Should I be serious all the time?

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I don't whine - i'm all growed up.

Joking and whining are two different things.

no one can be completely pulled together all the time
talk to him...tell him you don't mean to be childish, it's just that you need to loosen up sometimes too :]

cap

you should be the person he met and not be turned into something your not. I always say AGE does make a difference. I see it all the time in here "age is just a number" That is so much bs. here is a question for you, do you like the fact that he treats you more like a daughter than a wife?

Thomas

you should be a lil serious but no to the point to where your miserable...but your human everyone goes through these emotions your husband might every once in awhile act like a lil kid

anonymous.

No dear, you shouldn't be serious all the time!

Heck, if we're all serious what will happen to all the comedians in the world???

Why don't you talk to your husband about it? Go watch a funny movie and make him laugh. I think the age difference plays a huge part in this issue. Perhaps your husband needs to live a little more. Initiate something fun to do with him and your son. Spice things up between you two.. maybe that'll help!

Well, hope this helps!

God bless :)

blatantly opinionated

You can only be yourself...It sounds like he wants to take that away from you. Don't let him. Try to talk to him about it, or get him to go to couples counseling with you.

Jasmine T

It's completely okay to whine, I mean who doesn't? being an adult doesn't mean you have to always hide what you feel and be unemotional. tell your man that you can express yourself any way you choose and if he can't accept something as simple as that then he's not acting like an adult himself

~A$HLii3-iiS-a-M0f0~

it's ok to be like that, everybody has their moments. but your husband? he seriously needs to shut up and relax.

Mike1964_l â•”â•â•—

ya its a typical female attitude

Mae

I think you should talk to him about that. He might have anger issues or something. I had a boyfriend who would never let me be silly sround him sometimes it pissed me off so much and it's stupid for him to snap at you for nothing.

marie s

Whine and vent to your friends, that whatthey are for...
A guy, especially an older one, may have no tolerance for "natural girl stuff" Maybe the age gap bothers him. Who knows?

Once again vent to you your friends.....

Doc Phil

maybe you should have noticed his seriousness before you got married or thought about whining before you do it but for gods sake do not not go through life serious all the time.we are only on this world for a short time and and it should be enjoyed to the fullest.

Giustapporre

The way I see it, being serious all the time vs. being "whiney" are two totally separate things. The way you've described it is that he perceives you as "whiney" because whenever you are "not serious" is when you are complaining about something (being "whiney"). Who wants to listen to someone complaining or whining all the time?! Not me. And probably not him - OR YOU either!

I think he'd enjoy it if you weren't serious all the time - but just do it in a POSITIVE way, that's all.

Brittney :D

Every human being whines every once in awhile. I think as a husband he should be able to tolerate that every once in awhile. So don't feel bad for whining, everyone does it ;p

KarieD

I totally agree with you. He needs to lighten up. There is nothing wrong with that. You have feelings and you need to express them and your husband needs to understand that you are a women and he needs the learn that there are certain things that come with that.

Jonathan

Being serious all the time is not a god thing. You should only be serious when you have to be, like at work. I mean i sometimes wine myself about having to work and stuff, but sometimes we need to act our age. Don't get me wrong i mean having fun is on my schedule 24/7, its just being serious is good sometimes. Don't over do it and hey being fun makes you a positive role model for your children. Hope this helps and tell your husband to lighten up a bit =]

Mrs. M

He needs to love you either way, You should be a girl from time to time, otherwise whats the point. Life needs to be fun sometimes times are hard enough. I whine and my hubby makes fun of me but let him know how it makes you feel and maybe he'll back down abit

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I personally don't like winers too much I mean we all wine but girlish is cute and fine ( for me). I actually think it is a good break for being all serious adults like. I am older married man. I goof around with my kids all time , it makes life much more fun.

Captain S

Then you, in turn, have to remind your husband that he's your husband, not your father. I know you didn't specify his exact age, but as a guy in your husband's age range who has dated women in your age range, I know we can have a tendency to come across too paternally at times, It's as much an equal-distance struggle for him to stifle that urge and be supportive as it is for you to stifle your occasional urge to whine. And let's face it, I don't care what age you are, EVERYBODY whines sometime. Remind him of that; you'll be fine.

ShortnSweet

Classic example of: she married a father figure and he treats her like a child.

nickipettis

i see a HUGE difference between acting girlish, and whining. I would actually say you are being melodramatic on occasion, but i think all of the above are OK some of the time.

I think your husband is either reflecting HIS childhood
(what happened when he whined about something) or this is the one area in which the age difference bothers him.

ARE you forgetting yourself? that doesn't sound at all the same as "acting girlish?"

Summary, i think your husband has a big problem with this, and i think you have a small problem, doing this.

pay it forward

It is not because of his age. My son is that way to me. I am so upset because he is moving to a state that I don't think I am going to like. Everyone says it is nice there but it is a town with an airforce base & I am a real liberal. I like nice book stores & restaurants & people who are busy with good things...so I had a melt down about that..He is a Capricorn & thinks no one gets upset except me. Is husband a Capricorn cause they are just so serious? No, you should not be serious. Did you see Jim Carey on the show about autism. A person can be funny & serious both.

luckycharms

Don't ever loose yourself for someone else. Keep your personality, act the way you always would. He fell in love with you, and he should except all of you. Acting silly, girly, sarcastic, or playfully whining... it's all part of you, and it's what makes you unique, attractive, and fun to be around. He might be having some issues of his own related to a possible midlife crisis or even being unsure about being in a relationship with a younger women. Make him forget about it, do something to get him re-interested in you for you.

lbclerk

lighten up or go find yourself a toy to play with or another playmate, sounds like he is too serious

Chantel

girls are allowed to whine. i whine when im upset or dont want to go to dinner with my in-laws. its just another way for me to get my emotions out without screaming.

sparkwing_dimond

i think its perfectly ok, we all have our moments. Personally when i have those moment my boyfriend pats me on the head(yes he knows it bugs me) and then he will offer to get me a soda. We all have that in us. My boyfriend will whine when its time to get up for work sometimes. Its not an everyday thing and as long as it doesn't become an everyday thing then its fine. Now if your husband starts saying things like act like adult you need to tell him you are frustrated and needed a minute and you don't need him to remind you that you are an adult. You need to discuss with him how him talking to you like this makes you feel.

Mitch

well whining does look bad when i see a grown woman doing it in public but if your at home alone with him i dont see why its such a big deal.

vinz gonza

what you can do is talk to him nicely.

a couple must exchange their heart to understand each other. let him to understand you and you must understand him . there is none of you are wrong.

;D

vinz

rawritschupie

only be serious if you see a mothman. if you do, then screme for your life because your going to die. maybe your husband is the mothman

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