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tigerlily2414
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I have been with my husband for 11 years and wish we could have separate bedrooms...and no it's not because we don't get along, I adore the boy and love sleeping with him but at times you really do need your own space...I think it's a great idea... I think more marriages would last longer if we all did this...who cares what others think as long as it works for you. |
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Jane
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I say if the situation works for you awesome! Don't worry about what others think! Bottom line your relationship and how you guys go about it is your business...You say you get a long good...and this works..they are just jealous that they don't have as great of relationships as you and are trying to find fault. |
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Moose
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Hello Lucy n Ricky!!!.. yea.. i have same bedroom w/ wife.. i like it.. i like to feel her close to me when im sleeping.. she likes to snuggle.. so do i.. works for us |
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chemcook
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Many marriages would be saved if each person in a couple had some sense of space and privacy. Sometimes you only need to cool off to avoid saying something you'll regret later. |
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Snowflake
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I think it's unusual for a couple to do this, but it's really up to you how you want to live your personal lives. Probably lots of weirder things go on in the lives of others that have criticized you! |
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daqueenbee234u
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This actually sounds like a good idea. I think the problem today is that we want to spend every waking minute with our spouse, and as humans we need space. I would consider doing this when I get an apartment with my boyfriend |
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Dolphinace
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Calm down. They are just confused and don't understand the situation. It doesn't matter what they think, because you are your own person, and it is not their relationship, but yours. So just enjoy everything, and put up a big sign on your door that says :SO WHAT! |
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sweeteenpeach
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I think this is the best question i have read all day.
This is not wierd...people do need there space.
And if your friends are going to judge ya'll then they are not true friends.
:) |
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Rick46
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We do. It works for us because I snore. Separate bedrooms help us both sleep well. We've been married 21 years and it works for us. |
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lilredhead
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Man I would LOVE to have my own Room.
If you two have found something that works for you , More power to y'all ! Nobody should be judging you , you two have just found something that works ! |
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Dew
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well My Husband works Nights and so I have the bed to my self 5 days a week and love it,we sleep together on weekends and that's just the way life works for us.We have been together 21 yrs,well 22 next month and married for almost 16 yrs.It is whatever works for you 2.No one needs to know your Bedroom Business. |
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Roseby
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My husband and I have a guest bedroom that one of us occasionally will sleep in if one of us is sick, has to get up early or if he starts snoring so bad that I can't sleep.
We do have separate offices, but that's because we both work at home and we'd be driving each other crazy and not getting any work done if we shared an office. I don't think it's odd. Sleep is gold!! |
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Rain
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yup ... definitely works...
my husband and i have been married for 3 years... we have separate rooms... tho// we sleep in my room .. but he has a room to himself also ...
we are totally different personalities... so it is better this way ... i am kinda messy.. he's a neat guy .. i like watching TV late... he likes his music...
so yeah ... this works for us ... ;)
its only that we turn in for the day in the same room.. else for all practical purposes ...we have separate rooms.... nothing wrong with that ... |
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Julia
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I think its great your intimacy is not confined to one certain place and your home is your playground! Your friends just don't have a good imagination like the two of you and they don't know what goes on behind closed doors. This works for you guys and I see nothing whatsoever strange about it. |
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natasha
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Whatever works best for you. Who cares what your friends think |
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theflynnmom
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I have become used to sharing a bedroom with my husband. It makes me feel secure. However, my parents had separate rooms (and would sometimes share the same room ;) ) They were married for over 40 years before my father died. I think that whatever works for you is best. |
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Green Eyed Girl
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My husband and I share a bedroom. But the garage is his domain and mine is another room in the house. So, I don't see this as being different. Everyone needs their own space. Good Luck to you! |
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chevalrose
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I think its great that you guys know what works for you. It shouldnt matter what your friends think, you're in love and thats all that matters. My grandparents are this way and they are fine. Granted, everybody is going to think "they must be having problems" or "they arent that close", because thats the first thing thats going to come into anybody's mind, but once they see you are close, it shouldnt bother them anymore, and if it does, who cares? It works. |
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♥ Blonde&Intelligent
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Personally, I wouldn't do this. I think it's nice to have a common sleeping place that's both of ours, you know? But if you both like your space, and it works for the both of you, why change it? Sure it's a little bizarre, but if you guys like it, who cares what others think? Your friends aren't in your relationship. Do what makes you both happy. |
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sheloves_dablues
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A friend of mine had separate bedrooms once. She and her b/f moved into a three bedroom house so they shared the master bedroom for sleeping/dressing, etc., but each had their own separate "space". None of us thought it was bizarre. IN fact, most of us were jealous..
I think what your friends might be reacting to is that you two don't have a shared bedroom. You sound more like room-mates with benefits than an actual couple.
That said, if it works for you and you're happy, carry on! Only you can judge whether or not your sleeping arrangements are meeting your needs.
Personally, I could not imagine sharing only my bed with my partner. Our bedroom is obviously that of a couple, and I think I'd feel really awkward if any of the furnishings or decor were strictly "mine" or strictly "his". To me, that's not what a union is about... |
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Esma
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I share a bedroom with my fiance. We do it because it is comforting to us.
It is not uncommon for couples to have separate beds or separate rooms because not everyone can sleep next to another person all the time; however, I do think its bizarre that you two have completely separate rooms for your possessions. That makes you seem more like roommates than a couple. It is essential for a healthy, longtime relationship that you can merge your lives into one working mechanism. |
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geoff b
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you do what works for you and don't worry about what goobers think... if it works for you that's what matters.. it's your relationship not theirs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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alora
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it is strange.... |
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Ken C
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Yes, we have them. This is not that uncommon, and no one else's business. We work different hours and this is the way we can keep from disturbing each other. Also, there is no snoring trouble....
All in all, a better rest. Sleep tight.
Ken |
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MamaBear
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I really don't care one way or another how you arrange your clothes or your furniture, plus I think you've got extremely nosey, judgemental friends. :-) |
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gypsy g
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Studies have shown that women sleep better without anyone else in the bed, where as men sleep just as well whether there is someone in bed with him or not.
Whatever works for you....I fear living with someone simply because I like my bed to myself. When my guy stays over, I'm up all night, then I'm worried that I'm keeping him up with my tossing and turning...who needs the stress. |
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Cindy
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My cousin and her HUSBAND have seperate rooms and like you guys, it works for them. I'm very attached to my boyfriend and I enjoy being with him all the time, because that is what works for US. Don't let your friends small mindedness make you feel bad about your relationship because ultimately your and your boyfriends opinions are the only ones that matter. :)
Good Luck! |
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blueblossom33
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I do not this it is weird at all. It is a way of allowing each person to define their space. It is propably an idea that more of us should try. I think that when you try to push to much in to a space ( both persons belongings) and the space becomes cramped it leads to more problems then having seperate rooms. Of course most of us would try it if we had the space! |
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luvlisteningtomusic
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If it works for the two of you then I would not worry about it. I do not think it is a bad idea. It is hard to sleep with someone else. One is either snoring or the other stealing the covers. I for one am a snorer and so is my husband I also toss and turn and disrupt my husband sleep. I sleep on the couch most of the time. He doesn't like it that much but he has been mad at me for waking him up so much that I have a restless sleep worrying I am going to wake him up. |
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Poppet
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I know lots of couples with separate bed rooms. Most of them have them because of sleep/work schedules or snoring issues. You do what is best for your relationship and let your judgmental friends worry about their relationships.
My husband and I have discussed having separate beds. Not separate bedrooms. I'm an awful bed partner. I have RLS, and I get hot and cold throughout the night. I sleep like a baby...but he very often doesn't. |
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