SHould I leave my fiance?

nannigans

yes, leave. you don't deserve that! And your child will see and know what is going on when he/she gets older and needs to know that you respect yourself enough to not put up with that.

HDGranny

He is not a great fiance! OMG! what are you thinking?

ThePrincess617 is due 9/11/2009

"other than cheating he's a great fiance"?? You deserve more!! A relationship needs to be based on honesty. If he's cheating on you my dear obviously he doesn't respect you at all. You should leave him and find someone who will treat you like a princess, because that's what you deserve. Don't settle!

Manny

Other than cheating he is a great fiance!

Would you eat a really nice tasting meal if you knew you would get food poisoning afterwards? NO!

The answer to your question is yes, you need to leave him. Don't let the fact that he is going to Iraq make you feel guilty, it has nothing to do with it.

cerbphan

Well, as trust is one of the pillars of a relationship, the cheating factor is primordial, so I wouldn't think twice, goodbye

â™¥â˜† Angel â˜†â™¥

Yeah, I think you should leave him and get on with your own life. You need to concentrate on your baby and the stress is not good for you.

Micah The Kimball

you should talk to him! not people you dont even know on yahoo answers

sean's girl

omg this is a predicament all i have to say is follow ur heart. i would leave after knowing that hes going when ur pregnant

wickedgirl6

once a cheater, always a cheater. you'll be a better mom if you are focusing on the child and not how your husband is cheating on you. find true love somewhere else.

Metro Station 101

ummm, i think you should leave him, but you really shouldnt be asking a bunch of random people you dont know to help you with a problem like that, i mean its your life not ours, and if we tell you to leave him, and you realize you made a big mistake, whos to blame?

â„¢ Mogul SUpreme â„¢

Ok
I read the 1st two sentences and yeah leave in a hurry!
But at the same time what made you stay with a repeat offender be fore you got pregnant?

My ex gf cheated on me and that was it for her I left. Not dealing with a cheater in my life....

annabellleigh3

Listen, he's only cheated on you 7 times and he's still great? Nope. You are stressed because you know that he is not good for you. If you are going to keep that baby and your sanity, you let him leave for Iraq and then you move out post haste.

You do not deserve that, no matter what. If it's his child, he can visit, but you deserve respect, and he does not respect you. That isn't love.

I'll be praying for you :)

Ezra O

Just find someone too keep an eye on your fiance, then they will tell you if he is cheating on you, or just leave him.

FireGurlwhoa

leave him you ahve another life to think about and bring into this world healthy if he cant see the magnitude of what that brings then he isnt a real man

Chakra

How can he be a great fiance if he cheated on you 7 times? If you just want your baby to have a father, maybe you should stay then. If not, you need to dump him. You can try your best to work it out with him, but having cheated so many times, I doubt you will ever trust him again. What's a relationship when there's no trust?

reel lady

He is not a great fiancee
He is a cheater
Be careful STD.AIDS etc are running rampant with Military men
Stress is not worth hurting your baby
You want a healthy baby..Why you bringing a nervous baby in to the world?
Make him take care of the child.. drop him like a bad habit
Do not marry this cheater
Once a cheater Always a cheater

mom of 2

tell me why you thought so little of yourself to think you don't deserve better? get ready for a life time of heartache because he will cheat again. If he cheated while with you in the same city, he will for sure cheat on you while he is away from you....you just aren't that important to him to be faithful. get a clue and stop wishing he will change. he may at some point but i can guarantee it wont be you he changes for, because you already let him get away with it so far.

Lucy H

no , dont break up, you still arent married yet, and hopefully once you are married and your baby is born it will be a whole new ball game. You have to understand that being away from everything they have needs as well, even though that is not an excuase, and trust me i am not condoning his behavior. Be strong and patient for now.

madman172

sit down think, is it worth the chance of sharing a possible number of diseases with your famliy???????????????NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

Ocimom

Oh please, how can you say he's a great fiance other then his cheating? Where are your values and self-worth? Too bad you chose to stay with a cheater and wound up pregnant. Did you think that having his baby would solve anything?

