Pushy ex-wife ruining my life.?

my husband's ex, not really his wife, but he has a son with her.
she was never really his girlfriend, but when she got pregnant, she got her hopes up for a relationship with him, that never happened.
anyway, her son is 10 years old now, and she still forces herself into his life. she emails his brothers and sisters AND his father and several of his cousins, aunts and uncles.
she tells all of them that he's the worst father in the world, that he doens't want anything to do with their son.
but when me and my husband fought over the years, she's all over him, telling everyone what a loving father he is, then when we patch things up, he's back to worst father in the world.
but what bothers me is, she blames me to all of his family. says i keep him away.
it's not true, and it really hurts that they all believe her.
anybody go throught his drama?

cap

You need to have a nice long talk with him and put an end to this crap. This is not healthy for your relationship

dreamer

sounds like your husband is playing you and the other woman

court court

if his family is beleiving her i simply wouldnt go around them.
and id have a baby with him if i new he would be a good father just to shut them up if you wanted a kid

red207pilot

how can it be her fault? she's a female and in these matters a woman is never in the wrong. somewhere it's the man's fault, and hell I'll even be more specific, it's George Bush.

Soon To be Daddy to twins

i agree with the first answer you and your husband need a good talk

Happily Married to my Prince!

If she is saying crap about you to your husband's family, than he needs to step up and make things clear to them that she is just stirring up drama and rumors.

I would advice that you keep your personal business personal. Why would she know whether or not you and your husband are having any marital problems? Also, he should try getting joint custody of his child. There is no reason why he can't and there would be no way he could be looked at as an uninvolved father if he does.

its likely i will say douche bag

ah, nothing better then baby's momma drama.

Just ignore her, if she doesn't get validation from you or him then she doesn't get satisfaction

sheloves_dablues

They believe her? Nice..

Your husband must be some catch if his own family believe her. Or do they believe her because it's true...

Mrs. Madrid

Regardless of what this woman is saying about you or your husband, first things first, he needs to be a father to his son. You referred to the child as "her son" but it is in fact "their son", like it or not. Whether or not your husband was ever with this girl they do have a child together and that's something he has to deal with for the rest of his life and since you're his wife, you have to deal with it too. His ex is obviously desperate and looking for attention from anyone who will listen but you and your husband need to focus on what is important, the child. He needs to be able to deal with her appropriately while being a good father to his son and a good husband to you. It's not an easy thing to do but it can be done.

I married a single dad with a crazy ex. She definitely tries to get up in our business on a regular basis but I never worry about her. My husband doesn't deal with her BS and only talks to her about arrangements having to do with their son. There are definitely times when I feel a twinge of jealousy but I don't let it get to me because he's with me, not her and it's not worth my time to obsess about it.

You're husband should be doing everything in his power to make sure this woman and their situation doesn't affect your relationship in any way. You need to make sure of that!

i8pikachu

This guy is the father or her baby. He should be in contact with her. You knew this when you chose this man after knocked her up.

Encourage him being a good father. Forget what she has to say but tell him when he does good things as a father of his son how good he is. He's not sleeping with her so you have nothing to worry about. Forget her drama. You should want a man who is in communication with his son and cares about his development.

Janet W

Why does your husbands family allow this wicked woman into their lives. They need to put their foot down and tell her to stop contacting them. She is psycho. Your husband should be a man and take the child to see his famiily and not depend on her. He needs to defend you. Good luck, this is sad

Enter Your Message or Comment

User Name:
User Email:
Post a comment: