Should I confront my husband?

eyeofra1969

Your husband may have set this account up a long time ago and has since forgotten about it. Let it go. It is not that big of a deal

jake

He's embarrassed. I don't get why people have these pages anyway.

slaton11

Give it up. People always sign up at new things and if you don't use it you forget about it. It is very possible that he signed up a long time ago (like you said) and REALLY did forget about it. And as far as him getting all dodgy about it, I'm sure if he were to question you about something you had no idea about and kept on about it you would get dodgy too. Show him the site and encourage him to use it, assuming it really is his.

Sarge1572

I looked at the list of questions you posted. WOW! Did you know that nearly 1/3 of them is about your husband or your marriage?

And in just two years!!!!!!

RUN! Don't look back. And get as far away from him as you can.

You don't trust your husband, you hate your marriage, and it's making you more and more depressed.

RUN!

jude

Well, depending on his age, if he's over 30, he's probably embarrassed about having a page on a website that is usually populated by people way younger than that. I would be.

cowboys21angel

Personally, I'd ask in a loving way. You might be wrong. He could have a friend that he let use his information so that HIS wife or g/f wouldn't find out about it. If it's old, don't worry about it. Ask, get it off your chest, then move on. Obviously you have a page, too, should he be upset?

Roxxie

It is a shameful act to be hiding a myspace page from you. I know that you will confront him with the knowledge that you know the truth. Now, what to do with the answer is the key. Focus on the trust issue and that a marriage works solely on trust.

katyllou

Maybe he had forgotten about it, you didnt find anything suspicious so dont worry. You dont need to share every single little thing together, and i dont mean that in a nasty way. Dont worry, Im sure you dont have anything to worry about xx

sweetpea

Just turn on your computer and show it to him and say wow this guy is your age and everything. Dont be accusing dont argue just be kind. If it is his page he will likely not use it or delete it b/c you found it out. Besides he had nothing on it anyway Im more than sure everything will be okay. God Bless

Jenn-Kerr

If i were you i would comfront him and ask him because its not right for him to lie to you like that! do you think he's lying because he thinks that your wondering if he's talking to other women!

Joachin Murrieta

Confront him if you want, but be prepared to answer why you were snooping...BTW why WERE you snooping?

mickey g

he might have forgot he had it, especially if it was set up a long time ago and he never logged into it again. i would ask him about it, while showing him the page, and the email address that corresponds to it. but dont be defensive about it.

WORLD FAMOUS

yes, confront him...
conflict is a good thing. people like to think of it as something bad, but its a good way to get things out.

shedevil

There is nothing wrong about confronting him about it. I would if I were you. So I suggest get a print out of it and give it to him, if there's nothing to worry about it then why would he lie about it?

razor_sharp_redhead

I'm not sure why some people feel the need to lie about things - even when they're not that big of deal. I would confront him and reassure him that you only want the truth, you're not out to look for something to be mad about. He's probably just afraid that you're going to be mad and feels that lying will protect him from your anger. What some people don't understand is that truth is usually more welcome and lying will only make things worse.
I would say ask him to respect you and admit your fears, ask him if you can go through his email accounts and cell phone with him sitting right beside you. There should ~not~ be secrets between spouses, it just causes doubts (even there don't need to be)
I totally disagree with people who tell you that you don't need to know every thing about each other...when your spouse has a profile on MySpace you have a right to know why. 100% transparency with your spouse is the only way to go.

Good luck!

Krystal

It sounds like the real problem is distrust in your relationship. If I had to invade my husband's privacy and "search" his email, I would be looking a bit more into my own insecurities. I feel you should speak with your husband. Don't come to him accusingly, but share that you are feeling insecure and look into what is triggering these feelings. God Bless and best of luck. Marriage is work.

If he is lying about this, what else is he lying about? You definitely need to confront him, honesty is everything in a marriage.

crodriguez1010

Maybe he set it up and forgot about it. It happens. You can find out when was the last time he looked into it. It says it on the page itself. Ask him about it again, but don't accuse him of anything.

FalleN AngeL

I would confront him. There is no reason for him to be lying about it to you. He should be honest and be able to communicate with you. You deserve that much.

lunatic

Tip of the iceburg.

Eazy Duz It

You should confront him. Even if it is a small thing like that, he is stilll lying to you. He is your husband and he lied to your face TWO times. But maybe the problem isn't just myspace, it is that you guys didn't have a lot of trust in your relationship in the first place. But the bigger question here is. why would your husband get a myspace and then deny it?

JACQUELINE T

Girl,I would in a heartbeat! Stand your ground! I can't stand a liar! I think I'd rather have a man slap me than to lie to me. One lie leads to thousands of lies! God bless you!

Alice223

yes but if hes unfaithfull leave him your kidding your self if is going to work

free_angel

Confront him, do not look the other way pertaining to his lies.

almondjoy_1000

Maybe he really forgot he set it up.

If he hasnt' logged in on it in a long time. Really, men forget the stupidest things sometimes.

jasminetablen

I don't know why he wouldn't fess up unless he has something to hide...It really isn't a big deal, I'd let it go....but that's just me!! Some things are just not worth getting upset about..

Lady Hewitt

Yes confront him and tell him what you found. Tell him how this makes you feel and see what he has to say.

Nurse Autumn Intactivist NFP

I would, but be nice about it, maybe he was embarrased, but I dont know why. I'm not being mean, but that is something pretty dumb to lie about. I would start the conversation like "Did I do something that made you not trust me? Because I dont understaand why you feel the need to lie to me about that." that way he does't feel like you are attacking him. Good luck

somepoopheadstolemyscreenname

okay, I know you're getting lots of mixed opinions on here, but here's what I think you should do:
He lied to you. If you don't confront him, he may think he got away with it and who's to say he won't lie about anything else? I mean, don't divorce him (like one person said)- this is something you two can work out. I don't feel he should have anything to hide from you though. You deserve to be told the truth. If you don't tell him, you'll be holding in this anger as well, and it WILL come out somewhere down the line, but in a more violent way (trust me, the feeling of mistrust won't just go away). Your best bet is to calmly tell him the situation, tell him you wouldn't be mad if he was honest, and get through it that way. If that doesnt help, there's always counseling. Good luck & I hope this helps!

p.s. be sure not to accuse him! perhaps he did it a long time ago and he forgot! he only has tom as a friend anyway... or maybe he just did it so he could see your profile, and now he feels dumb. Maybe it'll be an inside joke later on down the road. :)

scoobie

I'm trying to imagine what I would if that same situation occured between me and my husband. I would personally confront him becuase I couldn't live with all the thoughts spinning around my head creating all sorts of horrible scenarios. I think by not confronting him you will end up carrying all these yucky feelings inside of you and you'll never have any resolve. You would probably end up acting different from your husband, as well, which could make the relationship worse. The fact that your husband became so defensive about your previous confrontation makes me wonder if he really was up to no good. For example, if I post a message with no harmful intents then why would I be defensive if my spouse questioned me about it? However, if I was trying to hide something, I'd end up over-reacting. There's no need to over-react if you're not guilty, at least that's the way I see it.

â™¥Sofia & Theo's Mommyâ™¥

Ask him why he lied to you. Tell him you are not stupid and that this can ruin your trust in him if he doesn't fess up no matter if the reason is lame.

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