Question for divorced women with children whose ex-husband has remarried?

Grow Up!!!

My ex-husband and I are friends, but we do not spend time together. We both feel that it would not be productive for our child, and would only cause confusion or an inability to fully accept the reality of the situation. I get along fine with his wife (note I did not say New Wife because it implies that she is not a wife in the same sense I was--it is all about respect). I may not like what my ex did but I absolutely refuse to be one of those sad bitter women who take it out on the kids or the ex's spouse.

misskelleygirl

YOU spending time with?

Or THE KIDS spending time with?

Personally...though I don't believe this is the "Norm" for most divorced couples....

My Ex and I are both remarried...We have a daughter together...For her Kindergarten Graduation, we ALL got together for a little celebration. His folks...my folks...and our spouses.

And it was no biggie...We all get along just fine...for her sake.

Always for her sake.

stefs_daddy

Well if he is married again I really don't think it would be fair to his wife now there might a exceptions like birthday party's etc. but not on a every day visit.

Happy to Help

As far as him and her, it depends how well you and her get along. If you aren't comfortable with it then don't do it. Some couples get along well and some have issues, it's normal.

leslie k

I never wanted to spend any time with any of my ex husbands. There was a reason I divorced them and life is better with them in my past. If they want to see their girls all they need to do is ask, but not with me there.
It sounds like she is trying to get him back, that would be the only reason for time alone with them and the kids. Most people do not realize many of us do move on and never look back.

I saw whatudid

I would only "spend time" with my ex as far as we would both be attending our daughters special events and getting along at those events for her sake. Other than that, I have no desire to see him or spend time with him!

His new wife is welcome to have him all to herself the rest of the time!

Well my parents are divorced and my parents are still good friends. At first it was just for my sake but later it was because they really were good friends. Both of them moved on my dad got remarried and my mom is in a long term relationship and i have a half -sister . But unfortunately not all couples have this

renae2007_1986

dont be with the ex let him and his new wife spend time with the kids its their turn u have them all the time

ally

Well I am actually the current wife. And believe it or not we do have this situation, but it was MY idea. No one was to happy about it at first. I came when my husbands son was just a baby. As he got older, he did not understand why he had to spend holidays with either or. For fun trips he would ask if his mom could go and vise versa. Everyone was at a loss for words when he wanted them together. "maybe next time, or they have to work" were our go to answers. Then on a way to a movie I decided to invite her. She obviously did not want to go, but said yes anyway. It was incredibly hard for all of us, and hardly no words were said. But, my stepson had more fun than I could have possibly imagined. He smiled the whole time. We do it frequently now.Some times all 3 of us, or even just me and her.

I know this is getting lengthy, but my point is, children should get to spend time with both parents. After seeing how happy it made my step son, I can't believe that I ever dismissed the idea. Whether or not you tag along will have to be decided by the 3 of you. But if you can give it your every effort, I don't think that you will regret it. After all the kids deserve it right?

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