No they would of ending hurting each other physically!

LAgirl

It is somewhat peaceful that 2 people who hated each other didn't live together. But my dad never visited or financially supported us and my mother was always depressed or working long hours. My dad cheated so, staying married was out of the question. But my siblings and I still suffered from neglect. The home was still toxic. So, I guess in our case, staying married wasn't an issue. Divorcing the CHILDREN was wrong. NONE of my siblings are happy or stayed happily married. We don't know what a good relationship is at all.

Jessica Rabbit

I am glad my parents got divorced. my biological father cheated, lied and abanded me and my mom in Las Vegas in a house with out cooling, running water, electricity, basically anything needed to survive in vegas. I was only 3 when my parents got divorced. my mom remarried and the man she married has been just like a biological father to me.

Now I am a freshman at a great university working on my RN and have a wonderful life.

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