STAY AT HOME MOMS...Do you have this problem?

~~kelly~~

I'm also a stay at home mom, but my children are 7 months and 4 years old. So they're both here all day while I'm trying to do the cleaning and errands. And that is probably the most common question I get, don't you get bored? I always tell them that I would love to have time to be bored. I'm much too busy to be bored, and half the time too busy to shower, lol, jk. But I let them know that you can't be bored if you're constantly on the go, you can be tired, or exhausted, but not bored.

CRYSTAL S

I actually have had people say i don't know how you just can sit around all day long.....can you believe that? i think it is so rude of people because i work harder now than i did when i had a job!...just be rude sometimes its the only way!...lol

xorosho

The tactful answer is "No". Then ask them what they do, and then ask them if they get bored.

barter256

Just tell them they are an idiot when they say such things. Because of course they are, due to the fact that most stay at home moms do not have time to get bored. As opposed to working dads such as myself, who get bored the moment we walk into work.

Why are you still here

ummm print this off and hand it to them then tell them to shut the **** up :)

yamnona

what a perfect mother u r

vicki f

get mean!!! LOL

Sierra1980

I'd simply look at them and say "Are you KIDDING me?"

That will make them feel stupid.

Beatrix Kiddo

You're mean?? I doubt you are as mean as me! lol ..I get down right defensive!...I hate when other women do that to me!! I just want to smack them! They try to make you feel as if you are a freeloading peon....like your life must be a giant black hole....just because you are out of the workforce!! Yes, I know exactly what you mean...lol...Sorry...I get a little worked up!

pr1ncezz

I'm not a mom yet, but I do stay at home. I get the same comments; I tell them that I wish I had the time to be bored, but between cleaning the house, maintaining the yard, & taking care of the husband & other family members, I barely have time to think about being bored!

supatdav

That is an ignorant question. If a working mother comes to me with a question like that I always say "I do the same thing you pay your daycare worker to do now do you think she gets bored?"

Usually that shuts them up real fast. If you have the same rude question simply answer by saying " How could I get bored I am out spending my hubbies money all day and laugh hysterically."

Or you can say I don't have time to get bored and I too busy enjoying my children.

Dave S

Just tell them that you do not know where you would find the time to work with all the projects you have going on .......

AFwife

i'm 24, married and don't have children yet but let me tell you something, you should be proud to be a stay at home mom, when my mother was growing up, she would have to wear a key around her neck because nobody would be there when she got home from school, so she decided she would be the exact opposite with her children, she stayed at home and it was great, sometimes we would come home and there would be homemade rice crispy treats on the counter or cupcakes, or we would come home and the house was fully decorated for Christmas, she would always be able to be a chaperone on our school trips and carefully planned our family vacations, these days many mothers don't think twice about throwing there infants into daycare centers, there was always somebody home growing up and i think this alone kept us kids straight and narrow and out of trouble, i don't want to have kids for awhile because i want to do the same with my children, it really effects them and there lives, kudos to you!
and just tell those people you absolutely never get bored, between cooking everyday, the kids doctors appointments, and your sewing you hardly have time for yourself!

Tell them that with all you have to do everyday, you are too exhausted to get bored.

dade

wow, you're a super woman!! I can't imagine myself doing all that!!

I know exactly what you mean. The other assumption is that I'm available 24/7 to look after their kids or drive for school events or "fill in the blank". I used to answer if I'm bored I go for coffee or read a book or take a bath, that usually shut them up. Now, I just tell them I have the best life and wouldn't trade it for anything.

bifgrl31

I am a stay at home mom and I just read a article that if we got paid for all that we do we should make a 6 firgue salary.
When someone ask you that question play along yeah i sit on the couch all day eat bon-bons and watch soaps....

grbarnaba

I would just say "NO,I don't have time for that,but if you can fit it into your schedule that's great" then walk away. Then,when the kids are at practice,go get yourself a nice cup of hot cocoa and just let down,or if you can,take a nice long warm soak in the tub and grab a washcloth and squeeze it like you were after that person who annoyed you,hey it works for me :) Good luck,and congrats on being able to stay home,but girl you need a break,sit back,sip some tea and watch The View LOL

Extoss

you are so my hero. Pls take care of yourself. This world needs more people as generous and intelligent as you.
You rock girlie.!!!!

wildone

Just tell them that your too busy to find time to become bored

I know, I know!!!!

