Should I confront my cheating wife?? she's been sleeping with my so called best friend for over a month.?

Ray

Confront her??? You need to leave her; and leave the band too. That friend is NOT your friend.

casabong

Take evidence of what you are saying, that they are cheating you and betraying your trust.

File for divorce without them knowing.

They have been shitting on your head, stop wasting your time.

jbellbeauty2

Hell yeah! i'm surprised you haven't confronted her yet. you guyz are married and you should have brought this up when you first heard of it, don't accuse her until you have all the facts. you definetley should have better communication than that.

longneck242002

O f course if you care about her.

rock_manlove

Well, first KICK ur BEST FRIEND, what kind of frnd he is, such a bas*ard.... u shuld be knowing ur BEST FRIENDs character and ur wifes character very well. think logical n find who more responsible for it.

then think on dealing with ur wife. if u feel that she is worth to start caring again, comforting again, she was innocent but problem was more becoz of ur frnd. then talk to her wth cool head, tell her u know everything, let her realize that it was wrong n she shuld value u more than any other, if she has any problem wth u then best way is good meaningful discussion n find way to ge the relations charm back. i guess its a right way if u value ur married relation.
n if she dont care u at all no matter how much u r ready to for her, then she isnt worth....sorry to say.

Bottom line is, take it seriously, try solving wth cool head, n get the third person out becoz wife is more important, isnt it? Give her a chance, making her realize that u cant tolerate any more, donâ€™t let her insult u again n again by she continuing the same, donâ€™t insult ur self, give her a chance that she can prove to u n u can prove her a good relation, solve her problems

wife is important, so better to take understanding n caring way instead of making it more complecated.

The Shadow

A men like doesn't need a wife like yours a blame her on everything because if she didn't like she could have told you that his friend is proposing her. so leave her and you will find someone who won't cheat on you. remember she will do it again even. if you want to forgive her it's up to you brother once a cheater always a cheater

ramirezy

I AM SO SORRY!! I just went thru something similiar with my husband, only the other women was not a friend (AT ALL)., but the hurt is still the same. Yes! you do need to confront the situation. You can not go on like it does not exist. It is not healthy for you or anyone else involved. First of all you need to pray and talk to GOD. I don't know if you are a believer of God but he is real and he loves you. Tell him your hurt and pray to him for help and guidance. Then attend to the issue within your marriage and talk to your wife. You will probably hear all kinds of justifications for the infideltiy and so on and so forth. Only you can be the judge if they are true or not. You can not allow other people to decide for you what you will and will not accept. You need to let her know that she has hurt you, that what she has done is wrong and un neccesary. That if she was that un happy that she could have come to you and told you rather than cheat. You are going to go thru your mourning process. It begins with hurt, suprise and shock, then anger and the blame game, eventually you will begin the healing process. It is not going to be easy at all, and though it does not seem like it right now you can make it thru this.
As far as your friend, CUT HIM OFF AND CUT HIM LOOSE!!!! Let me tell you something. If he can betray you with such depth to defile your marraige vow and smile in your face like it is all good then he is not nor has he ever been a true friend to you!!!!! I am not telling you what I think I am telling you what I personally know CUT HIM LOOSE!!!!!
I know people might say that if you can forgive your wife you could forgive him. Forgiving him is one thing but letting him back in your life is another. IF you choose to eventually work on your marriage and work it out with your wife then do so. My husband and I were on the verge of divorce for close to a year. I did not even speak to him (and I mean not a word) for 4 months when I found out, and then I did the worst thing that I could do, I allowed my anger to get the best of me and cheated on him with my ex now tell me that was not stupid. Two wrongs don't make a right and even though he was wrong for the affair and eventually the baby that she bore from my husband as the result of the affair I knew better and I was wrong. I gave that to God and he has forgiven me and I have forgiven my self and my husband and I are working on our marriage, but if God had not been put in the forefront of this problem my marraige would be non existant and we would have been another statistic for the rising divorce rate.
All I can say is you have to know within yourself what you will and will not tolerate. What your worth is and do not stay in this marriage if you think that you won't be able to forgive (eventually) and go on. I am going to pray for you my friend and I really hope that all works out for you. I again am so sorry for your pain and I want you to know that yes it gets better and yes you will make it thru this and yes you will be stronger, wiser, and better for it in the long run. Good Luck and God Bless you
Yohanna Ramirez

NutstersChick

No Fair!
Wot a heartless *****.

