Semi adult question...Tell me if i was wrong to say this to him?

Radical Raven

If he had his pants on.

You were totally overreacting.

Catherine

you're a bit a fault here. a guy doesn't know how far you want to go, and if you make out on the first date he must have figured that you would have been alright with that. call him up and apologize for overreacting and tell him that you should have let him know your limits

Mike

once you allow a man to do all of that you have to expect he wants to get laid.

a bit of an overeaction...

Kathy K

I dunno, maybe it was a little rude to call him a perv... I would have just told him that it made me uncomfortable.

MommaBear

If you didn't want it to go that far, then you really shouldn't have made out with him.
What did you think was going to happen?
Of course he was going to want more.
If you don't want it, don't go for it.

groverraj

nothing wrong with that.. it is your choice and your body... you set the rules and pace. But you may have been too harsh on him by calling him a 'perv'.. you could have been assertive and just asked him to slow down.

Wicked Good

Since you were making out at the time he probably thought it was Okay. I don't think he was a perv. It was out of your bounds but again, you were making out so not like he can read your mind and know your limitations.

I think you probably should have let him know that this behavior was out of bounds. But you did over react IMO. If you let him know it's unacceptable and beyond your boundaries and he did it again then you would not be over reacting.

It's one thing to tell a guy he is going to far which every one has a right to do, it's another to call the guy a perv which really was a bit much. Say no, as you should when someone crosses the line but calling him a name because of it really wasn't very mature on your part. Lots of people do this when making out, it's not uncommon and you were on his couch making out. He had no idea how far or what your limits were. He can't read your mind can he?

Draw the line as is your right but you can hardly judge the guy for doing this when you were making out. He wasn't forcing himself on you, he stopped when you said no.

â™¥ Pete Wentz â™¥

yes i think you did the right thing

usually ur first reaction is the right one

Karen C

I don't think you are overreacting at all. You should never feel bad about making boundaries with a person. Perhaps he didn't know you were uncomfortable. If you ask him to stop and he refuses, run away asap. If he does stop, then you need to let him what is comfortable for you.

me123

I think he thought since things were going so well, that he'd try pressing himself onto you to see what would happen next. I don't think 'dry humping" is probably appropriate for a first date, but as a woman in my 30's, I've been on enough dates to know that guys are just horny all the time, and will try to go as far as you will let them

Susan Goodknight

I think when you are that heavy into making out that things most likely tend to move along. I think calling him a perv was not a great thing but then again I wasn't there! I think that you could have handled the situation a little different in saying that you were not ready to go any further. He may have thought you all were headed in that direction.
I don't know since I wasn't there. Sorry that happened to you though.

The Nikki

Perv might have been a strong word, but kudos for being able to stop it, I don't think you were wrong in saying something.

philosophy

He just got wrong signal from you since you guys were making out on first date he thought you might put out also and went too far.

Don't sweat it; forget him and move on.

Colleen O

Yeah you were wrong. You lead him on and then had the nerve to call HIM a perv! If you can't handle that on the first date then don't get into the making out.

Ashley S

I wouldn't have called him that, but instead said, I am not going there with you tonight, and then moved away. You didn't have to give him indication...you allowing him to kiss and caress you made him think he could go further.

Nita and Michael

I think he was just being a typical male, and yall were making out and he wanted to see if you wanted to go further, i think if you really like this guy you should call and tell him your sorry for overeacting and that you just didn't wanna go that fast and yoru sorry if you gave him the wrong impression, if your making out and kissing and all that, of course the man is gonna get hard, he just did that to see how much further you wanted to go......so have a talk with him

I think that's a bit harsh.

w2006

LOL. Well perv is kind of strong, but thats your personal reaction and you have the right to stop anything. But yes since you just met him that is kind of a perv move but he may be kind of offended if he really isnt one cuz there are some perverts who have done most. But if you dont want to see him again..dont!!

Josiah B

i wasn't there so im not sure if he was doing this in a creepy way but he just might have been letting you know how turned on he was without saying it out loud. sounds like he was looking for a little more action.

noteworthy5

Man like to push it as far as you will let them go.After the neck kissing you should have stopped him before the blablabla....got started .I'm sure he was think with to wrong head and read more in to the kissing than you did. I'm not saying he was right but the next time slow down with your date so he won't push it so far

Princess Leia

No... You have a right to put up with only what you feel comfortable with... If it doesn't turn you on, then tell him to stop.

student202003

No. If you were feeling uncomfortable and your gut tells you something is wrong then it probably is. If you don't want to see him again thats your progative.

Jim V

Well you and him were making out and he wanted to take it to the next natural step. Did you tell him where the line is drawn? You should have told him no, you don't want to go that far, and if he does not stop THEN be pissed at him. You did what most girls do and think that guys should read your mind about how far you want to go. It sounds like you got mad before you had a right to.

grgyssf

he was just testing the waters how is a guy supposed to know if you want him to poke you or not

i sharpen

You let it get hot and heavy. Two -way street. Should've thought of that BEFORE you started. Ya think?

Tsunami

no you are not over acting. he was going to and you know it. the thing is that can work withsome women i bet hes done this to. they want the first date and hes going to try so i would close the book and find someone else.

Lex Luthor

Hell no. He was a perv and was trying to take it too far too quickly.

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