I used to work from a home office and take care of my kids. I got that question all the time from people. My reply was usually something like, "No, I dont have the time to be bored."
I know what you mean, I always hated that too.

fourcheeks4

My sister in law asked me what do I do when I am at home? She doesn't have any children so, I just replied "I'm a full time mom, that's who I am and how I'll stay. I don't get bored, because my children life up my life, the only thing I am is tired, not bored. I get to do crafts with my children and they help, cooking, they help with cleaning and we have a lot of fun." That's what you should say. they always ask these question, and you should ask them, how are they not bored when they are at work?

kathy p

Just reply "yes, sometimes but then I come out into the "real world" like you and it makes me grateful to stay home.

kcbranaghsgirl

I'm not a stay-at-home mom (indeed, I'm not a mom at all), but you don't have to be a mom to encounter/suffer rude people, rude questions, etc. For me, those questions usually pertain to my marital status - as a 36-year-old single woman, the questions tend towards the "Why aren't you married?" variety.

I could get upset with these people, or I could make the effort to justify my choices, but I prefer to pick my battles. If you try to correct everyone's misperceptions about you, you're in for a lot more work than you already have - and what difference does it really make what these random people think anyway? By getting upset about their questions, you're giving them more power than they deserve.

If your husband and children appreciate the things you do for them, and you're happy with your decisions, there's no reason to be upset by other peoples' ignorance. You can simply look at them in such a way that they begin to feel like morons and drop the subject.

bluebyou

Tell them you run your own company. You're responsible for marketing, bookkeeping, and producing. Besides doing that, you are a one person entertainment committee, cook, and housekeeper.
Say you never have had as much diversity in your life as you have now. Gush with happiness. Say you're living your dream and you've never have been as happy as you are now. Make them GREEN with envy. (smirk)

suekiemama@sbcglobal.net

I totally feel you!
Sometimes I don't think that people realize how much I am juggling everyday. I go to school full time, take care of our daughter. "Pick up" the house (it could be cleaner), take our daughter to speech therapy twice a week, am constantly doing homework and trying to watch her at the same time. Between f/t school and being a SAHM I have a very tough f/t job without pay! And I know some people think I'm just sitting around picking my nose.

No advice really, just commiserating.

Maybe come back with a comment like, "I don't have time to get bored, do you realize what I do everyday?" Then ask them how they can sit in an office for 8 hours a day and not get bored.. (or something pertaining to their field).

Good luck!

Jim G

Just tell them u have PLENTY of things to keep u busy

bscottsbabygirl

I have 2 children under 5 and I'm constantly tasked to answer similar questions... I find the best thing to do is simply say no, smile, and change the subject. You kind of get used to it after a while.... most people who ask you this have no children and don't understand the great task of keeping house and raising kids. Their is nothing "boring" about it. Good luck and try to just brush it off, you can't change how the world thinks....just how you address it.

Leo B

Invite them over on one of your busy days. They'll get the point. You may lose a friend though...lol

Good Luck

christina c

i know exactly how you feel i also like the people who think you do nothing all day so they want you to run there errands for them you know since you do nothing all day...............i always tell people if i was bored i wouldn't do it all day.

TrofyWife

Id love to get bored! LOL. I stay home as well. Kids are 3 and 4. They go to school a couple hours. 4/week for son and 15/week for my daughter. My husband is a real partner when he's home but he's gone 50 hours a weeks.I know I dont have to remind you all the things we do. If your a good mom your not watching Days of our Lives all day. You have to entertain your kid,breaks up fights,cook,pour,bathe.clean,appointment... of variouse kinds,educate,yadda yadda yadda. But no way would I trade it for someone else to raise them. I want to raise them myself and bc of it I havent missed a single important moment!

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