No matter wot U say or how U put it U have 2 say something.
Even if it is 2 clear the air & let them know that this is unacceptable.

Make yr feelings V clear if U don't U may regret not putting yr views across & carry the hurt around with U 4 years 2 come.

Stuff the band this is yr marriage going down the drain.
Good luck & rem U did nothing wrong.

jacky

well this is a tough one. usually i would say let it go and pretend nothing happened. but if she is still doing it what the hell? u re not going to lose anything anyway if u tell her.

bluez

First, you tell her you know...then you kick him out of the band or you leave...then you tell your wife she's a worthless piece of sh*t and divorce her.

dianadgenius

this is not acceptable but first you need to know that u have to get a lawer before doing it and good luck!!!

waterboy

are you stupid? that`s what your wife thinks of you? and some friend! get your head out of your ***!

older&wiserforit

Hell yes, confront both of them!!!! He is not your best friend, he wouldn't be sleeping with your wife if he was.

Out of commission

Your life is hell, their lives are bliss. Who's in the wrong here? Yes, confront her and him. Then pack your bags and get out. Let them have each other. Just protect the children if there are any.

curious

What do you mean should you confront her? Gee, ah, no. Just let things go on and let her think she must be a real smart one to be pulling this one off. And hey, what about your so called best friend? How long can you hold off before slamming him up side his head with a guitar? Confront both of them. You have nothing much else to lose but you need to keep something, like your pride.

free_angel

A musical instrument isn't the only thing this dude is playing. Yes you should confront your wife, looking the other way isn't going to solve anything. Your so called best friend and wife betrayed you and did so behind your back. "Fool me once and it's your fault, fool me again and it's my fault."
These are wise words to live by.

tranka007

no let them carry on you are obviously a mouse if you need to ask.

Mycroft

Oops. Scratch one band and one marriage. Better get a lawyer before making the confrontation, you'll need advice on how to divide assets/band breakup.

qwq

first did you find them cheating on you with your eyes and ears??if so ,i think both your friend but in the first place your wife is incorrect with you
next you can never trust them anymore because if she is a cheater she will do that again and again so this is not a person to stay married to
have a god lawyer but first a good detective and find yourself an other band
this is only an opinion
easy for me to speak but not so easy for you to do
good lock

Kittie_Nash

Confront or she will think its ok. if she dont stop kick her to the curb.

my4boyz1234

of course you should confront her..what are you waiting for if he was any kind of friend he wouldn't be sleeping with your wife I hope there are not any kids involved.

Gorgeous

Well of course you should. She's your wife. This is NOT acceptable behavior. Good luck.

John H

You should be!

Lady Hewitt

Ask her and see if she admits it first if not than confront her and ask her why???? if she is not interested in stopping or saving the marriage by counseling and stuff then by all means divorce her and let her go!

Andie

Confront and ask why???

geraldine c

YES you should confront her, tell her you know and end it with her, if she is cheating on you she is a s**g. And your so called best friend is a W**ker! Ditch the both of them and move on you are two good for them!

ramesh vishvas

nature has told u lesson,take the cue from king GORAKH NATH,same type of incidence keep on happening since the start of civilisation, but we never learn from these things,better to confront ur-self.

babydoll121070

Couple questions on this on? How do you know? Did you actually see it or is it something that someone said?

Are there problems between your wife and you that you are either aware of or could there be something you are not aware of?

Do you spend time together? When is she finding the time to cheat on you?

The best thing to do is ASK her about it, ACCUSING her is just going to make her shut down and not talk at all, she will go into defense mode real quick. But before asking her about this, ask yourself some of the questions I have asked you here and any other ones that you can think of!

Gingerbread Man

you need to ask?

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