Should I be concerned about my marriage?

lili l

Maybe my point of view will clarify a few things.

I had in two occasions, been reunited with ex boyfriends and in both cases I heard big, big words. Soulmates, dear friend, history etc.
I was not in a loving marriage, I am divorced with a child.
I did not feel that kind of "destiny" that they did, maybe cause I got burned and lost any romantic notion.

But it made me realize how much I needed too, to be close to someone from my past, my youth. Before I had all these responsibilities.

Its what the person represents, our youth, our memories, that part of ourselves we keep alive and we dont know that its long gone.
And we, they, he gets carried away with Hollywood expressions, but at the end of the day, real life is with wifey and hubby and kids and (unless they are horrible), even if we, they ,he gets tempted to live a romantic story with a bit of drama, like in the movies...at the end of the day, no one that is in his/her right mind doesnt leave his/her family that easily.

If I were you, I' d do these 3 things.
a) I d stop snooping, better not to know, trust me, sometimes a fling is just a fling and its irrelevant with your common life
b) dont feel threaten by something they shared before he met you. He is reliving it in his mind but it will blow over, trust me, and she might be a good friend of both of you (I know I was, never engaged in bad behavior with these ex boyfriends and I genuinely was touched when the wife was friendly or at least, willing to give me a chance to be a friend cause thats what I needed, a continuance)
c)Let him go through this. Its important for his personal growth to see who he is now, in reality.

If he wanted out, the mails would have been different, trust me.

Hope I helped

Nita R

Yes. He needs to stop that immediately. That is so wrong! He needs to be a one woman man. He is emotionally cheating.

I would talk to him about this and tell him how wrong it is. If he disagrees, than it's truly his loss. What would the husband of his ex think?

mary d

oh confront this fool before its too late. I know someone who was "dating" on the internet and it ended his marriage. It is not normal for him to continue his romance with his old flame over the computer. Nip this crap in the bud before it gets out of hand...then kick your mother in laws a** for meddling in your marriage. She needs to be reminded of who her son is married to...be assertive because you need to make a stand for the sake of your family.

bored at work

Yeah, you should be concerned. Talk to your husband about it. If he is "passionately" in love with you as his email claims, he should be willing to give up communication with this woman. She is bad news and the way he is talking to her is not conducive for a healthy marriage.

Even emailing romantically and fantasizing about being with another woman could be considered cheating. If he won't cut off ties with her... I would cut off ties with him... not necessarily divorce, but maybe separation for a time.

It would be really hard for you and your kids, but in the long run, it could be what opens his eyes and saves your marriage.

lilly O

that is a form of cheating dont let that happen! pack your bags secretly and have a friend watch the kids. Calmly tell your husband you feel betrayed but leave or do something I would raise hell but thats not the mature way to go. He is cheating emotionally but it is the same to me!

Would he send the email with you standing over his shoulder? NO. Would he let you read the emails? NO. Emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating in my opinion.

Mr. X

You're making a mountain out of a molehill. Leave it be. Just stay with him always, don't let him leave the house in a horny state or angry. That's standard marriage safety anyways.

Kimberly

sounds to me girl that your marriage is in trouble for sure!

I found this website that has some really tips and methods about getting your ex back and stopping a divorce. I thought it just might be up your alley and help you as well.

This website has been a great resource for myself recently and I just totally stumbled upon it by googling a few things that I was trying to fix my marriage. It's helped me with my relationship with my husband and I just thought that hopefully you would find some of the same help for your own situation.

Check it out!

I hope this helps you... I am already making some great progress within my own situation, and I know everyone is uniquely different but the advice I found here was amazing to me.

http://www.everythingaboutlove.info/Save-Your-Marriage-Stop-A-Break-Up-Get-Your-Ex-Back.php

riverrat

By snooping into his e-mails, you got what you deserve. He has two kids by you and tells you the truth about the old female friend. What about trust? Stop letting this garbage interfere with your trust and marriage. Get on with your life. Quit snooping.

Mr. Shpongadongle

THAT'S WHAT YOU GET FOR SNOOPING - STOP IT!!!!!!!!!

atherton_lover

he has already hooked up...don't worry ...a little on the side may improve his performance and want to get in better shape.

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