Question for women...

spanky <3

You need to talk to him and make sure he fully without question understands that you will leave him for good if he ever does it again. Be stern and make sure he gets that into his head that you will be GONE if he ever touches you again. Give him another chance but if he does it again GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE!

Mike

Nobody deserves to be punched or hit. Its immediate grounds for ending the relationship

brandi91082

Yep. Out the door. I will never be anyones punching bag. Not even once.

whisper

THIS IS HARD FOR ME TO ANSWER CAUSE MY DAUGHTER WOULD HAVE BEEN 34LAST MONTH HAD SHE SURIVED HER EXES BEATINGS,,BUT SHE DIDNT,,N IT STARTED OUT AS ONE TIME THEN A LOT OF TIMES I NEVER NEW ABOUT UNTIL AFTER THEY PRONOUNCED HER DEAD,,SO LETS JUST HOPE,HES REASONS MAKE SENCE TO YOU,,STAY SAFE ,,,,PEACE

melouofs

I don't honestly know how I'd react. My mother suffered physical abuse at the hands of my father, and there is no way I could tolerate that. However, knowing my husband, I'd be stunned beyond belief if he punched me in the face. So, the honest answer is that I really don't know how I would react.

tlkoons2000

Honey trust me, run fast!! If he does it once he will do it again and it might not be one punch next time. LOVE DOES NOT HURT!!!!!

Kathyrn F

Don't make excuses for a man that hits you. Leave. He'll do it again.

Queen of Beer

I'd be gone in a heartbeat - after I had his ace arrested.

Mrs. Heather Schabby

I know an awful lot of people on here are going to tell you to leave instantly, however I tend to disagree with them. You need to do what's right for you.

If I were you, I would look at the situation. It had never happened before in 7 years - which is a long period of time to be together. He'd been drinking, and had too much (not that this is an excuse.) I would not leave my husband if he hit me once, however a LOT of changes would need to happen. First off, I would let him know that if he ever did it again, EVER, I would be out the door, no questions asked. I would also say that the would have to never drink to that much excess again. Obviously drinking that much clouds his judgment and he cannot be trusted. He needs to decide what's most important, being able to drink himself stupid or keeping his significant other (I'm assuming you're not married) of 7 years. It should be you, hands down.

In the end, you need to do what's right for you. Do you feel you can trust him? Do you feel he is sincerely sorry and regrets what happened - or is he making excuses and shifting blame? Make your own choice, don't listen to everyone else.

Good luck.

Belinda28

Well, it is the first time but won't be the last. Some women are w/ men for 3 or 5 years before the abuse STARTS. It just doesn't happen once. Any woman that is not prone to seeking abusive partners would leave immediately. This is the test. If you stay, he will have more to give you...if you go, you are not right for him because you won't put up w/ it. If you are even questioning whether or not to stay, you need help. Love is not worth your life and that is what he will take away from you physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Baby Girl!

If he truely loved you he would never lay a finger on you. I would deff. leave my husband if he ever put a finger on me. Even grabbing me aggressively would draw the line for me.

Violet Pearl

define "partner'
Your boyfriend- leave
Your husband, no you get therapy to resolve the issue and prevent it from happening again.

Astral

I would have punched him straight back and had him arrested just to ruffle up his feathers a bit. As for hitting him back I would say it was self-defence. I might not then proceed with the charges but feel good in myself for having unnerved him a bit. He might think twice next time. However I do feel that he's done it once and there's never just a once - the instinct is in him now.

Marina

First, I would knock him on his azz and then he would get a letter from my attorney the next day. I told my husband when I first met him that the first time he puts his hands on me in that manner, it will be the last time he sees me. I mean it. I was in an abusive relationship in my past, and will not tolerate any of it. Do not use alcohol as an excuse. He knew what he was doing.

bobohead

i would leave no questions asked, there is no reason to hit anyone, not just women, but children and men too.

Red Rose

One punch is all it would take for me to leave.