If you marry him you will still have a cheater. I'm sure you can do a lot better. Dump him..........but he STILL is responsible for child support till the child is 18 yrs old.

Jazzy

Honey, I know its hard. But he doesnt deserve you, he treats you like crap. I know you might be thinking about how the child wont grow up with out a dad. But the worst thing you can do for your kid is stay, and experience the hell of you guys fighting and your crying because of what your husband. Tell your mom/dad/brother/sister about this, and hopefully they will let you stay with them

Good Luck

niggalicious

You low self esteem so and so. When you learn to think of yourself as you ought to think, no one would have to tell you to leave. You would be gone already. I know he says he loves you, but he doesn't have the capacity to love you like he is supposed to love you. So bounce.

Helper Guy

LEAVE HIM. He obviously doesn't care about you or anyone else, or even his unborn child. Leave him and get away as far as you can. Oh, and sue him for child support.

nicole w

wow...girl thats really messed up..how can he do you like that when you are carrying his child...i would sit him down and let him know that things are going to change or your going to leave period!!!... me and my ex-boyfriend were togeher 6 years and 1 day i come in from work and my best friend is in my bedroom with lingire on...pissed??? yes i was... i kicked him out and i told her to find a new best friend... im still hurt over it cuz me and her was best friends for 9 years ever since grade school......sooo...sweetie im telling you from experience if he does it agoin pack your s*** and leave...you deserve better than that...

justdougjustdougjustdoug

Make sure you set up a situation in the courts where you are guaranteed some type of financial child support before you leave this ***hole. AW

Anya

Honey, he's not a great fiance. And he doesn't want to marry you. If he did, he wouldn't have cheated on you 7 times. You are both too young. But you are pregnant and now the most important thing is the health of your baby.

Your relationship probably wouldn't survive even if he were to stay here; since he's been with so many other women in one year's time, do you honestly think he's ready for marriage?? But, since he's leaving for Iraq, that lessens your chances even more of having a healthy, stable relationship.

I would start looking into other options at this point. Like where you're going to live and how you'll take care of the baby. He might be thrilled when the baby comes but you can almost guarantee that he'll be off running with other women shortly after. Good luck.

rockangel80

If you want to stay with him, stay, but I would suggest you don't marry him unless you're sure he's the right guy, meaning he'll stay faithful.

He might change, but if you keep letting him get away with it, what's going to stop him from doing it his whole life? Let him think you're still available (to other guys) since you're not married and you won't marry him until he's done cheating. Make him prove it to you over a long period of time, ike at least a year of no cheating.

Babies change people, but you can't be sure he's not out making more babies oor spreading disease!

You and your baby deserve better. I'm sure you could find it,but I understand your situation. I was in the same prediction with my first child. the night I was going to leave him, I found out I was pregnant. I stayed bcause of the baby, married him and he never stopped. He gave me an STD while I was pregnant! Thank God it was curable, not serious, but it could have been.

I evntually left him and I couldn't be happier I have an awesome loyal guy now who loves my children.

I don't regret not leaving him sooner, I had to be sure otherwise I'd forever be wondering if I made the wrong decision, but at the same time It hurt me and my son, our lives were scary and stressful during our sepparation, it would have been easier if I left him b4 the baby was born.

Jen

i would leave. it doesnt seem like he is completely there for you. there are many other guys that wouldn't cheat on you, and won't care if u have a child.

Dee W

Great???????????He got you pregnant, no marriage.
He cheated on you.
Give the baby up for adoption so it can have a stable life.
Grow up before you have any more relationships and get married before you make any more babies!

shady

i'm not going to tell you to leave your fiance cause no one can tell me to leave my man but i am going to tell you that you need to think long and hard about marrying this man. seven times in one year is a bit much and it doesn't sound like he's ready for marriage he still has a lot of maturing to do. Honestly it doesn't really sound like you two need to be having a baby but that's not my call i just think you should have a long engagement to see if this is really what you BOTH want and both need right now.

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