Pregnant with twins and lied to my husband?

Bumble Bee702

If I were you I would be happy your hubby is going to have to learn to adapt bringing children into this world is a gift most ppl can't even have kids

bronzebabekentucky

this will not end well...he TOLD you, no kids, and you lied and did it anyway...tell him...expect the worse..

nodumgys

maybe, but its just as likely that your abrasive demeanor would end it anyway.

JWalker

The honest best thing to do is to tell him. How else is he going to find out? Unfortunately you did cross the line but you cannot change that now.

Dean A

As a man, I would be super pissed that a conniving woman like you trapped me into paying child support for twins for the next 18 years. How do you expect him to ever trust you again? Once the trust is gone, you have nothing.

Katherine W

I think you already know the answer to this. You know your husband best.

So, how are you going to raise twins by yourself? Do you have anyone who will help you?

BTW, what would you do if he had lied to you and gotten a vasectomy? How would you feel about the whole moral **** if he did to you what you just did to him? Would you end your marriage if he did that? There's your answer.

If I were in your situation and wanted children, I would have divorced the guy and found someone who really wanted me and kids. I think you're going to have to do that once you have the kids.

Good luck to you, dear. You're going to need it.

Katie M

I can't tell you what I'd do if I were in your situation because I wouldn't want to bring children into a marriage where only 1 parents wants them.

dawn

If you didn't go behind his back and take the clomid, he may end up forgiving you, but the fact that you hid that from him is HUGE. So you hid a big thing from him, and now you are having two kids that he doesn't want.. in my opinion, that could very well end your marriage.

I can't tell you what I'd do in your shoes because I would never do something like this. If I wanted children and my husband didn't, I wouldn't have married him.

fallgrl01

There's a variety of ways this could go. I think it is very possible this could end you marriage as you said he had made it very clear he does not want kids.

However (and that's a big however!), if he forgives you my guess is as soon as he sees the babies he may have a change of heart and love the kids after all.

Janet W

You said shut up about the moral thing.........I feel so sorry for you kids. You are a selfish and irresponsible woman. You don't want to be judged between what's right and what's wrong. What exactly are you looking for here on yahoo answers. You've destroyed your husbands trust and made him be a father against his will. You should be punished for being so selfish and mean to him. I hope he leaves you because he'll never trust you again. Good job wife.....and unfortunately mother.

choirgirl3

Seems to me that hubby wasn't using any protection so he can be super mad. I know how hard it must be, having PCOS and all.

As bad as it is, I understand why you did it. You should go ahead and talk to your husband. You knew this talk was coming when you took the Clomid. You were aware of the possibilites too. Remember, many men don't want children out of fear, but they are elated once that have them. I'm praying for the best for you. Get counselling for your husband so that he can confront his fears. I was married for 10 years and one day my husband told me he didn't want children. I was devastated -I have PCOS too. I gave him time and we talked and once he understood how much this meant to me and the sacrifices I was willing to make, he changed his mind. Now he wants children! Yah! How many rotations of Clomid did you take?

Serene E

I wouldn't deliberately get pregnant by a man WHO DOESN'T WANT CHILDREN!!!!!

OF OCURSE HE MIGHT LEAVE YOU BECAUSE OF THIS!!!!!
AND I wouldn't blame him a bit!!!

You've screwed him over good, girl, and I personally would hate, hate, HATE you for it if I were him.

kd_lifer

You must have wanted these babies really badly. Tell him that your pregnant, I would probably keep the rest to myself! No matter what it will work out in the end - after-all what can you or he do at this point? These babies are coming and that is your main priority. Good luck

Sarah M

Well, you love him. I can't imagine not wanting to have your husbands children. I hope for the best for you. I have seen people that swore against children be hopeless doting parents. You never know if the same will happen to your husband. Congratulations!

latincream

Wow girl friend I feel for you . If I was in that situation I would tell him right away . You may loose him but he'd find out sooner or later. How would you feel if you were forced to have kids. Then twins at that which is even harder I'm married to a man who right now doesn't want kids and I won't force him to its his decision too. When I married him I knew he didn't want kids so I chose to accept that. You should have thought bout that. Not all men want kids and we can't think they'll come around when they see how cute the are. Men run the other way . I pray he does the right thing but its not his fault . I hope then you. Don't force child support on him it was your selfish decesion he told you he didn't want any . But then again he should have gotten a vasectomy

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Well, if I were you, it is obvious that it was more important to have the kids then have the marriage, so I guess I would do my best to be prepared for the worst...start setting some money aside, and get ready to possibly be a single mom. Best wishes with the babies....

Ken

Well, of course you don't want to hear 'about the whole moral ****' since it doesn't match what you want.

Lets see here... presumably the no kids issue was agreed upon prior to marriage... Even it it wasn't, you KNEW how he felt.

Sure, he's being selfish by not wanting kids, but you knew his desires, didn't you?

Seems to me you're just a s selfish in return, but...

Now you're pregnant, and since he's married to you, he's about to get the biggest screwing of his life.

That was a great way to take care of your marriage and your husband. Seems pretty obvious to me what your priorities are. I guess you didn't feel the need to talk to him about the benefits of having a loving family. You know, discuss it and work on it together.

So you now can look forward to the following:

1. You've got your kids. Good for you!
2. Your husband is on the hook for the next 18 years and
there's not a damn thing he can do about it. So he has to
accept the situation and he'll learn to enjoy it, right?
3. You may very well end up divorced.
4. You may become a single mom, but that's okay there's plenty
of family etc to leach off of to help you out, and on top of
that, you'll be able to count on the alamony and child
support if he leaves, right?
5. You may end up raising two kids without a father. Dad's... who
needs 'em. The kids will be just fine without him.

'React super bad'?

Geez, you are quite the catch, aren't you. It's really too bad that stupidity isn't painful.

I wish him luck, he's going to need it.

And women wonder why men don't want to get married.

Nicole m

i dont know what he well do but i can tell you what happen in my situation. my mom married my dad and knew that he didnt want anymore children. well they had me and my sister and well they arent married anymore.

he was honest with you so , i mean he is going to find out one way or another it is better your honest

wondering

Well, my mother could not have children 10 years into the marriage. But by then my father had decided he was happy with the way the marriage turned out for them. But what my Dad failed to realize was my mother still wanted us. After 10 years and 3 more children they divorced. He wanted the life with just himself and his spouse. He remarried and never had more children. Knowing your husband didn't want children, and you became pregnant scares me for you. I hope he will forgive you and make your family happy forever. But Dear, it really doesn't look like the odds are on your side. All you can do now is tell him how desperately you wanted a baby and tell him how sorry you are and you love him. Even though you lied and deceived him maybe he will understand after a lot of talking. After all he is going to be a father no matter what he chooses to do. I hope he will at least try for you and your children. The trust is broken but hopefully he will change his mind after he has time to take it all in.and learn to trust you again. Good luck and I hope all goes well......

Jenn L

Youre goingt o have to live with it for the rest of your life, that you forced this poor man to have kids when he didnt want them. That is so mean, some people really have strong feelings that they are not cut out to raise children, or maybe they just dont want to devote 18 years olf their life to a child. Whatever the reason, it is one of the most important decisions in your life, and no one else should ever make that decision for you. Your husband made it very clear that he did not want kids, and you should have got out of the relationship if you decided that you wanted to have children. I hope he doesnt abandon you and resent that child, but I dont blame him if he does because you disresepected one of the main things that he wanted in his life.

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