Shelley L

There is no excuse for a man to PUNCH his wife/girlfriend!! Drunk or not - NO excuse is valid. I'd be SO out of there. He would have to come crawling back to me, promising it would never happen again, that he would never drink again and that he would seek counseling. DO NOT let him off easy. This is totally unacceptable!!

Heather

he wouldnt live to tell the tale.

Bam Bam

Leave him, there's no excuse. It may have been a one time thing, but then again, it may have been the start of an on-going abusive relationship.
If you are really that curious, get some one you trust to come with you to ask him why he did it. If he cant explain it, then leave.

Leena

A few years ago I would have said yes. But life isn't always that simple.

When I was 18 I moved in with a guy who ended up beating me. The first time he really hurt me, I grabbed a bag and left. Ended up spending the night in the homeless shelter because he put a padlock on the door to our apartment. And that was the end of our relationship.

I'm in my 30's now. And my husband has hit me a couple of times in the past 2 years. And each time he did it I wasn't in a position to leave. The first time he did it I ran out with my baby and called the police. We were poor and the police were lazy and corrupt, they wouldn't even file a report. They even warned me not to call them again. I left for a few days and stayed with my parents, but they are almost as horrible in their own way, so I ended up back with him. On his terms.

My advice to you is, anytime someone you're in a relationship gets violent with you, you leave immediately and then decide if you will continue being with them. If you do come back, don't do it until the details are worked out to your satisfaction and he knows not to do it again. If you stay and work it out he's just learning he can treat you that way and get away with it.

The key here is to never let yourself get into a position where you're unable to pick up and leave at a moment's notice. That's where I went wrong.

Anie

I don't think I would be able to leave my husband immediately, no questions asked. It would make a difference to me if he had to much to drink at a party. Alcohol does factor in here in this situation. If he'd never done it before that would also factor in. Everybody is entitiled to one "F-up." I would certainly address it once he's sober and the shock of it all goes away. Personally, I think I would say this will be the first and last time you ever lay a hand on me. If you do it again, I won't be as understanding, no matter what the reason behind the punch is.

yelles

I would leave and suggest he get counseling -no matter what- you never hit another person. It's rude and cruel. No excuses or justifications! Drinking does not give you the right to hit someone regardless. If you hit others and get violent while drunk -the solution is very simple-DON'T DRINK!

Sharelle

long story short i was with my ex for 8 years he was never aggressive or violent but one night after a party when we got home he started mouthing off and i said i was going to bed cos i didn't want a row and i got a smack in the mouth for walking away from him..next day he said sorry and cried and i stayed cos he had never raised his hand before that night......2 months later after a night out with the boys he accused me of having a guy over when he was out and he put me in hospital for 6 weeks - i would say leave him cos once they hit you in my opinion they are more likely to do it again - he may never do it but i would never take that chance again

TINK

ID LEAVE HIM RIGHT AWAY BECAUSE ONCE THEY HAVE HIT YOU THEY WILL DO IT AGAIN AND COME OUT WITH ALL THE CRAP SAYING HOW SORRY THEY ARE AND IT WONT HAPPEN AGAIN AND BELIEVE ME IT DOES HAPPEN AGAIN I HAVE A FRIEND IN THE SAME SITUATION

Sesoid

It is a difficult one, because once there is violence (of any sort) in the relationship, the respect is lost. As long as you keep an eye on the way he behaves from now on, and if you notice just the littlest of things, walk away!

I wish you all the luck!

huny

I would have head butted him in the mouth and asked him how he liked it.
Only you can answer this question. You are the only person who knows your relationship well enough.
Personally, I wouldn't want to be with someone who disrespected me enough to hit me in the first place no matter how long I had been with him.

bartliddy

Yes. Leave him. Punching leads to other bad things!

Tough Guy

Thank goodness he's not an alcoholic.

Ozzy

Yes - prob just the start - no excuse.

tigerprincess_bee

What gives him the right to punch you in the mouth. No man should hit a lady for any reason!! You should leave. B/c he will do it again. Drinking is not an excuse to hit anybody. You should have called the police and let him think about what he did in jail!!

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