Serious answers needed?

Sh00nya

Since the affair is already an open-secret...I guess there is no use creating a ruckus in the family over it (I am in no way undermining the problem)...so just wait till the son's exams get over and then the husband should go and talk to his better (or in this case worst, pun-intended) half and see if the situation can be resolved in an amicable manner...divorce is painful for everybody, and esp. for children...why the children have to be subjected to this kind of upheaval in their growing years..is outta of my understanding...so for the time being, just wait and watch...as they say:Hope for the best and be prepared for the worst.

Good luck!

Meriah C

He should do what makes him happy... i am sure that he doesnt want to be with somone who is cheating on him.. maybe take a break from eachother and then see what happenes.. you dont have to just jump to divorce there is seperation which will give them both time to think and see if they actually want to be with eachother.

boozemuse22

do what is best for him and the kids...and if the wife knows that he knows about the affair and is still doing it then she is clearly a ***** and should be thrown out on the street. she doesn't deserve a loving family.

2BaD4u

File Away!!!!!!!! Pronto.

GrownNSexy

i would WHOOP the guys *** and kick her out as soon as the exams are over. its good that hes thinking of his sons future. after that he needs to file for divorce, take the house the car the kids and the dog. let her stay with her side man, broke and wishing she never did that. did he ever cheat on her??? she still wrong and obviously doesn't love him. i'll kick her cheating *** to the curb and get me some cuter than her.

who is junior? i think that adultery calls for divorce. no one should have to put up with a cheater. if she is still doing it, then it is apparent that she doesn't want her hubby anymore. move on, let her go.

monkeyspunk82

hell yeah its right to divorce the braud hand her the divorce papers and tell her " Read this and when your done KICK ROCKS "

RAY

you say both are aware that the wife is fooling around but "knowing" is different from "understanding".. if that is the situation i believe -the husband should find out why she fools around. knowing the reason why one had to love somebody else or prefer someone else over the other is a good start of resolving issues between the couple.

you'll be amazed of what you can accomplished if you "really" talk. Doing this might also be a way to shelve the Divorce idea. Women fool around because they're missing out on something- talk, listen, compromise with your heart. while talking dont point fingers to who's fault it is...because it always takes two to tango. Cause and effect.

also if you do this-theres an easier way of finding a closure to your issues - because youre "finding a solution/answer" to the problem. Not an escape. Be brave (for you and the children) Remember the kids always look up to their parents. Set a good example in dealing with your problems. this will make a big impact to their lives so be cautious.

that is just my two cents

homegirlfabe

yeah man, it's over and probably been over for a while. file for divorce.

daisy d

well if she knows you know and she aint stopping it, i would file for a divorce. seems to me that she dont really care or she wouldnt be doing it in the first place.

bopbo

Yeah wait it out, but he needs to confront her face to face and then file for divorce he deserves a woman that wants him and him only.

Shark_Tooth_90

For the sake of the son, not now. Probably he should wait, or at least give her a chance to stop cheating and go back to her senses... and why is she cheating, is she a biiitch or is he doing something wrong?

However, wait for the apprpriate time to flush her out of his life.

Mongo

Just what you said. Wait til the exam is over and file for the divorce. She obviously doesn't care.

lynn

We are our children's role models, they see what's going on & it's continuing, that can't be good for anyone.

Why is she cheating? In my opinion, women cheat because they're lonely or taken for granted, etc. I'm biased, I'm a woman.

Talk to her, find out what's going on.
If there's a chance that you can work it out, try.
If not, move on.

You need to have the peace of mind that you did what you could to make the marriage work. Only if she's willing to put in as much effort.

JeffyB

Well, it seems obvious that she does not respect the marriage or the family if she continues with the affair after discovery. It's probably smart that you wait til your son's exams are done, though before taking further action.
Of course, there are two sides to every story, so we do not know what this man in his early 50's may have done (if anything) to lead his wife to have an affiar in the first place.

sweets_22193

First i would like to say that i am truly sorry for this. i have been through this with my husband . i may not be your age but i know the one thing was that i had wanted my marriage to work. i was truly hurt but this . for starters did you ask her why is she doing this? second of all do you want your marriage. how is she as a wife towards the children how is their relationship? do you still love her? could you have done something to cause this? wb and i will further answer and reflect on you situation.... but i will say this if you do love her then trust and give it to God.. . seek him first and he will lead you right

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Regularguy

1) Wait until your son's exams are over to tell him.
2) File for divorce. You deserve better.

arizonaprincess2

i guess its his own personal decision, does he want to save his marriage?

tibo25

Divorce NOW

jjbeard926

In psychology it is said that a man can do no good if he does no good for himself.

Every living being must attend to their own needs before they can attend to any one else's. Look to the behavioral pyramid to see where things really stand.

In the behavior pyramid needs are ranked as more important then wants. So the man with the gun pointed at you would be more important then say eating or drinking, but eating would rank above shelter and clothing, which would then rank above comfort items like warmth and a job, etc. When you have a family the pyramid gets another one right next to it just one level lower. So the man with the gun pointed at your child or spouse is ranked above your need for food and water, but bellow the gun pointed at you. (it's just an analogy, I think you'll get what I mean about urgent safety needs)

Somewhere on this pyramid is mental and emotional need, and you need to attend to your own metal and emotional needs before those of your children or friends. Take a look at your needs and those of your family and weigh the options. No one can make you feel bad without your permission. - Elanor Roosevelt

redheadedmess

file for divorce

scottyisrude

Kick her butt out of the house immediately. She is unfaithful and not worthy of any more support.

kja63

Infidelity destroys the bonds of the marriage and can rarely be recovered from. They can try marriage counseling, but based on what you wrote here, she doesn't appear to give a damn.