Should I confront my wife?

Dan M

I'd confront her asap

Truth Hurts

Yes you should confront her because even though she hasn't had physical contact "yet" this is still cheating.

chemicalimbalance001

You should message the guy with her phone. I guarantee he will wet his pants.

Sheepdog

Don't confront your wife.

Contact the staff at the TV show "Cheaters."

They'll set up the surveillance, and then you can bust in on her, with camera, at their hotel room.

You have a much better chance at getting everything in the divorce settlement that way.

cobweb

Rather than 'confront', you and your wife need to talk.

You need to tell her that you know and that this is eroding the trust within your relationship. She needs to know how you feel. That you are unhappy. That you fear losing her. That you are worried and anxious.

She needs to tell you how she feels, why she is doing it, what she is gaining from all this. You need to listen to her answers!

This is not normal behaviour for a happy wife and will not make a happy marriage. Please discuss this with her. She is obviously not happy. There is obviously something missing in her relationship with you which is making her do this. You and her need to find out what the problem is and try to solve it together. You are obviously unhappy too.

Please try not to react with anger although you are hurt. Please try to encourage a supportive atmosphere where worries can be shared and solutions found.

Wishing you the very best of luck

Yoyo

Text message the guy and tell him you know about him and tell em whats up. She can find out that way.

daljack -a girl

Marriage is not a game.....if you think you're wife is being unfaithful you need to talk about this with her.

Unless you're trying to find a way out of the marriage.

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she's addicted . it's lust. give her a reality check .

Ken W

I have been dealing with question alot latley in counseling, the internet has opend a whole new cheaters paradise.
You deffinatly need to discuss this with her( in a level headed peaceful way) but, meeting the other man is only asking for trouble, and I see it 2-3 times a week. This is the time to seek a repair, before it is too late. I actualy have one couple who have been thru this 4 times ! the solution for them was getting rid of the computer. This is drastic, but visitors from chat rooms are not benifical to a good marriage.
share your feelings, see if there is something she needs from you shes not getting. your feelings are very valid !
Talk , peacfuly talk. Ill be pulling for you

H O P E

I think best is discuss and make an agreement

carl j

Absolutely. Either she is your wife or she is not.

She cannot have the best of all worlds.

If she does not admit it and/or will not stop immediately, then you may as well tell her that the marriage is over. She has to make the choice, not you.

crapsake

Hi there Skoot, I am so sorry to hear about the problems your are having with your wife. It is bad enough that your wife has been texting and chatting on the IM with this guy behind your back, but hell, how could she send him nude pics!!!????? That is so wrong! Has she told the bloke that she is a married woman? It seems like you already cannot trust her! You have two options here: You can either, confront her about all of this and let her know that it is unacceptable, and do all you can to stop it. Or you can keep an eye on her, and wait to see how far she will go. If she arranges to meet this guy, be there waiting for them, and see what they do? Then..... let her see you have caught them out. Any decent wife or husband would not go behind their partner's back by chatting with or seeing someone else, (or possible more). Sorry, but it sounds like your marriage is already under threat. If you think that it is worth it, you can do your best to save your marriage, or you can end it and find someone who will be loyal and trustworthy. You cannot live like this!

anthony r

Well answer this, do you thing confronting her would do any good. In my opiion it would not. Maybe now that she knows that you know, she will only get more clever. I wolud say that seeing that your wife is sendinh naked pics to some guy, that your marriage is already over. She has broken that trust between you two. And do you think that it will ever come back. Really, are you saying that when you are at work your not going to wonder what she is up to. Or when she says she is going here or there leaving you alone in the house, that you won't think she is with some guy. And when you ask her what she did today, are you going to be listenibg for something that just does not sound right, something that just bdoes not fit. That trust has been broken, And I' sorry to say, i think so is your marriage. Maybe it is time to leave. Unless you can live with that, without driving yourself crazy that is. Good luck

blackcatsarego

tell her you know and give her an ultimatam

solus01

this indicates deception and the slippery slope down to the court house for 50% of all your SH1T

sugarbdp1

Yes U should Hubby did that years ago the women sent him money to go to Ohio on Valentine's Day Cash in an Envelope I noticed her name opened the envelope & I was $250 Richer I confronted him he said he had no intentions of ever going to meet her but he gave her our home address & phone number I was upset I wrote her & told her how I felt & within a few days their talking came 2 an end she thought we were thru rude awaking when I said 2 her thank you for the money I got it he didn't lol omg was she upset about that but what could she say about it lol..It's been 10 lomg years since then & we'll be Married 14 yrs on 9-11....Good Luck

jgreenkc@sbcglobal.net

been there buddy

it will never be the same
sorry

mahrbc

Absolutly confront her. The same situation happened to me. If you don't talk to her about it, it will become the only thing you think about.

I like it hardcore!

confont her....theres no trust anyway cos u wont trust her on the internet
cheating scumbag....hate the internet it just ruins lives...grrrrr

Ollie

I'd have a word with her and nip this one in the bud before it's too late. Just tell her you know whats been going on, and that itll be game over if she actually meets this guy. The onus will then be entirely on her.
Best of luck to you mate. You must already be distressed by this awful situation.

howinteresting

you have every right to confront your wife about this. even though she is not physically cheating on you (or is she? be wary of where she's going), she is technically cheating on you by sharing her body (the naked pics) with another person. if you are going to confront her and seriously seeking divorce, confront her with your lawyers present and do this discreetly so things can go on smoothly. or if you want to just confront her without a lawyer (and you want to salvage your relationship with her), make sure you're emotionally stable (i know, that's very contradicting) to make sure your future actions is something that you will not regret; you're the better person of this relationship and make sure you act like one too. hear her side of the story as well and go to counseling. you two do need it.

well, just basically, do whatever you feel is right.

good luck to you.

Dms

she is your wife ,you have all the right in the world to ask, i wouldent trust her..text messages, im's nude pics, whats next?

vaye

I say that she is already untrustworthy! and regardless if u chose to confront her or not she still cant be trusted. I believe that is a form of cheating. Can you really be comfortable with that? Good luck..

twinmom

Yes, you should confront her, and do not back down until she tells you everything and you two clear the air. She needs to know this is not acceptable. You will not tolerate it. And, she has to work on whatever is bothering her in your marriage.

lovelylady

Think you should try and ask her if anything wrong in your relationship first. If she denies it you should let her know that you are aware of this liason and things between you are finished. If you stick by your guns I bet shell be begging to come back in no time. Good luck!!

*never give up*

confront her before she screws up!!

Rob

Hell yeah you should because you need to know if she is able to be trusted and then get the reason for her doing these things that may very well end a marriage if she is serious about doing this thing and also figure out if you really want to work through this event or probably go through with a divorce.

tannedknight45

I think you should hire a Private Detective to look into this further. If you have enough evidence, then confront her.

Oh yeah, you should confront her before she takes it a step further and meets the guy.

susie

Yes...I think that you should confront her and let her know that you are aware of what has been going on. Tell her how you feel about it and that it must stop now. Maybe she has not met the guy or anything but still she is not doing right by you. Let her know that if it does not stop and you find that it is still going on you will not be able to trust her again and it could end your marriage..especially if she meets this guy.

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